My dietician tells me not to return

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Victor

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I was seeing this dietician for 3 years for my high glucose level and low carb diet
and because of a change in hospital policy, she can no longer see me. The thing is
our rel'ship evolved into a warm chatty personal one (Platonic, fine with me)
and she would vent her personal problems to me and vice versa. So I enjoyed her company
but not attracted to her. (She lives with someone.) She says to my face many timesthat she will call me, so we could meet
outside work. She gave me her email address and cell. She never called after 2 months and does not answer email.
Was she insincere, lying? Pretending to like me--just being nice? She is always very friendly, smiling and laughing. Maybe this is a front--
she admitted that once to me! She was grinning and looking happy when she told me it was over.
Its okay not seeing her but I hate falseness and insincerity. Besides, no one will check my B/G level.
 

"She gave me her email address and cell. She never called after 2 months and does not answer email. "

I HATE people like that! If she didn't have the guts to say to your face that she didn't want to continue the talks/friendship, she could at least tell you so in an impersonal email. The only thing I can figure out is that she would feel like she's cheating on her SO if she meets you or contacts you outside of the hospital setting. BUT, she could email you and tell you this. I have no advice, sorry.
 

You think I should call her? Doubt that she will answer it. She said to call her but she is always busy. From the beginning she would say things that I knew she didn't mean, just to be nice. Like she wants to play therapy
She even confided very personal things. Always easy to talk to --she knew I am a loner.
 
Victor said:
You think I should call her? Doubt that she will answer it. She said to call her but she is always busy. From the beginning she would say things that I knew she didn't mean, just to be nice. Like she wants to play therapy
She even confided very personal things. Always easy to talk to --she knew I am a loner.
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You still trust her and want to be her friend after the way she has treated you and ignored you?
 
Victor said:
I was seeing this dietician for 3 years for my high glucose level and low carb diet
and because of a change in hospital policy, she can no longer see me. The thing is
our rel'ship evolved into a warm chatty personal one (Platonic, fine with me)
and she would vent her personal problems to me and vice versa. So I enjoyed her company
but not attracted to her. (She lives with someone.) She says to my face many timesthat she will call me, so we could meet
outside work. She gave me her email address and cell. She never called after 2 months and does not answer email.
Was she insincere, lying? Pretending to like me--just being nice? She is always very friendly, smiling and laughing. Maybe this is a front--
she admitted that once to me! She was grinning and looking happy when she told me it was over.
Its okay not seeing her but I hate falseness and insincerity. Besides, no one will check my B/G level.
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Get a glucose meter and test your own glucose level, for cryin' out loud.

And NO, do not call her.
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The only reason I would call her is to clear the air, tell her what I think.
just leave a voice mail message. I always wondered whether she actually liked
me or was just being nice because that's her personality. Looking
back, I can see a couple signs, such as when I called to tell her that I would miss the
appointment and she didn't call back. Then when I spoke to her, she sounded happy about it.
,She might think I am interested in her romantically but I am not. Never touched her or suggested
anything social. Something unprofessional about her, talking about her health problems. She might have thought I was flirting so she reacts like woman do.
I have only 2 others that I talk to now. And not often. She was one that I counted on, --I don't want to make more friends and I have tried, believe me. I can go weeks without a verbal conversation
of any length.
Of course, why would a woman hang out with or befriend a man 30 years older, like
me, over 70? (I don't know anyone my age where I live, the senior center is awful).
On a post last year, we noted that health professionals are supposed to be nice and cordial
to their patients (and I am thankful) but once you are no longer under their care, they often act like strangers
even when they remember you. Niceness is part of the job as with salespeople.
 
I thought this sounded familiar and went back a bit to see if my memory was correct.

In September you posted this in another thread you started:
https://www.seniorforums.com/threads/is-this-emailing-appropriate-or-okay.43512/#post-1130804
"In another thread, I mentioned that I lost verbal contact with a lady friend
who is married, after she lost her job. I know her for 11 years. I would call
her and talk up to an hour or more, at her job. She never called me or answered
my calls. At times I thought she was just being nice, but she seemed genuinely
interested in me. She gave me her own email address and now I wonder if she
thinks it wrong to email me from home. Maybe she feels guilty or crossing the marital boundary.
My entire rel'ship with her was bound by her job, and when we worked together for many years.
Please do not say I should find someone single because that will not happen,
nor do I want an internet pen pal. She has heard my problems and shared her stories.
Maybe it is over. I haven't seen her in years, nor will we meet. Nothing romantic. Now I have almost
no one to call, at all."

Victor, do you think that perhaps you're reading too much into casual relationships? Maybe you're unintentionally pressing women into an uncomfortable place, so they give you their email or phone info at that moment, but have no inclination to have more than a very limited professional relationship with you.
 
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Victor said:
You think I should call her? Doubt that she will answer it. She said to call her but she is always busy. From the beginning she would say things that I knew she didn't mean, just to be nice. Like she wants to play therapy
She even confided very personal things. Always easy to talk to --she knew I am a loner.
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Don't call her....Go on with your life....She was just a tease!!!! Now she went on to some scum bag....
 
I wonder why Victor said that she was a library clerk in the Sept thread and a dietician in this thread? One he knew for 11 years, this one for 3 years, but the situations are identical. Is this the same woman with a few changes thrown in?

Either way, Victor needs to get on with his life, obviously the lady is not interested in the friendship for whatever reason. I'll call/email someone twice, if they don't reply I assume it's over and move on. I don't want to lose my dignity by begging for the friendship.
 
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