Do You Get Scared ?

KingsX

KingsX

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Do any of you singles sometimes get scared... either for a good reason or for no specific reason at all ??

As I grow older, I've been disappointed to discover I'm not as "brave" as I was when I was younger.

The irony is... when I was younger I had so much more responsibility [I was a single working mother]
with less security than I have now. Maybe I just didn't have the spare time to worry. When I was young
and a crisis happened, I would think to myself... I must be brave for my child so he feels secure.

Now that it's only me... there's no more reason to even pretend to be brave.
 

I'm not single, but I do seem to have more fears than when I was young. I suppose it comes from knowing that I'm not immortal after all. I get more anxious about perceived physical ailments, always thinking the worst when I have a new ache or pain. I'm also more nervous if I'm in the house alone at night.
 
C'est Moi said:
I'm not single, but I do seem to have more fears than when I was young. I suppose it comes from knowing that I'm not immortal after all. I get more anxious about perceived physical ailments, always thinking the worst when I have a new ache or pain. I'm also more nervous if I'm in the house alone at night.
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Thanks for responding. Great insight that ever growing reality of one's frail mortality might be the basis of nondescript fear.

I'm home alone every night... and like many urban areas, crime here has increased.

But ironically, my perceived imaginary fears are more scary than potential real ones !

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KingsX said:
Thanks for responding. Great insight that ever growing reality of one's frail mortality might be the basis of nondescript fear.

I'm home alone every night... and like many urban areas, crime here has increased.

But ironically, my perceived imaginary fears are more scary than potential real ones !

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I'm in the Houston area, so I know what you mean.
 
C'est Moi said:
I'm in the Houston area, so I know what you mean.
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I'm in Dallas.

Thanks to "Nextdoor" where neighbors can share info on line... I see many reports of car break-ins being committed in my area.

Several times the past few months, the code box on my garage door has been tampered with at night while I was at home. It happened again just a few nights ago. This time I heard the would be thieves making noise in my attached garage area while I was in the house watching TV!

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Oh, my. Hearing someone trying to break in would definitely be scary.

I wouldn't mind living in the Dallas area; it's nicer than here I think. My oldest son lived in Dallas for a while and I loved to visit him there. My daughters both live in the Austin area, which I HATE; I have never understood the attraction of Austin.
 
C'est Moi said:
I wouldn't mind living in the Dallas area; it's nicer than here I think. My oldest son lived in Dallas for a while and I loved to visit him there. My daughters both live in the Austin area, which I HATE; I have never understood the attraction of Austin.
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I was born in west Texas... but my family moved to Dallas when I was a child.

Of course, that Dallas was another world. Everything is totally different now.
 
I get scared when I read the newspaper with the increase in violent crime, places I would walk quite happily a couple of years ago I wouldn’t go there alone now
 
Yes, I get scared at times, anxious at times about things and I agree it's different when we are alone and older. I have no one living with me to protect me. I do have 911 to use if anything goes terribly wrong. I got scared once when a man was trying to get into the apt. building and knew he didn't live here and it was in the wee morning hours. I alerted the police and they came out and checked it out.

I carry pepper spray for when I go out and sometimes even forget that I have it. It will come in handy if I need it. Only had to pull it out once before in all my years. Didn't have to use it as the man backed off once I told him I would use it on him if he touched me. That reminds me I probably should get a new one as I don't know how long it is good for.
 
I know I'm more cautious about things than I was when I was younger. You know - when both my knees worked fine and I was more physically fit/weighed less, LOL!

Having always lived in the "big city" and raised in the urban ghetto, caution about burglary, dark streets in marginal areas, etc., is second nature to me.

One issue I noted about my MIL's dementia - as it progressed, she became increasingly anxious and fearful. It was a subtle change; we only noticed it when we looked back at her behavior over a period of months. Those "no, I don't feel like it" answers were actually hiding a higher anxiety level. She had been a fairly social person before her dementia.

If you have a loved one whom you suspect may be starting to have difficulties, this is one of the more important warning signs, as a change in the usual behaviors.
 
Scared, no. But I find that I am more easily startled. In stores, or driving, any sudden noise, or motion in my peripheral vision, startles me. Didn't used too.
 
