You just never know when you'll catch someone's attention.

[fancicoffee13]

Yep, that happened to me. He came over and literally sat next to me and I just acted like nothing happened. Well, today, which is the following Wednesday, we are sitting together again. I am too late in the years. Right?

 

[Georgiagranny]

Sez who? Do *we* know his name yet?

Does he have his own car to drive, his own place to live, and his own income?

 

[fancicoffee13]

Sez who? Do *we* know his name yet?

Does he have his own car to drive, his own place to live, and his own income?

Yes, those are concerns. But, for the meantime, I am assuming nothing and asking nothing. Just being as friendly to him as I would to anybody else. He has his own car, but don't know much and not asking.

 

[Murrmurr]

"I am too late in the years. Right?"

Wrong. I met my wife just a few years ago.

 

[Ronni]

You are never too late in the years. Never even if he doesn’t have his own car to drive, his own income etc, so what. Companionship costs nothing to either party and can bring pleasure to both.

Let him sit with you. Chat. Enjoy each other’s company. It costs you nothing!

 

[fancicoffee13]

"I am too late in the years. Right?"

Wrong. I met my wife just a few years ago.

So, 70's isn't crazy. My daughter will think I'm crazy.

 

[fancicoffee13]

You are never too late in the years. Never even if he doesn’t have his own car to drive, his own income etc, so what. Companionship costs nothing to either party and can bring pleasure to both.

Let him sit with you. Chat. Enjoy each other’s company. It costs you nothing!

So far, I have let him sit by me and yes, we enjoy each other's company.

 

[Pepper]

So, 70's isn't crazy. My daughter will think I'm crazy.

She's concerned about your track record, and I think has every reason to be. Sounds like a wonderful daughter.

 

[PeppermintPatty]

So, 70's isn't crazy. My daughter will think I'm crazy.

Let her think what she likes, it’s your life and your happiness. If your heart flutters while he’s around, it might be worth investigating

 

[CallMeKate]

I think your daughter may have a concern about vulnerability, maybe? She knows that your last divorce is so fresh ... if it's even final yet? So her concern is understandable.

 

[Paco Dennis]

I would keep getting interested in the things you like to do, try not to be caught up in the "romantic feelings you have when he is around. Enjoy them, play with them, but I wouldn't encourage him much. It sounds like a pet that is over enthusiastic about craving your attention and wants to make it physical. Polite touching is fine. Another thing, if he is not interested, and engage you in conversations that you are interested in, I wouldn't pay him much attention.

It's early in the morning, so I am a bit foggy...just some thoughts.

 

[katlupe]

I would enjoy him one day at a time. Age doesn't really matter.

 

[hearlady]

Yep, that happened to me. He came over and literally sat next to me and I just acted like nothing happened. Well, today, which is the following Wednesday, we are sitting together again. I am too late in the years. Right?

70 is definitely not crazy. My only concern would be that you just ended a relationship.
It's up to you but maybe tread lightly.

 

[Devi]

I dunno. If it's real, it's real. It is new, so I'd just keep checking it out. It's been, what, two times?

 

[Trish]

I don't think it's a case of "is it too late" but, more "is it too early". To the first, I would say no and to the second I would say yes, it probably is.

People are vulnerable after break-ups and need time to rebuild their lives, their confidence and to know what it is they truly want in the future. Enjoy your new-found freedom and independence and don't be in too much of a rush to give it up again is my advice but, you have to make your own choices and I wish you luck whatever that choice may be.

 

[Pepper]

Boy Crazy we used to call it, one reason why males used to be so full of themselves.

 

[Pinky]

Nothing wrong with being friends.

 

[old medic]

70 is definitely not crazy. My only concern would be that you just ended a relationship.
It's up to you but maybe tread lightly.

I was devastated by my EX leaving, and had NO desire at all for a relationship. About a year later I'm at the top of a 30 foot ladder with a bucket of concrete repointing the brickwork and these 3 girls come wandering down the street....My co-workers start flirting with them.... I was irritated that we had work to do but came down and started chatting with the one girl.......
We just celebrated 39 years together....
Enjoy the company and take it from there.....

 

[John cycling]

People are vulnerable after break-ups and need time to rebuild their lives

I feel that depends on the people and what type of break up it was.
In my view if the breakup was a long time coming, and the people evolved to be somewhere else,
then they're already at that new point and no extra time is needed to travel to where they already are.
In contrast, I was in turmoil when my spouse passed away 10 years ago and it took me some time to recover.

 

[dilettante]

It is hard for anyone to give specific advice with any credulity. We don't know where you really are in your specific situation and your emotional life, and everyone is different anyway. Sure, be safe and sane of course but sitting in a dungeon out of fear can be a pretty miserable existence. Letting in even a little light can really brighten our time of life. None of it is as simple as keeping all of the windows and doors battened down can be though.

 

[StarSong]

Nothing wrong with being friends.

I agree.

 

[fancicoffee13]

Let her think what she likes, it’s your life and your happiness. If your heart flutters while he’s around, it might be worth investigating

I like that idea. But, it will take a few years of friendship first. That is me.