Would you fly to another country to meet a potential soul mate?

No. I wouldn't mind getting away from where I am but not to meet a dopey soulmate. Oh yes I've talked to you for 10 minutes on line and we've texted once. You're the missing part of my soul. Haha no.
 
First, I'm not looking for a soul mate, although the idea of having one is alluring. But traveling a long way to find one is unlikely to happen. The odds of connecting on a soul mate level with any one particular person are not in your favor. Most of us are not meant to be with each other.
 
Not going to happen. I’ve planned trips to include visits to meet friends I met first online but my soul has a mate and she’d be pissed if I pulled a stunt like that.
 
When I settled in Montana from Chicago, I met a guy who was single for years, never went on a date that I know of, and must have radiated some vibe that he was a loner, and had no place for a woman in his life. Everyone liked him. He was a Hell of a nice guy, always polite and not at all socially awkward. Owned his own business, but never developed a close friendship with any person, male or female. Then after 30 years of the the time I knew him, he suddenly marries a Filipino woman who was something like a mail order bride. Well not quite like that. It was some kind of arranged marriage service, which required him to fly to the Philippines, meet with her family, and I don't know what else. He was always private in that way. They were married and came back to the US. They were both very private, and all I could see was that they appeared to be happily married for the remaining ten years I spent in Montana before I left. Of course I've lost track of them for the last 15 years, but my guess is that they are as happy now as they appeared to be before.

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bowmore said:
I found my soulmate on a grief recovery chat room. We had both lost our spouses ab out the same time. I was anxious to meet her, and would have gone anywhere, but as luck would have it, she lived 40 miles from me :)
We just celebrated our 15th anniversary.
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congratulation's bowman , that's lovely story x
 
Alligatorob said:
Thanks for the response, and hearing a real experience makes it sound more rational than just speculating.

In similar circumstances would you do it again?
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Similar in what way? At the time, I was in my 40s. Online dating wasn't the zoo it is now. Having a serious relationship was a priority in my life. I had enough money to travel.

I guess yes.

But now, I wouldn't. I've learned that all that immigration stuff is too much hassle. You're really taking a chance, because your application could be denied. And, as I mentioned, it made one person suspect my motives.

And, from my perspective now, I don't believe that men would do the same for me. For example, when I lived on an island in Canada, men balked at paying for the ferry to come and visit me. Yet they expected me to take the ferry to visit them. Makes you wonder....
 
I met my husband online. We exchanged numerous messages over a few months. He was living in Toronto, I was in Ottawa. I had planned to drive to London On to visit my daughter (she was in college there) and he suggested a stop in Toronto to meet, which I did. He was heading to Texas for the winter and invited me to visit him there, which I did. We spent hours and hours walking and talking. That was in 2003 and we still spend hours and hours talking. I have never been happier.
 
Victoria said:
It's too dangerous to do that now. Too many scammers. But I did meet my hubby when he was here studying. He's from Switzerland. We dated and fell in love then I went to live in Switzerland with him for a while and loved it! And now we live here in the US. :giggle: Doing it that way I would say yes because our relationship started out in person, not online. But to fly to another country to meet someone you've never seen in person, no, I would say have him come to you. He's the man, he should come to you first. Then see him in person and get to know him. (y)I would like to go back to Switzerland again, things are too crazy here in the US right now.
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I think you're right in all respects, (liked the make him come over comment too! :) ).
 
perChance said:
It makes me think of this song:

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@perChance That was very nice, indeed! And although it speaks of a train, (it sounds like it took place before flying was commonplace), that’s my thought too. There are places in the world where one can get to a foreign country without the need to fly. In a few, very few, spots one can even walk or drive to a whole other continent. Boats and ships also are options in places. But I digress.

I know that the question is basically rhetorical but so many of the responses seem sincere. I know mine was, for sure. I just figured that if I desire but fail to find love in my own back yard, then maybe I’m not looking in the right place. I also am familiar with much of Mr Knopfler’s other works but this one was a surprise and a quite pleasant one at that! Thanks so much for sharing!
 
Farrah Nuff said:
@perChance That was very nice, indeed! And although it speaks of a train, (it sounds like it took place before flying was commonplace), that’s my thought too. There are places in the world where one can get to a foreign country without the need to fly. In a few, very few, spots one can even walk or drive to a whole other continent. Boats and ships also are options in places. But I digress.

I know that the question is basically rhetorical but so many of the responses seem sincere. I know mine was, for sure. I just figured that if I desire but fail to find love in my own back yard, then maybe I’m not looking in the right place. I also am familiar with much of Mr Knopfler’s other works but this one was a surprise and a quite pleasant one at that! Thanks so much for sharing!
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I think the song was about a mail order bride in the pioneer days. I am a big fan of Mark Knopfler - and love.
 
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