Would you pay to attend a wedding?

I've seen several articles saying that the costlier the engagement ring and wedding, the higher the chance of divorce. I've also seen it suggested that some couples want a wedding more than the marriage. On the positive side, it was suggested that saving money on the wedding and having a good honeymoon was a pointer to a long marriage.

Of course, statistics can be made to show anything.
 

Kadee said:
The last one we was invited to 12 years ago …was DH Son , his wife demanded we pay $2.500 to attend what would have been a drunks / drug party , her father started drinking / smoking …at 7 am each day and didn’t stop till he went to bed
( whole family are drunks or druggies )

We declined ..with a huge no thank you ….I don’t think I’m above anyone ….but living / social. ….standards are about that sort of company

I even went to the trouble of returning the invite with a big noticeable ✅✅✅ not able to attend …


( she demanded we pay the airfares for their week away )
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So it's DH's family affair, not your family's. Why are you the one returning and marking the invite.
Demanding $2500? Are you rich? This type of invites usually usually happen to people that are known to have more money than the rest of the family/friend group.
 

I am taking it that you mean the wedding reception? If that’s the case, I guess we would, if it was in place of the gift, but knowing my wife, she would take a gift also.
 
Brookswood said:
I would not go to any wedding where people like me are invited to attend.
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On a more serious note, I go to weddings, birthdays, etc. to celebrate something good that is happening to friends and family. It’s not about the cost or the gifts or paying for this or that. IMO, if a couple thinks they need to charge people for attending their wedding, then the wedding itself is far more extravagant than it should be. Gifts should always be given from the heart and optional.

Jeff Bezos’ wedding is reported to cost about 50 million dollars. How many women did he marry? Imagine if polygamy were allowed. Even Bezos might find the cost unbearable. Each additional new wife would probably want a bigger and fancier wedding than the last one. He’s blow right past 100 million for a wedding in no time. He might even have to go back to work!!!
 
MACKTEXAS said:
A story was on the noon news about a couple who sold tickets to their wedding, ranging in prices from $57 to $997 each. This would help the couple with the cost of their wedding and eliminate the need for guests to buy wedding gifts. They took in over $100,000.00!

Would you pay to attend a wedding like this?

Maybe it's not a bad idea, since most people would spend more than $57 for a gift anyway, and many of the gifts may not ever be used.

Here is a link to a Youtube video about it.
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I would not, under any circumstances, buy a ticket to a wedding, even if it is in lieu of a gift.

I wonder why the different ticket prices? Perhaps the cheap ticket holders end up sitting in plastic chairs, munching a moldy cheese sandwich, watching the high payers scoffing caviar and lobster :unsure::)
 
Trish said:
I would not, under any circumstances, buy a ticket to a wedding, even if it is in lieu of a gift.

I wonder why the different ticket prices? Perhaps the cheap ticket holders end up sitting in plastic chairs, munching a moldy cheese sandwich, watching the high payers scoffing caviar and lobster :unsure::)
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:ROFLMAO: As for me, I just thought a $57 ticket would be better than having to pick out a gift. I don't really want to go to any weddings, and the older I get, the less I do things I don't want to do.
 
MACKTEXAS said:
:ROFLMAO: As for me, I just thought a $57 ticket would be better than having to pick out a gift. I don't really want to go to any weddings, and the older I get, the less I do things I don't want to do.
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I agree, if they were asking for a donation rather than a gift but, there must be a reason for different ticket prices.

Imagine, not wanting to look like a skinflint, so you buy a $997 ticket only to find yourself surrounded by $57 ticket holders! You'd be wishing you had said no thanks, that's my hair washing day. :cool: :)
 
Does a $997 ticket get me a better seat than the $57 dollar ticket?

In my opinion it's wiser to have a less elaborate wedding/honeymoon and put the money into buying a home, unless of course it is only a short term relationship.
 
MACKTEXAS said:
A story was on the noon news about a couple who sold tickets to their wedding, ranging in prices from $57 to $997 each. This would help the couple with the cost of their wedding and eliminate the need for guests to buy wedding gifts. They took in over $100,000.00!

