To Dye or Not to Dye (Hair)?

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Patnono

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I have been looking for employment to supplement my SSI and savings. I know I've been discriminated against me because of my age. I have come close didn't get the job because I didn't pass a test on lifting weights.

I'm being told by my boyfriend n daughter to dye my hair? I don't think that would make a difference, that's not going to make me younger? This person hadn't even seen me, we've spoken.

I haven't heard from anybody else, probably because my application let's them know how old I am? Home Depot who's suppose to hire seniors application seems to discriminate, it does not allow any date information before 1983. My graduation date is 1973. I would have to lie (I wouldn't do that) that would be the only way to get the application though. Then when they see me, I'd have to tell the truth. For sure they wouldn't hire me then. I have tried to call their HR department, no luck.
 

I doubt that most prospective employers are concerned about the color of your hair or your age.

I would go to a temporary employment agency and take a variety of assignments until I found a good match for my interests and my skills.

A temporary job gives you and the employer a chance to see how well you do over a period of a few days/weeks. If you really shine a temporary job could result in an offer of a permanent position.

It may not be ideal but at least it will keep a few dollars coming in until you find your dream job.

Good luck.
 
Thanks, I have been told to my face that they feel I couldn't the job. Employers hide behind on the application what year did you graduate high school? Home depot's application won't allow you to put any date before 1983. It tells you date must before 1983 otherwise you can't submit the application? I won't lie, for sure they won't hire me then. And I heard that recently that the government has eased up the laws on discrimination making it easier for employers to discriminate. For the life of Me? I can't figure out what they have against senior citizens?
 

Patnono said:
. For the life of Me? I can't figure out what they have against senior citizens?
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I've heard that it's because of the potential for longevity on the job. Because we're older, we might die, or get sick and then they'd be out of an employee.

I see a huge amount of turnover in young employees everywhere. As a general statement, they're just not reliable and don't take the work seriously. Older people generally speaking have better responsibility and will tend to stick to the work. I just don't get it either.
 
Patnono said:
Thanks, I have been told to my face that they feel I couldn't the job. Employers hide behind on the application what year did you graduate high school? Home depot's application won't allow you to put any date before 1983. It tells you date must before 1983 otherwise you can't submit the application? I won't lie, for sure they won't hire me then. And I heard that recently that the government has eased up the laws on discrimination making it easier for employers to discriminate. For the life of Me? I can't figure out what they have against senior citizens?
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Maybe changing your hair color is the solution.

Good luck!
 
I agree, I did hard labor in a factory for 30yrs, I would train a young person they wouldn't last 6 months? One time one of them went to lunch on their first day and didn't come back? They know they can run home to their parents no questions asked. So employers can't count on any age person? Lol
 
Patnono said:
Thanks, I have been told to my face that they feel I couldn't the job. Employers hide behind on the application what year did you graduate high school? Home depot's application won't allow you to put any date before 1983. It tells you date must before 1983 otherwise you can't submit the application? I won't lie, for sure they won't hire me then. And I heard that recently that the government has eased up the laws on discrimination making it easier for employers to discriminate. For the life of Me? I can't figure out what they have against senior citizens?
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It maybe isn’t due to your age at all?

Maybe it’s because you filled out the application with question marks????
 
I know I've been discriminated against me because of my age. I have come close didn't get the job because I didn't pass a test on lifting weights.
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If you can't lift the weight, they can't hire you. That's not discrimination; you could get hurt.

Some places like to hire "mothers and others" for light, part time work, like cashiering, fast food and the like.
Good luck with your search.
 
If you have a hair stylist that you go to regularly, why not ask him or her what they would think about coloring your hair or even updating the style? Most women I know, myself included, feel happier & more confident if they think their hair is looking its best. In addition to whatever is on applications first impressions are important too, and being well turned out for the type of job shows respect for the company as well as self confidence.
 
I think it is silly for older folks to dye their hair. You can spot it a mile way much like a cheap toupee. There are employment services for retirees and people over certain ages. Good luck.
 
