Your thoughts on romantic love?

My first husband used to send me a dozen red roses on anniversaries and such when I worked in an office. I was 19. Trouble was, they were expensive and we didn't have enough to eat. I would have rather had the food and be able to pay the electrical bill and such. These days I think of flowers and all plants as beings. If the blossoms are being cut off, it's like cutting off a person's fingers or some part of them. So if I have am given flowers, I would want them to be living ones that I could keep in a pot or plant in the yard. I know my husband loves me without him giving me presents. He shows me his love every day. Just by him staying alive, it's a gift to me. I realized that when he chose not to die in surgery.

Romantic love isn't always wonderful. Sometimes the relationships are downright annoying. But that goes both ways. MarciKS, I'm sorry romantic love turned out so awful for you. I actually think that friendship is key to a good romantic relationship. Otherwise when the fascination dies down, there is nothing. My first two marriages turned out to be awful. I dumped them for being jerks to me. They got off on feeling like they had power over me. WRONG.
 

Phoenix said:
My first husband used to send me a dozen red roses on anniversaries and such when I worked in an office. I was 19. Trouble was, they were expensive and we didn't have enough to eat. I would have rather had the food and be able to pay the electrical bill and such. These days I think of flowers and all plants as beings. If the blossoms are being cut off, it's like cutting off a person's fingers or some part of them. So if I have am given flowers, I would want them to be living ones that I could keep in a pot or plant in the yard. I know my husband loves me without him giving me presents. He shows me his love every day. Just by him staying alive, it's a gift to me. I realized that when he chose not to die in surgery.

Romantic love isn't always wonderful. Sometimes the relationships are downright annoying. But that goes both ways. MarciKS, I'm sorry romantic love turned out so awful for you. I actually think that friendship is key to a good romantic relationship. Otherwise when the fascination dies down, there is nothing. My first two marriages turned out to be awful. I dumped them for being jerks to me. They got off on feeling like they had power over me. WRONG.
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I would much rather have food than flowers any day.
 

Well, here's the thing. When I was younger, I was approached by different men at different times, and it was only hours later that I realized that they were hitting on me. I've been happily married for 47 years, and it just never occurred to me to stray. So their intentions just went over my head at the time. Once, a long time ago, we were in Central Market, a rather upscale grocery store. Dave was looking at some veggies and I wandered off to check out something else. When I returned, he was chatting up a woman. Or rather she was chatting him up, and he, the aspiring gourmet chef, was expounding on whatever. When I showed up, she looked very flustered and left. I told him she was hitting on him and he said, "Really?" Yes, really. So I think, if you're content with your partner, you just might miss some otherwise obvious signals.
 
CarolfromTX said:
Well, here's the thing. When I was younger, I was approached by different men at different times, and it was only hours later that I realized that they were hitting on me. I've been happily married for 47 years, and it just never occurred to me to stray. So their intentions just went over my head at the time. Once, a long time ago, we were in Central Market, a rather upscale grocery store. Dave was looking at some veggies and I wandered off to check out something else. When I returned, he was chatting up a woman. Or rather she was chatting him up, and he, the aspiring gourmet chef, was expounding on whatever. When I showed up, she looked very flustered and left. I told him she was hitting on him and he said, "Really?" Yes, really. So I think, if you're content with your partner, you just might miss some otherwise obvious signals.
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I've been hit on so many times, it's easier for me to pick up on it. These days I stay home nearly all the time and the only ones that "hit" on me are wild turkeys and deer. Their attention is one of the reasons I still live here.
 
Not really. I think it's a matter of individual to individual respect. In prehistory in the goddess cultures when women were seen as the creators of life, then there was respect for women and society was peaceful. Once men realized that they were involved in the process of procreation women were "put in their place", and societies became warlike.
 
MarcikS....Don't be a downer....I have a grand daughter, she use to make remarks like you just did....She lost the love of her life 2 years ago..
He was not good for her....They lived together for a while, but he was a drunk at 20 years old....She had to send him home to another
State....Where he drank himself to death....Sorry, I had to say that....
She is doing well....She bought a home....And she works.....She'll get over it someday....
You will find someone, Listen to me and Gaer….I know you will find the love....
You are a Special Person....♥
 
Love, the good kind, usually comes along when we are not looking. After my boyfriend died of cancer, I never planned to be with anyone else. I went to the river to stare at water and heal myself. There was a guy standing calf-deep in the water fly fishing. I thought to myself I did not want to interfere in his communing with nature. I was sitting on a large boulder. Well, after a bit he comes up to me and says, "Have you seen any fish?" I told him that was the most unique line I'd ever heard. He grinned and said that he really did want to know if I'd seen any fish. We've been together ever since. He gave me time to heal from my loss. I convinced him to give up his job and move to the boonies with me to write books. We've been here for nearly 30 years.
 
