Can't be alone with a woman?

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"Foster pointed out that he is a married man and that he made an agreement with his wife, in observance of his Christian faith, that neither of them could “be alone with someone of the opposite sex throughout our marriage.”"

Does this include his own mother? How about a daughter? What about her father, brothers, cousins, her pastor?
 

Miss X wants to follow around Mr. Y, as he campaigns for office. Miss X is a reporter. They spend the day together going from event to event. A week later, Miss X's story appears in the paper. She claims that Mr. Y pawed her repeatedly, and got his hand up her dress. BTW, Miss X is a paid staff for the other candidate, running against Mr. Y. Well, you decide did he or didn't he?
I think that Republican candidate is prudent. Why put yourself at possible risk when you don't have to. And if candidate, Mr. Y was smart, he'd never be totally alone with Mr.X, either.
 
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Wow indeed, Sunny. This candidate has announced that he can't be alone in the same room as a female? Imagine how many senior female staff he's hired in his campaign - not to mention how many he'd have if elected governor.
 
“I’m not ever going to be put in a situation with any female to where they could make an accusation against me and there’s not a witness there to refute that accusation.”

Sadly, I totally understand this point of view. It has gotten to the point where men at work, certainly not bosses, ever compliment a woman on her appearance for fear of accusations.
 
Can I understand why a male candidate would be gun shy about being in the same room, ALONE, with a female. Oh, yeah. I was a Registered Nurse. There were many times I was alone in a female patient's room. I was "the male nurse". Did it occur to me that I could lose my livelihood, my license, and my reputation pretty much with any accusation- OH YES!! That was always in the back of my mind.
 
Can I understand why a male candidate would be gun shy about being in the same room, ALONE, with a female. Oh, yeah. I was a Registered Nurse. There were many times I was alone in a female patient's room. I was "the male nurse". Did it occur to me that I could lose my livelihood, my license, and my reputation pretty much with any accusation- OH YES!! That was always in the back of my mind.

Were you ever accused of that, FB?
 
"Foster pointed out that he is a married man and that he made an agreement with his wife, in observance of his Christian faith, that neither of them could “be alone with someone of the opposite sex throughout our marriage.”"
Does this include his own mother? How about a daughter? What about her father, brothers, cousins, her pastor?

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“I’m not ever going to be put in a situation with any female to where they could make an accusation against me and there’s not a witness there to refute that accusation.”

Stretching this to include everyday interaction with family members or the wife's pastor [if the pastor was a male] is reasonable. Only if any of those were waiting for the opportunity to destroy their own reputation.

Keeping this in the context of his ambition to be an elected public servant, unlike an average person male or female, as a public figure he is vulnerable to accusations. Think of it this way. If a forklift driver for a major company was accused by a female worker working for the same company there would no headlines in the major media outlets. Job loss due to suspicion until proven one way or the other not going to matter to the general public where they live.
 
OK, for those who believe this is a sensible policy, what about the situation that often comes up in a small workplace, where one man and one woman are the only occupants of the office at the moment, or the company's lunchroom? What if they're having lunch, with two men and one woman in the room, and one man gets up and leaves? Does the other man now have to leave his lunch half-uneaten and rush out of the room, lest he commit a "Christian" sin?

And what if, heaven forbid, a man finds himself alone in a room with another man who happens to be gay (but never lets that intrude in his professional life)? But the "religious" guy knows that the other man is gay?

What about a male doctor with a female patient? Or a female doctor with a male patient? What about a psychiatrist? What about the fellow who fixes your washing machine or your air conditioning unit? Must he bring along a "chaperone" on every job, just in case the woman is alone in the house?

This level of insanity could bring modern life to a screeching halt.
 
Foster explained:

“Perception is reality in this world,” he continued, “and I don’t want to give anybody the opinion that I’m doing something that I should not be doing.”

By his behavior the perception is that he really wants to and needs to have a chaperone so that he won't. 😁
 
Trying not to make this political even though the article is about a politician. I think where this gets strange is the agreement between the husband & wife. Not typical but to each their own in a marriage. VP Pence won't eat a meal alone with a woman, wealthy business men & I suspect wealthy business women take precautions to keep from being accused of inappropriate behavior.

I think to keep this relating to a politician & what is in the news very often. This is a politician not wanting to be accused of anything makes sense to me. I base that on mainstream media & social media's delight of hyping a story without any real facts.

I really believe this isn't a trust issue between husband and wife. A person would have to be in denial not to understand that wealthy people & politicians are targets for opportunists. Or in denial that at times paying to make the problem go away can be far less expensive than taking the issue to court. In this politicians instance better to prevent than to possibly have to defend.
 
Sorry, I'm dissenting, here. The #MeToo movement has ruined lives by making claims, without any proof, whatsoever. If I were in situations where women were going to be closely following me, I would insist on having an observer along, at all times. I don't believe this guy is nuts. I think he's very realistic, and cautious. We're living in very odd times, ladies and gentlemen.
 
Sorry, I'm dissenting, here. The #MeToo movement has ruined lives by making claims, without any proof, whatsoever. If I were in situations where women were going to be closely following me, I would insist on having an observer along, at all times. I don't believe this guy is nuts. I think he's very realistic, and cautious. We're living in very odd times, ladies and gentlemen.
Seems unnecessary to me but then what do I know...
 
Sorry, I'm dissenting, here. The #MeToo movement has ruined lives by making claims, without any proof, whatsoever. If I were in situations where women were going to be closely following me, I would insist on having an observer along, at all times. I don't believe this guy is nuts. I think he's very realistic, and cautious. We're living in very odd times, ladies and gentlemen.
Totally agree. And I don't get why the supporters of the "me too" movement can't support this man's rights as well.
 
OK, for those who believe this is a sensible policy, what about the situation that often comes up in a small workplace, where one man and one woman are the only occupants of the office at the moment, or the company's lunchroom? What if they're having lunch, with two men and one woman in the room, and one man gets up and leaves? Does the other man now have to leave his lunch half-uneaten and rush out of the room, lest he commit a "Christian" sin?

And what if, heaven forbid, a man finds himself alone in a room with another man who happens to be gay (but never lets that intrude in his professional life)? But the "religious" guy knows that the other man is gay?

What about a male doctor with a female patient? Or a female doctor with a male patient? What about a psychiatrist? What about the fellow who fixes your washing machine or your air conditioning unit? Must he bring along a "chaperone" on every job, just in case the woman is alone in the house?

This level of insanity could bring modern life to a screeching halt.
I think those suppositions are taking this to the extreme. In today's world, just the HINT of impropriety can ruin a politician's career. Taking steps to avoid any possible misunderstanding is being smart, IMO.

Oh, and the last time I had an appointment with a male gynecologist, there was a female nurse in the room at all times.
 
How do you know he doesn't?

Not to be too chaffish, but it's logical that if he felt that way toward potential influencers he'd have said something like, "just as I have done with political donors and lobbyists, I insist on having a third party present when I'm going to be alone with a woman."
 
Not to be too chaffish, but it's logical that if he felt that way toward potential influencers he'd have said something like, "just as I have done with political donors and lobbyists, I insist on having a third party present when I'm going to be alone with a woman."
I think he made it clear what his reasons are, so what more do people need? The reporter was a jerk for not just accepting the conditions and moving forward, instead of taking an opportunity to ridicule the man.
 

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