Yesterday At the Grocery Store

Shalimar said:
Hmm, BeenThere, I rather doubt it. A woman who presented herself in that fashion is unlikely to have difficulty attracting men. She may have liked your appearance. I suspect you still carry that undefinable air of command. She may have also instinctively felt you were trustworthy, and was

confident enough to open a conversation. Perhaps she is a person of high standards, just as you are. As for typical grocery shoppers, I have found they come in all forms, from scruffy to

immaculate. I think she may have paid you the compliment of being a gentleman, someone she might enjoy having a further conversation with, a cup of coffee..? There are many reasons why she may be alone for Xmas. Most of them innocuous.
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I shop at the same grocery store whenever I need to restock the pantry. I almost hope that I run into her again. Maybe our next perchance meeting will produce a little more information. I am the curious type, so I do wonder about some questions I have running through my head. The whole thing just kind of has me wanting to learn more, maybe because I thought she was very attractive and I am a sucker for attractive, well kept women.

It's perplexing to say the least. Not just because she asked me about the cantaloupe, but her way of approaching me and her appearance is still questionable to me. I have had women approach me before, but it was different. They made no bones as to why they were wanting to start a conversation. I had one lady ask me if I was someone famous because I reminded her of someone she saw in a movie or on TV, but couldn't remember who it was. Without thinking, I asked, "Jack Parr?" I said that name because my grandparents always liked him. She answered, "Just how old do you think I am?" I told her I didn't know and in fact, I didn't even know who Jack Parr was. It was just a name that I used to hear a lot. I then said if I insulted her I was sorry and would like to buy her dinner as a token of my forgiveness. We had a nice time, but I knew almost immediately that there wouldn't be a second date.
 

Well, if you not "Looking" for company, then you did the right thing. If you were, then she didn't present herself well enough.
 
Been There said:
I shop at the same grocery store whenever I need to restock the pantry. I almost hope that I run into her again. Maybe our next perchance meeting will produce a little more information. I am the curious type, so I do wonder about some questions I have running through my head. The whole thing just kind of has me wanting to learn more, maybe because I thought she was very attractive and I am a sucker for attractive, well kept women.

It's perplexing to say the least. Not just because she asked me about the cantaloupe, but her way of approaching me and her appearance is still questionable to me. I have had women approach me before, but it was different. They made no bones as to why they were wanting to start a conversation. I had one lady ask me if I was someone famous because I reminded her of someone she saw in a movie or on TV, but couldn't remember who it was. Without thinking, I asked, "Jack Parr?" I said that name because my grandparents always liked him. She answered, "Just how old do you think I am?" I told her I didn't know and in fact, I didn't even know who Jack Parr was. It was just a name that I used to hear a lot. I then said if I insulted her I was sorry and would like to buy her dinner as a token of my forgiveness. We had a nice time, but I knew almost immediately that there wouldn't be a second date.
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Did it occur to you maybe she just wanted the information about the cantaloupes like she asked?

I'm not cut out for 'these days' or locations where it seems everybody's suspicious of everybody, everyone has some kind of ulterior motive, etc., and supposed to second-guess everything everyone says or does, etc. It's damned depressing.
 

Sometimes we say things without thinking first. When someone walks up to you and asks out of the blue, “do you know how to tell if a cantaloupe is ripe?”, it just caught me off guard and my mind was elsewhere. I told her I was always taught to smell the stem and if it smells like a ripe cantaloupe, it probably is. Usually, that has worked out for me.

Then I noticed how well she was dressed and her hair and makeup was all but perfect and she smelled so nice, it just made me ask myself, who goes shopping looking and smelling like this? I have to admit, she was very attractive. I had khakis and an Oxford shirt on and a pair of black loafers. I seldom wear cologne or after shave lotion. I was also wearing a North Face jacket.

Maybe you are right. She just wanted to know if her cantaloupe was ripe. It was the only thing in her basket.
 
Pink Biz said:
Get over yourself, Been There! 😁
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I’m sitting here killing time before I leave for church and I picked up the iPad and was reading some posts when I came to this one and then I wondered, “What does that mean to “get over yourself?” Is that a derogatory comment or something someone says to another person in hopes of hurting their feelings?” It can’t be a comment that one makes to another person to be supportive.
 
I think that @Been There keeps replaying this in his mind because he is lonely. This is not the time to be making him feel worse. I am alone, a widow, I am not looking for a partner but some people don't do well with being alone. He is just looking for a friend, and is afraid that he made have messed up, there may have been a connection depending on his reaction. No, he should not have invited her to him home but maybe out for coffee or to go to church on Sunday.
 
A little different than the thread has been running. It's the thread I could find relating to the grocery store.

Egg Prices Hit A Record High, Here's Why They Are So Expensive
Story by Kristi Eckert • 12h ago

Atrip to the grocery store is guaranteed to hit your wallet pretty hard at present. Skyrocketing prices can be attributed to unceasing inflation and a range of other contributing economic factors. Egg prices are no exception; however, it's not just the usual suspects that are driving the price of eggs through the roof.

Karyn Rispoli, an editor that analyzes data in food markets, explained that egg prices have been exponentially increasing for nine weeks in a row, with the worse increases happening near Thanksgiving and going forward. To put it into perspective, the average price for a dozen eggs right now is nearly $6, whereas last year, the average price hovered at least 30 cents below the $2 mark.

https://www.msn.com/en-us/money/mar...pc=U531&cvid=04f65afe5d9b4fa3bdf0aaadef03e97a
 
palides2021 said:
They are $5.99 at Martin's (Giant) here. I have to go to Aldi's to get them for a $1 less.
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Damn, guess I'll be happy then. But I'm waiting for "Jumbos" to make a return one day.

This scenario also reminds me of a famous conductor who was offered to share a taxi with a woman, but he wasn't going in her direction.

The cab left, stopped rolled back and the woman stuck her head out of the window and said "You'll never forget this moment"

He never did, for 35 years.
 
Been There said:
Sometimes we say things without thinking first. When someone walks up to you and asks out of the blue, “do you know how to tell if a cantaloupe is ripe?”, it just caught me off guard and my mind was elsewhere. I told her I was always taught to smell the stem and if it smells like a ripe cantaloupe, it probably is. Usually, that has worked out for me.

Then I noticed how well she was dressed and her hair and makeup was all but perfect and she smelled so nice, it just made me ask myself, who goes shopping looking and smelling like this? I have to admit, she was very attractive. I had khakis and an Oxford shirt on and a pair of black loafers. I seldom wear cologne or after shave lotion. I was also wearing a North Face jacket.

Maybe you are right. She just wanted to know if her cantaloupe was ripe. It was the only thing in her basket.
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People who have started conversations with me in the supermarket typically wanted something also. I would reply (or if I had a question, they would reply) and then we'd move on. No eye contact after that. I make it a rule not to pursue relationships in grocery stores. Too many complicated people out there with mental illnesses who look normal at first, and then when you spend time with them, you get to see their real colors up close, and it might not be so "attractive" then. In addition, if someone were to tell me they're going to spend Christmas alone, then a red flag would go up in my mind. They already broke a rule I have. Don't get intimate too quickly with anyone. No exceptions. No matter the attractiveness. Beauty is only skin deep. What's behind the beauty is what counts.
 

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