You ever get lonely? I mean bone tired lonely. No one to talk to .

MACKTEXAS said:
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And yesterday, my electricity was off 15 hours from 7 AM until midnight. I still got on my laptop using my phone as a hotspot, but could only stay on a little at a time, or my battery would run down. I thought it wouldn't matter, I could get in the car and drive around to charge it, but then a rainstorm came. Also, some years back I belonged to a different forum, and got to know the people, but then it went away. So things happen.
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Would it charge as well if you just sat in the car with the engine running? I have wondered about that. Does it charge better when moving? Of course you might have to brave the rain to get to your car.
 

Babs2u said:
Would it charge as well if you just sat in the car with the engine running? I have wondered about that. Does it charge better when moving? Of course you might have to brave the rain to get to your car.
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If it was urgent, I'd do whatever it took, and things like you said. I didn't know how long power would be off, either. Fortunately, yesterday was a strange day of only 73 degrees. By now, it's usually much hotter in Texas.
 
Veronica said:
Im a weed so all I can offer you is my experiences with incontinence issues. I have a ton of experience due to the husband and other relatives. I can speak fluently on both kinds but thats a story for another day. Ive changed more diapers than I care to remember.
And I dont have kids. :D

Anyways you have three options. Pads that fit in your underwear, Depends types, and washable incontinence boxers.
Pads are for lighter issues. Depends are best if you have big issues.
But theyre a PIA when you wear pants since every time you change you have to take off the pants.
BTDT with the husband. Not fun when there are multiple changes each day.

Washable boxers work best for lighter issues. You can stretch your wearing time by placing an incontinence pad inside.
This way when you have an accident you can change just the pad. And the boxers are backup when needed.
Sorry if all this is TMI.
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Thanks V. I have tried it all and have a system that works for me. My trip to Orlando turned out great. My daughter graduated and we all survived heat, crowds, storms in traffic and my condition which suddenly seems better. It should with all the prayers I have said and the much increased physical therapy I do at home. Never took much information for me. I read fast. thanks for the advice.
 
I think this is, at least in part, the cost of aging. So much time gone, so many decisions made, so many alternate routes through life discarded.

Sometimes these things come to the surface, and you can feel lonely in a room full of people. It's a reflective time, and there's too much to explain to someone else. Perhaps it only makes sense in the big picture of a life's journey, and can't be conveyed to others in any meaningful way.

It's likely simply natural. We have more in the rear view mirror than we have ahead, and we sense it even if we're not aware.
 
I feel incredibly lonely almost all the time these days… and I live with my husband and son!
My son has autism and hates being around people, even his parents. He spends nearly all his time in his room playing computer games.
My husband can’t stand me, I guess. Since Covid hit, he spends all of his time either outside or in his room, even eating his meals there. We never talk.He doesn’t even say good morning to me when he comes downstairs to get his coffee.
I would feel less lonely living alone rather than living with 2 people who never speak to me.
 
MaidMarian said:
I feel incredibly lonely almost all the time these days… and I live with my husband and son!
My son has autism and hates being around people, even his parents. He spends nearly all his time in his room playing computer games.
My husband can’t stand me, I guess. Since Covid hit, he spends all of his time either outside or in his room, even eating his meals there. We never talk.He doesn’t even say good morning to me when he comes downstairs to get his coffee.
I would feel less lonely living alone rather than living with 2 people who never speak to me.
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Im sorry you feel like you cant leave. In the meantime, treat them like you would really bad roommates.
Ignore them. Join some clubs. Get a hobby. Do whatever gives you joy.
I can relate to being in a group and feeling alone because we had absolutely nothing in common.

I live alone but Im not lonely. Sometimes I do get bored for a minute but I can always find something.
 
Even though I'm so fortunate to have my husband here, I feel lonely too. As soon as our Autistic son was diagnosed as profound at age 3, my immediate family dropped us as their kids are perfect. We were even told from my family; "There is absolutely no way we'll ever take care of your son". We even chose the eldest (you fill in the blank) God Mother if you can believe that. All of our friends at the time found out our son is severely impaired; they scattered like roaches when you turn the lights on.

I wish I had true lifelong friends. I'm sorry to say this but if my husband, my only friend, goes before me, I'll just lose it with no one to lean on. No one. I worry all of the time. I wish I could get over all of it, but I can't.
 
MaidMarian said:
I feel incredibly lonely almost all the time these days… and I live with my husband and son!
My son has autism and hates being around people, even his parents. He spends nearly all his time in his room playing computer games.
My husband can’t stand me, I guess. Since Covid hit, he spends all of his time either outside or in his room, even eating his meals there. We never talk.He doesn’t even say good morning to me when he comes downstairs to get his coffee.
I would feel less lonely living alone rather than living with 2 people who never speak to me.

That is rough. Let's hope you can find some comfort here while you try to sort things out. I can't solve my own problems but I offer support and encouragement.
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I'm unable to solve my own problems as well. I'm so here for you too! Thanks so much. Maybe there is a way, but I don't know. Is there a way to exchange e-mails w/o posting them to the public? If there was a way, I swear we could talk each other's heads off. ❤️
 
Paulina said:
I'm unable to solve my own problems as well. I'm so here for you too! Thanks so much. Maybe there is a way, but I don't know. Is there a way to exchange e-mails w/o posting them to the public? If there was a way, I swear we could talk each other's heads off. ❤️
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If you two want to chat in private click on an avatar. When their page comes up click on start conversation.
One of the other members showed me this trick.
 
Hi! So, I'm not familiar with Avatar. So, when I click on a person, I can start a private conversation? It gives me the option to post either in general or on Avatar. Nice of one of the members to help you with this trick. Knowing me I'll click on the person's name and inadvertently post to the general public. Thanks for your help and wish me luck. Thanks again.
 
PurplePower said:
I was thinking something similar last night. In fact, I was going to write about it this morning. What’s the purpose of this existence I’m in right now? I serve no purpose. I’m incredibly lonely. I’m so afraid of ending up dependent, in a nursing home, being abused.

Just sitting outside the other day chatting with my neighbor felt so good, but those days are few and far between. I have an old neighbor who moved to senior apartments and I asked her if there are usually people just sitting around in the lobby chatting and she said no.

There is an active senior center near me, but get a bunch of old ladies together and they talk about their grandchildren which is a devastatingly difficult thing for me to hear.

I don’t know what the answer is, but I definitely know what you’re saying.
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The old ladies talk about their grand children because the old ladies don't any longer have a life of their own. They live their lives through their grand kids!
 
I copied some nice pics showing how to from Inept on the Pen Pals thread.

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