Ethical non-monogamy in seniors - non-sexual

Islandgypsy said:
I understand it’s easier to ignore loneliness in old people rather than sympathize and want to help them. I understand some people see a sordid motive behind every sympathetic, loving jesture. I reread my post and still see no suggestion of ménage a trois. I titled my post “non-sexual”. And still some respond with answers to questions not asked and non-existent motives. I am Islandgypsy. Please don’t be harsh or mean to me. I wish to treat everyone with the same consideration.
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The problem is you made it ambiguous especially when you said that you have only one bed and you couldn't fit another butt there. You're the one who brought up having a another person in bed with you and your wife, so if you made it perfectly clear in the first place as you just did about what you were suggesting, it wouldn't have come to folks taking it to a wrong conclusion.
 
Thank you Olivia. My mistake to try to defend my original post. And I must have been ambiguous since not one respondent dealt with what I thought was my topic - an action that might help lonely old people.
 
IG, your posts are confusing. If this is meant to be non-sexual then what religious or moral taboos?

If you're posing a general question about the possibility of adults successfully living together platonically to ease loneliness, share chores, and reduce living expenses, this is not a new concept. We call them roommates. Been around for a very long time.

Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.
 
StarSong said:
IG, your posts are confusing. If this is meant to be non-sexual then what religious or moral taboos?

If you're posing a general question about the possibility of adults successfully living together platonically to ease loneliness, share chores, and reduce living expenses, this is not a new concept. We call them roommates. Been around for a very long time.

Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.
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Yes, of course. It's nothing new. That is why folks have been questioning what does he really mean.
 
Johnny Horton had a song that I pretty well agree with:
"Come to me baby,
Wouldn't you kind of hang around.
You know that I'll love you
And never let you down.
I'll never love another
even if I can.
Come to me baby,
I'm a one woman man".
 
Packerjohn said:
Johnny Horton had a song that I pretty well agree with:
"Come to me baby,
Wouldn't you kind of hang around.
You know that I'll love you
And never let you down.
I'll never love another
even if I can.
Come to me baby,
I'm a one woman man".
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Sorry but the only Horton we Canadians idolize is Tim Horton😊
 
Islandgypsy said:
Sorry but the only Horton we Canadians idolize is Tim Horton😊
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Sometimes, I think that there must be some sort of drug in that awfully strong brew because they keep coming back again & again. Can't understand why there are always cars going around the take-out. You can go to Costco & buy a 1.36 kg can & make a lot of coffee. No body seems to have a relaxing cup of coffee at home anymore; except me that is. Guess, I have always lived "outside the box".
 
I like the Three’s Company” option. Not hoping to die from a heart embolism though, How could I remember that when I have no idea where I put my keys and wallet two minutes ago😊
 
Packerjohn said:
Sometimes, I think that there must be some sort of drug in that awfully strong brew because they keep coming back again & again. Can't understand why there are always cars going around the take-out. You can go to Costco & buy a 1.36 kg can & make a lot of coffee. No body seems to have a relaxing cup of coffee at home anymore; except me that is. Guess, I have always lived "outside the box".
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Probably habit because McDonalds actually bought out Tim Hortons coffee supply so many switched. The others maybe haven’t figured it out yet. Who knows. People are funny creatures.
 
Packerjohn said:
Sometimes, I think that there must be some sort of drug in that awfully strong brew because they keep coming back again & again. Can't understand why there are always cars going around the take-out. You can go to Costco & buy a 1.36 kg can & make a lot of coffee. No body seems to have a relaxing cup of coffee at home anymore; except me that is. Guess, I have always lived "outside the box".
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In my small home town of Brantford, Ontario, you can usually see the next Tim Horton’s through the current Tim Hirton’s Window
 
I read a lot of stories where someone (usually a woman) is brought into the househole for any number of reasons (nanny, cook, etc.) and where thing go south, you can't get her out...for years! It's some kind of squatter's rights or whatever. Good fences make good neighbors.
 
The biggest problem for me is having three adults of any combination living together unless they can all be fairly independent and each have a private space to take refuge for a few hours every day.

It seems to me that even the simple decisions of daily life would often become a minor skirmish of 2 against 1.
 
And so, we continue to not address the misery of loneliness for our senior citizens. What is the law- not to walk on all fours. What is the law- not to spill blood. What is the law- not to eat meat. But we can’t figure an effective way to deal with loneliness. And no forum member has a thought or suggestion ? Mine was shot down. Any others ??????
 
Islandgypsy said:
And so, we continue to not address the misery of loneliness for our senior citizens. What is the law- not to walk on all fours. What is the law- not to spill blood. What is the law- not to eat meat. But we can’t figure an effective way to deal with loneliness. And no forum member has a thought or suggestion ? Mine was shot down. Any others ??????
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I gave you a suggestion, but I'm assuming you didn't like it?

Post #14 = Get a big house with lots of bedrooms and turn it into a boarding house? Communal dining room and social gathering in the parlor?
 
I don't think that loneliness is a problem that we can diagnose or solve for another person.

About all, we can do is talk with people and let them tell us what they feel is missing from their lives.

There is a big difference between being alone and being lonely.

I'm alone most of the time and don't get lonely, I do get bored though.

If a person is lonely it is up to them to get out and socialize or move to a place where they can surround themselves with other people.

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Join a club, volunteer, move to a senior community with a clubhouse and activities, reach out more, get a part time job, foster a kitten, get involved with local politics, go back to school or take some fun courses, join your senior center and go to casinos, etc.
 
PVC said:
I gave you a suggestion, but I'm assuming you didn't like it?

Post #14 = Get a big house with lots of bedrooms and turn it into a boarding house? Communal dining room and social gathering in the parlor?
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Sounds like a clothing optional place we stayed in Key West. Free happy hour 5-6 daily and Sunday we went to gay bingo on Duval St. not a single lonely person in that hotel. Marrero House???
 
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