Would you put your children before your husband?

win231 said:
Quite true. I can't think of one, either. But this did remind me of a woman I only saw for a couple of dates. She seemed annoyed whenever I showed my dog any affection. At first, I thought she just didn't care for dogs - which was fine with me; I don't expect everyone to be an animal lover.
But when we got home from our second date, as soon as I pet my dog, she said, "I wonder what would happen if I asked you to choose between me & that dog."
I replied, "I'd suggest you wear your seat belt & drive safely." She looked really shocked & said, "You're kidding, aren't you?"
I said, "No. If you cared about me & you weren't a selfish, thoughtless person, you wouldn't ask me to make such a choice."
She stormed off, slammed my front door & I heard her screech her tires when she drove away - while I LOL'd.
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She asked a very stupid question, and got the answer her questioned deserved, whether or not you meant what you said.
Firstly her question sounded contrived, maybe due to her having some similar experience in the past over a man and his pet, and she assumed all men were the same, but more than that, inherent in her question it seems to me, is the notion that she is going to lay the law down in any relationships, and she wished to find out early whether you were willing to "suck it up"! :unsure:
 

grahamg said:
She asked a very stupid question, and got the answer her questioned deserved, whether or not you meant what you said.
Firstly her question sounded contrived, maybe due to her having some similar experience in the past over a man and his pet, and she assumed all men were the same, but more than that, inherent in her question it seems to me, is the notion that she is going to lay the law down in any relationships, and she wished to find out early whether you were willing to "suck it up"! :unsure:
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It was amazing how quickly she showed how selfish she was with just that one remark. I showed her lots of attention during our 2 dates - really nice, pricey restaurant & all, but I knew she was one of those controlling people who could NEVER be satisfied or happy.
 
Georgiagranny said:
First of all, the love for one's partner and the love for one's children are two entirely different things.
Next, until children are adults they can't take care of themselves. It's our responsibility as parents to take care of them.
Would I run to a partner's rescue at the expense of children too young to fend for themselves? Absolutely not.
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Though you say quite rightly perhaps that love for partners/fellow parents and the children are different, one has lead to the children being born in the first place, so they are linked.
I've read about dreadful scenarios facing mothers/parents during WWII in Yugoslavia, where the "partisans", when in hiding from the Nazi soldiers pursuing them, would rather kill their own babies than allow their cries to uncover their hiding places.
Now you are talking absolute extreme situations, where if discovered the whole family including the children could be expected to be put to death, but my thinking is this, you would probably not know whether you would always put your child first unless you had to make such an appalling hypothetical choice, though you may have an instinct as to whether you might be willing to sacrifice your own life to save them, should that awful choice arise.
 

win231 said:
It was amazing how quickly she showed how selfish she was with just that one remark. I showed her lots of attention during our 2 dates - really nice, pricey restaurant & all, but I knew she was one of those controlling people who could NEVER be satisfied or happy.
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Maybe not as uncommon as we might like to think though these days, when "individuality" is king, (and dare I say it, "equality" is everything?).
 
My children are my dog and bird and if someone doesn't treat them right or shows any antagonism towards them, they are out of my life. One man kept putting down my dear Danny Boy bird. The man has been gone from my life since.
 
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