MarciKS said:
Just out of curiosity do you all feel there's ever been a time in history where women have been respected?
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Yes, I read about it in a "dry old book" called Utopia, written by Sir Thomas More half a millennia ago! :rolleyes: .
I must dig it out to quote passages at everyone, as to a world so supposedly perfect, so long, long ago. :unsure::whistle: .
 
fuzzybuddy said:
I think men and women have a different concept of "romantic love". For men, taking out the trash is a romantic gesture. That's something women don't appreciate. Women tend to want gestures and thoughts that are out of the norm, like roses on any Wednesday, cards of the fridge, etc. Men tend to think coming home after work, and being there as signs of romance. Of course, I'm a guy.
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Things that I find romantic that my man does is, makes me feel special by:
-tip toeing in the morning so he doesn’t wake me up when he leaves at 5:30 in the morning
- asking me if I’d like something at the store
- sharing whatever he’s having just cause he knows I like it
- shoveling the driveway
- chopping and bringing in wood in mid winter
- never forgetting a holiday for an opportunity to surprise me
- picking wild lilacs @ the side of the road each spring
- changing my oil & tires
- letting me know there’s a dead animal on the road so I can avoid seeing it
- letting me have the tv control
- blowing and raking all the leaves each fall
- helping me care for the pets
- getting a treat at work and saving it all day long just for me
- trying to fix whatever is bothering me
It’s so annoying but so adorable. While not all of these may seem romantic, they are all acts of consideration. I’m so very fortunate to have him and it’s been over 30 years now.
 
Keesha said:
Things that I find romantic that my man does is, makes me feel special by:
-tip toeing in the morning so he doesn’t wake me up when he leaves at 5:30 in the morning
- asking me if I’d like something at the store
- sharing whatever he’s having just cause he knows I like it
- shoveling the driveway
- chopping and bringing in wood in mid winter
- never forgetting a holiday for an opportunity to surprise me
- picking wild lilacs @ the side of the road each spring
- changing my oil & tires
- letting me know there’s a dead animal on the road so I can avoid seeing it
- letting me have the tv control
- blowing and raking all the leaves each fall
- helping me care for the pets
- getting a treat at work and saving it all day long just for me
- trying to fix whatever is bothering me
It’s so annoying but so adorable. While not all of these may seem romantic, they are all acts of consideration. I’m so very fortunate to have him and it’s been over 30 years now.
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Awwwwww! Hang on to him! What a sweetheart!
 
Keesha said:
Things that I find romantic that my man does is, makes me feel special by:
-tip toeing in the morning so he doesn’t wake me up when he leaves at 5:30 in the morning
- asking me if I’d like something at the store
- sharing whatever he’s having just cause he knows I like it
- shoveling the driveway
- chopping and bringing in wood in mid winter
- never forgetting a holiday for an opportunity to surprise me
- picking wild lilacs @ the side of the road each spring
- changing my oil & tires
- letting me know there’s a dead animal on the road so I can avoid seeing it
- letting me have the tv control
- blowing and raking all the leaves each fall
- helping me care for the pets
- getting a treat at work and saving it all day long just for me
- trying to fix whatever is bothering me
It’s so annoying but so adorable. While not all of these may seem romantic, they are all acts of consideration. I’m so very fortunate to have him and it’s been over 30 years now.
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"Everything but handing over the tv control is a possibility!". :p .
 
grahamg said:
MarciKs wrote: I'll be waiting.
Grahamg wrote:
If it takes a while, feel free to check it out, :unsure:
To give you a flavour of what to expect, prisoners jailed in Utopia are manacled using gold chains so they come to appreciate the foolishness of coveting a metal. :rolleyes: !
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Here you go, (got a feeling you'll be in favour of policies surrounding adultery etc.):
"Would you believe it, data usage limit exceeded just as I tried to post a link", :mad:(not to worry, simply google, Utopia by Thomas more views on marriage, and you'll find the link I was given, or another one equally as good).
Top and bottom of it though, our ex.'s adultery would have turned them into " slaves" in Utopia, (an adequate punishment do you feel?)! :unsure:.
 
Phoenix said:
It depends on which Utopia one goes to. There would have to be more than just one.
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Surely not, if there were more than one, one of them would be a bit less than Utopia wouldn't they, (and here its the Sir Thomas More version being referred to anyway, not whatever version you have in mind, but feel free, to post your version "whilst the vous exists until I can get around to posting the link I tried earlier". :rolleyes:!). .
 

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