Yesterday Was The 3rd Anniversary Of My Husband's Passing

OneEyedDiva

OneEyedDiva

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I really can't believe it's been three years! I was talking with my nephew yesterday and he said the same thing. He also told me he was in Newark, N.J. and saw a man who looked just like my husband. He said it was uncanny....same hair style, facial hair (husband had mustache and beard) and stature. He said if he wasn't sure my husband was gone, he'd have thought it was him. May my husband Rest in Paradise.
 

I also lost my husband three years ago last Saturday, still hurts, christmas will never seem the same. My husband also had a mustache, beard and grey hair. Add a baseball hat, many men look just like him, sometimes I burst out crying, they must wonder what is wrong with that crazy lady.
 

OneEyedDiva said:
I really can't believe it's been three years! I was talking with my nephew yesterday and he said the same thing. He also told me he was in Newark, N.J. and saw a man who looked just like my husband. He said it was uncanny....same hair style, facial hair (husband had mustache and beard) and stature. He said if he wasn't sure my husband was gone, he'd have thought it was him. May my husband Rest in Paradise.
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Sorry to learn your husband passed away three years ago! May his memory be eternal!
 
RobinWren said:
I also lost my husband three years ago last Saturday, still hurts, christmas will never seem the same. My husband also had a mustache, beard and grey hair. Add a baseball hat, many men look just like him, sometimes I burst out crying, they must wonder what is wrong with that crazy lady.
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Sorry to learn that your husband passed away three years ago. May he rest in peace.
 
Since his passing I've had "signs" blinking lights, birds, and one day it was raining right beside me, I looked around , it was not raining anywhere else. He was a practical joker, its been quiet lately I like to think that he knows that I will be okay until we meet again and that he is now in heaven waiting.
 
OneEyedDiva said:
I really can't believe it's been three years! I was talking with my nephew yesterday and he said the same thing. He also told me he was in Newark, N.J. and saw a man who looked just like my husband. He said it was uncanny....same hair style, facial hair (husband had mustache and beard) and stature. He said if he wasn't sure my husband was gone, he'd have thought it was him. May my husband Rest in Paradise.
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My condolences on your loss. My husband died 9/11/19 and what I find most comforting is the unshakeable belief he still exists somewhere, someplace. I talk to him daily and seriously believe we will meet again..as I believe for everyone. God Bless!
 
RobinWren said:
I also lost my husband three years ago last Saturday, still hurts, christmas will never seem the same. My husband also had a mustache, beard and grey hair. Add a baseball hat, many men look just like him, sometimes I burst out crying, they must wonder what is wrong with that crazy lady.
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Condolences to you on your loss. My comfort in my husband's dying 2 years ago is that he is no longer suffering and he exists somewhere and we will meet again. 🤗 God Bless
 
Like you, I to believe that we will meet again. It cannot be easy to watch someone you love suffer, my DH died suddenly, although a shock he did not suffer. God Bless you.
 
RobinWren said:
I also lost my husband three years ago last Saturday, still hurts, christmas will never seem the same. My husband also had a mustache, beard and grey hair. Add a baseball hat, many men look just like him, sometimes I burst out crying, they must wonder what is wrong with that crazy lady.
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So sorry for your loss Robin. May your husband Rest in Peace.

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@OneEyedDiva, @RobinWren and anyone who has suffered such a loss--as someone who suffered such a loss (1st hubby) in 1978. Despite the fact we were estranged at the time it hit me hard. It was just before Christmas and i had my 3 1/2 year old boys to think about--so i cried a little the first hour, then not again till i got the death certificate)
1) My heart goes out to you all.
2) Grieving varies greatly between individuals, and even same person depending on the relationship they had with various deceased loved ones in their lives.
3) Some years it is 'easier', not as emotionally loaded---but then things can happen that make the anniversary of someone's death seem more poignant. It can roller coaster "Oh, i can deal with this" one year to fresh tears the next. Not to mention things throughout the years that remind you. Just know like everything else in life--it is your
grief, and unless it is totally immobilizing you for days on end and negatively effecting your relationships with still living loved ones (especially those who also felt the loss) there is no right/wrong way to grieve nor any timeline of 'proper' grieving. With help of living loved ones, and signs from the departed we each make our own journey with grief.
 

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