Old Dummy
Who am I? Why am I here?
- Location
- In the backwoods of NYS
If your niece's parents said they feel she'd be willing to do it, chances are they are right. Though it may not be an easy task, it's much, much harder when someone has to step in and they don't know what the heck is going on with your affairs. You've gotten good advice....follow through. Do EVERYBODY a favor and have a sit down with her!! Not letting your loved ones know your wishes regarding health care should you need to be on life support is something that could cause them guilt and despair for a long time should they feel they've made the wrong decision(s). And not letting them know where to find important papers, insurance(s) and how to access what will need to be resolved once you pass makes for an excruciating process. You know somebody will have to do it, so that person needs to be well informed. If by some remote chance your niece says she doesn't want the responsibility, then you'll at least know you have to go to plan B. Bottom line is life is not promised to us, even for the next day. My husband seemed fine and was active as of the first week in September 2018 and dead before the end of the year. I'm glad I talked him into getting his living will done in September. He wound up on life support for almost two weeks and his advanced directive let us know not to let it go beyond that. So, please, take care of this.
Thanks for your thoughtful response.
For me, there is no "Plan B," aside from doing absolutely nothing.