I miss not being physically able as I was in my youth and when I encounter a crazy driver for example not that I would instigate a road rage incident but back in my youth I most likely would not have run from it. I occasionally carry a pistol in my truck (and I should more often) but I always think if I had to shoot even in self-defense that is not a guarantee I will not spend time in prison and that is at the bottom of my list of "Things To Do Before I Die". So the bottom line is I have to avoid any physical confrontation with a much younger guy. If I was young and had an issue with a 71 year old man I would laugh it off and walk away but I would not trust the youth today to do the same. At home I feel very secure. I experienced a home break in when I was at home about 30 years ago and when the maniac saw the barrel of my pistol he changed his plans for the night. No shots fired.
 
Shark movies. Jaws, The Reef, Open Water, The Shallows, 47 Meters Down, Deep Blue Sea, etc. They scare the bejesus out of me. But I watch them anyway. I am drawn to them like a moth to a flame.



One exception is Sharknado. Sharknado didn't scare me. That one was fun.
 
fmdog44 said:
I miss not being physically able as I was in my youth and when I encounter a crazy driver for example not that I would instigate a road rage incident but back in my youth I most likely would not have run from it.
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I’ve been involved in a few road rage incidents

One, we both parked

I pulled his upper body thru his passenger window, by his face

We discussed proper driving techniques for a bit

I think that may have been adrenalin

I still feel I can mix it up, but more hesitant now
Not worth it

Can’t think of much that scares me

Maybe I scare me



Wait....

Snakes scare me


big time
 
The onlly time I have been scared was when I was bear hunting in Canada. I came upon a blueberry patch and laid my gun down and was picking berries when a bear charged me. I ran, but a bear can run 35 miles per hour and caught up and took me down.. He was on top and was about to crush my head in his jaws when I reached down and tickled his balls. He just rolled over and shut his eyes and I jumped up and ran for my life up a hill. When I reached the top I looked back to see if the bear was chasing me. To my surprise he was standing where I left him and waving for me to come back.
 
norman said:
The onlly time I have been scared was when I was bear hunting in Canada. I came upon a blueberry patch and laid my gun down and was picking berries when a bear charged me. I ran, but a bear can run 35 miles per hour and caught up and took me down.. He was on top and was about to crush my head in his jaws when I reached down and tickled his balls. He just rolled over and shut his eyes and I jumped up and ran for my life up a hill. When I reached the top I looked back to see if the bear was chasing me. To my surprise he was standing where I left him and waving for me to come back.
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Hilarious
 
Gary O' said:
I’ve been involved in a few road rage incidents

One, we both parked

I pulled his upper body thru his passenger window, by his face

We discussed proper driving techniques for a bit

I think that may have been adrenalin

I still feel I can mix it up, but more hesitant now
Not worth it

Can’t think of much that scares me

Maybe I scare me



Wait....

Snakes scare me


big time
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I'm the same. I rarely ever back down from anything, but I've definitely become wiser in how approach things. The last time I got physical with someone it took too damn long for my body to heal, so rethinking the way I carry myself at times was more self preservation than anything else, plus at this stage of the game I have too much to lose. My wife thinks I'm crazy the way I talk to people sometimes, mind you these are people that have it coming for one reason or another. I don't go looking for trouble but I'm not going to let someone disrespect me or my wife. I try to take all the precautions I can to be prepared and avoid being a victim. So far so good, but who knows what tomorrow will bring.
 
Being scared is what helped homo sapiens and just about all creatures that walk the earth to actually survive. Can you imagine what it would be like if you were never ever scared of anything? Early man would see a rock formation and at first think he was seeing a crouching lion which made him very cautious until he knew for sure it was only a rock formation that he saw. Being scared is a good thing unless everything begins to look like a lion to you. That's where being scared is a bad thing.
 
Olivia said:
Being scared is what helped homo sapiens and just about all creatures that walk the earth to actually survive. Can you imagine what it would be like if you were never ever scared of anything? Early man would see a rock formation and at first think he was seeing a crouching lion which made him very cautious until he knew for sure it was only a rock formation that he saw. Being scared is a good thing unless everything begins to look like a lion to you. That's where being scared is a bad thing.
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