I'm not saying they didn't hire me because I couldn't lift the weights, this lady saw my application so she knew my age never physically ever seeing me, she was the exception, but was unprofessional that she never bothered telling me either way,? Let's be honest though for the most part people don't want to hire seniors
 
Not to brag, I have snow white hair, wherever I go I get complements, people even asked how do I get my hair like this. I feel proud and confident when I go out.
 
I love your username, I have an Aunt Bea she's 96 the last living sibling on my dad's side of the family. Anyway I have to disagree with you on dying my hair, it's a beautiful snow white color, it's the age employers don't like. Young women are doing their hair like mine.
 
Patnono said:
Not to brag, I have snow white hair, wherever I go I get complements, people even asked how do I get my hair like this. I feel proud and confident when I go out.
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Hell no!


Patnono. From the posts you make, it appears that you suffer from self confidence. You’re not alone. Many people do.


I LOVED reading this post of yours. I had to do a double take to make sure it was actually YOU and sure enough it was.


Way to go on loving your hair colour.
That was such a delight to read.
If you have a part of you that you really like and are proud of WHY oh why would you change it to suit anyone?
Nooooo!!!


You are going to change a part of yourself to please others. Read that over a few times to really get a feel of it.
HELL NO!


I also very much agree with fmdog. Older people with dyed hair look stupid. Maybe not all of them but most of them. Blondes have the easiest time but we aren’t all natural blondes.
As we age our skin lightens and wrinkles.

Hair naturally lightens with it so it matches . Nature didn’t mess up on this.
Adding any colour to your white hair is going to be stand out brilliant for the very fact that you have naturally white hair.
Do you know how many women bleach their hair before dying just so they can get a good brilliant colour? It totally destroys the hair but they do it anyway. The colour does usually look spectacular but these are young kids. Then you’ve got to touch up those roots every few weeks and hope you get a good colour match.


Do you think these people reading your application and reviewing you actually care about this? NO! They don’t care in the least and these are the people you are doing it for.


I used to henna my hair and before I decided to grow out my coloured hair I tweaked up my henna to make a bright cherry cola red. The colour was to die for but I did notice that it accentuated the lines on my face. Not that I have many, but my hair looked far too radiantly coloured for a mid fifty woman. The only problem was that my natural hair colour was silver and pepper colour so the ‘grow out’ was horrible. Then of course I have 3 feet of it so it REALLY stood out like an eye sore and the first 6 months were brutal.
That was 3 1/2 years ago.


Keep your hair as is and wear your best smile and outfit. That’s it. If they don’t like you then you say **** it and move on to the next interview. Someone out there will appreciate you for you. The only person you should ever change for is YOU and only because you want to.


Good luck Patnono.
You’ve got this.
 
Lol, No way, this is me. Next time it could be my clothing, shoes. I don't have the energy to be living for others. I have Plenty of criticism about others but won't because that makes them them. Thanks for writing
 
Considering how some younger people think "the old ones" can't do much or think very well, I would dye my hair if I were you. A good dye job can look quite natural. I would say that for job hunting purposes only.
 
That's not going to change anything, I've been rejected just by my application alone. My age is my age physically there's no hiding it.
 
Patnono said:
That's not going to change anything, I've been rejected just by my application alone. My age is my age physically there's no hiding it.
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Maybe you should consider a more positive approach.

What can it hurt?

Heh, when you get turned down again, just go;

‘Thank Gawd! Now I can post this in seniors forums!’
 
Who am I fooling? I'm doing something out of the box, hand writing a letter to the companies managers a letter accompanied with my resume. It's worked before. Maybe they can appreciate my efforts in doing this? Also made a list of Temp agencies to visit.
 
Patnono said:
Lol, No way, this is me. Next time it could be my clothing, shoes. I don't have the energy to be living for others. I have Plenty of criticism about others but won't because that makes them them. Thanks for writing
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Good for you!! :thumbsup:
You’re welcome & good luck to you.
 
Employers don't like young women because they tend to have kids....don't like older women because they might drop dead...so who's left? To answer the question, dying your hair won't make any difference to your suitability for the job and, once you start, you have to keep getting your roots done...Perhaps they turned you down for some other reason?
 

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