Periods in texting considered aggressive

Ronni

Ronni

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The net is abounding with explanations for the textspeak rules and accommodations that add emphasis or intent to what we're texting. The use of periods and ellipses for example do not communicate the same thing in texts that they do an email or written letter. This variation is called situational code switching, which simply is when we change how we talk depending on where we are, who we're talking to or how we're communicating.

This is why you sound like a jerk when you text a period

Millennials also consider voice calling to be intrusive and rude, which apparently is why there is such a proliferation of texting over calling with that age group.

Text rather than talk
 

I always try to use proper grammar, punctuation and spelling whether I'm posting here, texting or anything else. I do have a few words that I use abbreviations for when texting with my wife as more of a silly thing such as gonna=going to, prolly=probably or hafta=have to but I don't do that with anyone else. When I see run on sentences with no punctuation or people who type in all caps it drives me nuts.

I've also been known to text in "Bostonese" with my wife from time to time. For instance, I'll replace my r's with h's like cah, fah or bah or add the extra "ah' to an end of a word that doesn't have it like, heeyah=here or beeyah=beer or theyah=there, but again it's only when being silly texting with my wife.
 
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I try to be grammatically correct and have been known to discreetly edit something I have quoted from someone else's post. I mean no offence. It is the indoctrination I received from my aunts and high school teachers. It stuck.

It doesn't help that they didn't teach typing at my school.
 
hollydolly said:
I realise not everyone can spell, I also realise that we all make mistakes, typing too fast etc....but I do get fed up with people who continually spell words wrongly, like Loose instead of Lose, or draws instead of Drawers, etc... just irritates me because it makes no sense of the sentence
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"Draws" is a big one here in Mass because we tend to not pronounce our r's. I do make a conscious effort to pronounce my r's when speaking because when I hear people that don't, it sounds kind of trashy to me and I don't want to sound trashy to other people.

Not to hijak this thread with the Boston accent thing, but the video below has a lot of Bostonese in it and puts a funny spin on it. A good chunk of people from this area actually do speak this way, just not so exaggerated.

(This video has some foul language.)

 
Ronni said:
The net is abounding with explanations for the textspeak rules and accommodations that add emphasis or intent to what we're texting. The use of periods and ellipses for example do not communicate the same thing in texts that they do an email or written letter. This variation is called situational code switching, which simply is when we change how we talk depending on where we are, who we're talking to or how we're communicating.

This is why you sound like a jerk when you text a period

Millennials also consider voice calling to be intrusive and rude, which apparently is why there is such a proliferation of texting over calling with that age group.

Text rather than talk
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Weird
 
Warrigal said:
I try to be grammatically correct and have been known to discreetly edit something I have quoted from someone else's post. I mean no offence. It is the indoctrination I received from my aunts and high school teachers. It stuck.

It doesn't help that they didn't teach typing at my school.
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I was taught typing at school..it was a huge part of our curriculum (y)
 
JimW said:
"Draws" is a big one here in Mass because we tend to not pronounce our r's. I do make a conscious effort to pronounce my r's when speaking because when I hear people that don't, it sounds kind of trashy to me and I don't want to sound trashy to other people.

Not to hijak this thread with the Boston accent thing, but the video below has a lot of Bostonese in it and puts a funny spin on it. A good chunk of people from this area actually do speak this way, just not so exaggerated.

(This video has some foul language.)

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Oh everyday speech is one thing, we all have accents.... and we pronounce things very differently from every other English speaking country..county..town, city..etc...

here in the UK you can go just 10 miles up the road and the accent is different... but even if one pronounces it draws and not drawers.. one should absolutely know that's not how it's spelt!
 
JimW said:
I always try to use proper grammar, punctuation and spelling whether I'm posting here, texting or anything else. I do have a few words that I use abbreviations for when texting with my wife as more of a silly thing such as gonna=going to, prolly=probably or hafta=have to but I don't do that with anyone else. When I see run on sentences with no punctuation or people who type in all caps it drives me nuts.

I've also been known to text in "Bostonese" with my wife from time to time. For instance, I'll replace my r's with h's like cah, fah or bah or add the extra "ah' to an end of a word that doesn't have it like, heeyah=here or beeyah=beer or theyah=there, but again it's only when being silly texting with my wife.
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Like JFK's "Vigah"!
 
Ronni said:
The net is abounding with explanations for the textspeak rules and accommodations that add emphasis or intent to what we're texting. The use of periods and ellipses for example do not communicate the same thing in texts that they do an email or written letter. This variation is called situational code switching, which simply is when we change how we talk depending on where we are, who we're talking to or how we're communicating.

This is why you sound like a jerk when you text a period

Millennials also consider voice calling to be intrusive and rude, which apparently is why there is such a proliferation of texting over calling with that age group.

Text rather than talk
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IMO, texting over talking is going backward technologically.

It was a great step forward when we could actually speak to each other across the miles instead of writing or sending written telegrams.

De-Evolution?

iu
 
I accept that I'm old fashioned when it comes to correct spelling, punctuation and intelligent paragraphing. - if it wasn't taught in school, it can be easily learned at any age - but I think a serious idea that someone is trying to convey with a contrived accent is pointless and silly. If silly is the point, fine, not serious discussion.
 
I went back through some of the text messages I've received from the many millennials in my life. Some family, some friends. Nearly all end every sentence with some form of punctuation. The few who omit it only do so in the final sentence of the text, and only then if it is a statement rather than a question or exclamation.

The writer of the WP article said that It's considered rude to use a period in a text - an indication of "a negative emotion or an expression of boredom," no less. Maybe in this person's circle but certainly not in mine. (Talk about overthinking!)

I understand the texting over talking preference. In a world filled with electronic leashes, the "callee" is in the awkward position of having to take calls (even when we don't feel like talking at that moment) or risk snubbing the callers, because we all know that caller ID is announcing the identities of known callers.

If we don't take the call, an underlying message being delivered is a snub until we come up with a lame excuse later on. Ummm... I was performing - or in - surgery, in the shower, the dog knocked my phone charger from the wall outlet so I was out of juice, God forgive me, the phone was in another room, or the ringer turned down low. We come up with something, anything, to deliver the message of "Yes, I still like/love you, but the call wasn't convenient for me just then." Aaack!!!

Texts can be answered at leisure. Situations that require immediate contact only need a text like "Please call me ASAP. Non-life threatening but urgent!" Or two or three phone calls in a row. That sends the message that you really, really, really need to get in touch.

For less dire situations, I often send or receive a text asking, "Do you have time to talk now? Just want to catch up."

BTW, if some millennials don't understand the functions of ellipses in casual communiques, Auntie Google will be happy to explain that they can be used to indicate faltering speech or thoughts that trail off.
 
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RadishRose said:
We can always shut our answering machines off. They'll call again if needed.
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I was referring to cell phone voice mail. My landline has the ringer shut off and the voice mail gets filled with junk calls. I only keep that line alive because I use it for business, for a contact number when pressed to for one but don't want to give out my mobile number, and because our alarm system works with a landline.
 
hollydolly said:
I realise not everyone can spell, I also realise that we all make mistakes, typing too fast etc....but I do get fed up with people who continually spell words wrongly, like Loose instead of Lose, or draws instead of Drawers, etc... just irritates me because it makes no sense of the sentence
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How about those who say "I could care less" instead of "I couldn't are less"?
 
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