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(Ed. Note: These articles, this one in particular, might seem a bit "off" given my usual behavior here on SeniorForums. Be assured that I'm not experiencing multiple personality disorder - this was merely the "voice" that I used in writing them)
Having a positive attitude is a great way to start your day and even to start a date. By having a positive attitude, you'll be able to create strong vibes that let the person know you're able to cope with certain situations.
Usually, people who have positive attitudes are able to get past events in life that can bring them into a deep depression. By staying positive, you'll be able to allow the other person to get close to you. For example, if you are walking down the street frowning, not many people will smile at you. Now, if you are walking with a grin and holding your head high, someone is most likely to smile at you. Someone who tends to "glow" is the one that other people want to be around.
Remain Positive
To stay positive, here are a few tips:
Always Smile
By smiling at another, you are making them feel comfortable and also adding positivity to the date. All it takes is one smile to brighten someone's day. If you smile at them, they are naturally inclined to converse with you and will want to learn more. They feel you are a warm and positive person because of the smile you've flashed them. A facial expression can be quite powerful if you think about it.
Prevent Negative Thoughts
When going on a date, always try to prevent any negative thoughts from making an appearance. Never judge your date based on how they look, what they are wearing or what they say. Unless they're wearing zombie make-up, a fluorescent-blue tutu and screaming out quotes from Mao's Little Red Book.
(Ed. Note #2: I'm sorry - that last sentence wasn't in the original draft - it seems Evil Phil wants to come out and play today. Thank you for your patience.)
People grow up around different families and some are from different cultures than us; this is why we need to understand that negative thoughts won't help us. If you judge someone right away, you'll probably have a negative thought about them.
Perhaps the guy you are dating came in with blue hair. He was actually trying to dye some of his stray gray hairs but his kid's played a cruel trick on him last night. He is usually a well-shaven and clean man who doesn't do things like piercing himself in odd places, or is known for having any tattoos. Once he explains what happened to him, you will probably feel guilty for having such negative thoughts about his choice of hair "fashion".
Treat Others As You'd Want To Be Treated
Always treat others as you'd want to be treated. Be positive around them and never send them any negative messages or speak in a negative tone. You want to appear calm and inviting towards people. It doesn't matter if they are a friend or a date. You should practice this so that way it will come naturally.
Be Optimistic
Being optimistic means being hopeful and confident about the future. You should look at your date and think of what wonderful things they have in store for you. If you notice some of their best qualities, focus on those instead of looking at any bad habits of theirs. They will see that you are trying to look past any negative habits they may have.
Remember that it is possible for people to change. In many instances, people will change according to the crowd they are with. If they are with friends that are trouble makers or are extremely rude to people, then you would take on the same qualities. However, if you go with a church group every few days and have brunch while talking about the beauty of life - you'll begin to appreciate how lucky you are to be living.
People who are optimistic are like magnets - they draw others around them because of the pure energy they put out.
Always Have Positive Thoughts About The Future
Having positive thoughts about the future will allow you to go on a date without any anxiety. You won't have to think about "Does he like me?" or start fidgeting through the whole date because you are nervous. Think positive thoughts in your head. You could very well say to yourself "I am a wonderful person and I'm sure anyone who meets me will like me!". Get up every day and stand in front of the mirror.
While standing in front of the mirror, give yourself positive words or a compliment. This will boost your confidence and also allow you to focus only on the positive things. Also, a quick snort of Jack Daniels will help to alle -
{Ed. Note #3: Once again, my apologies. He's just too quick on that keyboard.)
Don't ever look at your date in a negative way. If he or she is way too talkative, think of it as a good thing. If you can't get a word in, just be playful with your date and say "Hey, when do I get to talk!". They'll get the hint quickly and settle down to hear about the things you want to tell them or ask them.
Having a positive attitude is a great way to start your day and even to start a date. By having a positive attitude, you'll be able to create strong vibes that let the person know you're able to cope with certain situations.
Usually, people who have positive attitudes are able to get past events in life that can bring them into a deep depression. By staying positive, you'll be able to allow the other person to get close to you. For example, if you are walking down the street frowning, not many people will smile at you. Now, if you are walking with a grin and holding your head high, someone is most likely to smile at you. Someone who tends to "glow" is the one that other people want to be around.
Remain Positive
To stay positive, here are a few tips:
Always Smile
By smiling at another, you are making them feel comfortable and also adding positivity to the date. All it takes is one smile to brighten someone's day. If you smile at them, they are naturally inclined to converse with you and will want to learn more. They feel you are a warm and positive person because of the smile you've flashed them. A facial expression can be quite powerful if you think about it.
Prevent Negative Thoughts
When going on a date, always try to prevent any negative thoughts from making an appearance. Never judge your date based on how they look, what they are wearing or what they say. Unless they're wearing zombie make-up, a fluorescent-blue tutu and screaming out quotes from Mao's Little Red Book.
(Ed. Note #2: I'm sorry - that last sentence wasn't in the original draft - it seems Evil Phil wants to come out and play today. Thank you for your patience.)
People grow up around different families and some are from different cultures than us; this is why we need to understand that negative thoughts won't help us. If you judge someone right away, you'll probably have a negative thought about them.
Perhaps the guy you are dating came in with blue hair. He was actually trying to dye some of his stray gray hairs but his kid's played a cruel trick on him last night. He is usually a well-shaven and clean man who doesn't do things like piercing himself in odd places, or is known for having any tattoos. Once he explains what happened to him, you will probably feel guilty for having such negative thoughts about his choice of hair "fashion".
Treat Others As You'd Want To Be Treated
Always treat others as you'd want to be treated. Be positive around them and never send them any negative messages or speak in a negative tone. You want to appear calm and inviting towards people. It doesn't matter if they are a friend or a date. You should practice this so that way it will come naturally.
Be Optimistic
Being optimistic means being hopeful and confident about the future. You should look at your date and think of what wonderful things they have in store for you. If you notice some of their best qualities, focus on those instead of looking at any bad habits of theirs. They will see that you are trying to look past any negative habits they may have.
Remember that it is possible for people to change. In many instances, people will change according to the crowd they are with. If they are with friends that are trouble makers or are extremely rude to people, then you would take on the same qualities. However, if you go with a church group every few days and have brunch while talking about the beauty of life - you'll begin to appreciate how lucky you are to be living.
People who are optimistic are like magnets - they draw others around them because of the pure energy they put out.
Always Have Positive Thoughts About The Future
Having positive thoughts about the future will allow you to go on a date without any anxiety. You won't have to think about "Does he like me?" or start fidgeting through the whole date because you are nervous. Think positive thoughts in your head. You could very well say to yourself "I am a wonderful person and I'm sure anyone who meets me will like me!". Get up every day and stand in front of the mirror.
While standing in front of the mirror, give yourself positive words or a compliment. This will boost your confidence and also allow you to focus only on the positive things. Also, a quick snort of Jack Daniels will help to alle -
{Ed. Note #3: Once again, my apologies. He's just too quick on that keyboard.)
Don't ever look at your date in a negative way. If he or she is way too talkative, think of it as a good thing. If you can't get a word in, just be playful with your date and say "Hey, when do I get to talk!". They'll get the hint quickly and settle down to hear about the things you want to tell them or ask them.