Would you pay to attend a wedding like this?

Maybe it's not a bad idea, since most people would spend more than $57 for a gift anyway, and many of the gifts may not ever be used.

Here is a link to a Youtube video about it.
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No.

Don't we kind of do that because you take a gift?

But pay an entrance fee? No. Madness.
 
Jules said:
Did you?
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Jules said:
Did you?
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NO … @Jules and we haven’t spoken a word to them since …..oh and before the demand …for the money , we’d booked a motel in the very small town miles from anywhere where here parents lived / wedding was going to be ….and DH son contacted Us ..saying did you book one of the motel rooms ? …yes we did ….and he said No …you can’t have the room they are reserved for guests only .
 
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Murrmurr said:
When I was a child, if a couple preferred cash over gifts, they specified on the invitation that it would be an Apron Wedding. That meant that, during the couple's first dance, the bride would be wearing an apron with pockets all around it for people to put money in.

Was that just my family?
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No. In some Italian weddings the bride wore a wrist bag which meant put money it. We had our wedding and at the time it was traditional for the announcer to say "Okay. It's time for the money dance". We were way too embarrassed to have a money dance as we felt that was too greedy on our end. I do have to agree with those who say, sure, I'll give you $60.00 in lieu of buying a gift.
 
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VaughanJB said:
No.

Don't we kind of do that because you take a gift?

But pay an entrance fee? No. Madness.
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Charging an admission to a wedding is in poor taste and got poor responses from the audience in the video.

I don't usually attend weddings, but if I received an invitation from someone who mattered to me, I would most likely acknowledge the occasion by mailing a card and a gift.

The video started off by explaining that a ticket was instead of a gift. In 2025, $100.00 is sort of a minimum amount to spend on a wedding gift, so it would be cheaper for me to mail a wedding card and a note explaining that I wouldn't be able to attend, but was enclosing $57 for a ticket, since I understood it was their preference over a gift. If they didn't like that response, that's okay too. . .

So, playing by their own rules, I would come out ahead, unless of course, I chose to do nothing at all.
 
MACKTEXAS said:
The video started off by explaining that a ticket was instead of a gift.
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Yeah, it's all about the ruse, isn't it? I mean, you buy a gift, but the idea in your head is that you're helping to set up the newly wed couple for the challenges ahead. They need crockery, they need cutlery, they need whatever......

But to have that reduced to an entrance fee means you're not contributing anything but cash, and that feels cheap somehow.
 
VaughanJB said:
Yeah, it's all about the ruse, isn't it? I mean, you buy a gift, but the idea in your head is that you're helping to set up the newly wed couple for the challenges ahead. They need crockery, they need cutlery, they need whatever......

But to have that reduced to an entrance fee means you're not contributing anything but cash, and that feels cheap somehow.
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Yes, I know. They did end up with over $100,000, so I guess they can buy a lot of crockery and cutlery, etc.

However, they might want to examine how they value relationships, if only friends who pay are welcomed in.
 
For my son's wedding, he insisted that the male participants (including the dad's) all be in tuxedos, he paid for all that, including parking and lunch. They also paid for airfare to the wedding destination, outside of Ixtapa,Mexico. They paid for a week's worth of lunch/dinners and partying, about $90k.
 
OldOld said:
So it's DH's family affair, not your family's. Why are you the one returning and marking the invite.
Demanding $2500? Are you rich? This type of invites usually usually happen to people that are known to have more money than the rest of the family/friend group.
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No way ..we had just had a modest home built after selling our home in the city ( Adelaide SA ) ….in fact we didn’t have enough to pay a contractor $9 .000 for put up our side Thats 42 mtrs and 2 short fences across the front of our home , so we did it ourselves , in stinking hot weather …..

NO …it was all about HER …side of the family ….
The female involved told us we were RICH ..cause we had a paid for home …

They both had good jobs ……we didn’t ~ we were retired by then ( we was close to 70 then )

…it was just pure envy and greed I M O

@OldOld
 

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