Ronni
Well-known Member
- Location
- Nashville TN
This is long. Sorry 
Iām sitting out here on my porch, nibbling on my breakfast and sipping my coffee, trying to adjust to this new normal Iām experiencing. For the first time in pretty much my entire life Iām not governed by the clock or the calendar. Iām not having to portion out my time depending on what day it is, or get the most out of my day depending on where I am in the week. Itās strange, surreal, and unsettling. I should be enjoying this, (as much as one can enjoy free time in the midst of a pandemic) but Iām struggling.
I am a forward-thinking person. I forward think my hours, my days, my time, my projects, my life. Iām a planner. I plan the work and work the plan, both personally and professionally. I enjoy that, the prediction, the structure and the control it gives me. Itās comforting. But now I have no control and no plan. My days are unstructured, and my future is uncertain, and not just because I donāt know if Iāll get sick or not. Certainly Iām doing everything I can to prevent that, and also to prevent getting anyone ELSE sick if I am unknowingly infected. But itās more than that.
Never before in my ENTIRE lifetime (and Iām old, remember?) have I not known what I was going to do days, weeks or months from now. THAT HAS NEVER EVER HAPPENED TO ME, and I donāt know how to deal with that! Iāve lived on three continents in my life, travelled back and forth across the width of the US several different times, worked at everything from taking in laundry for people to running a child care facility, from making jewelry at home to organizing peopleās belongings and lives, from being an office manager to running a private school, from cleaning to bookkeeping. But Iāve always known, ALWAYS, what was going to happen next month and next year because I MADE it happen by my own determination and sheer force of will.
Covid-19 doesnāt care about my iron will, the Stay At Home Order isnāt interested in my inner fortitude, and my client base have their own families to protect. Mine is not a āwork from homeā job. At the very least itās a hands-on job, and at times itās face to face and up close and personal. So I have nowhere to direct this strength and iron will to either make my future return to what it was, or create a new one.
Iām realizing that I donāt know how to live in THIS moment when all my future moments are uncertain. I am struggling to focus on now because the future is nothing but a haze of worry and stress and anxiety. Iām realizing that I NEED the ānow vs futureā thing as a BALANCE, that itās how *I* am able to function at my best and most efficient level.
And I donāt know how to solve that.

Iām sitting out here on my porch, nibbling on my breakfast and sipping my coffee, trying to adjust to this new normal Iām experiencing. For the first time in pretty much my entire life Iām not governed by the clock or the calendar. Iām not having to portion out my time depending on what day it is, or get the most out of my day depending on where I am in the week. Itās strange, surreal, and unsettling. I should be enjoying this, (as much as one can enjoy free time in the midst of a pandemic) but Iām struggling.
I am a forward-thinking person. I forward think my hours, my days, my time, my projects, my life. Iām a planner. I plan the work and work the plan, both personally and professionally. I enjoy that, the prediction, the structure and the control it gives me. Itās comforting. But now I have no control and no plan. My days are unstructured, and my future is uncertain, and not just because I donāt know if Iāll get sick or not. Certainly Iām doing everything I can to prevent that, and also to prevent getting anyone ELSE sick if I am unknowingly infected. But itās more than that.
Never before in my ENTIRE lifetime (and Iām old, remember?) have I not known what I was going to do days, weeks or months from now. THAT HAS NEVER EVER HAPPENED TO ME, and I donāt know how to deal with that! Iāve lived on three continents in my life, travelled back and forth across the width of the US several different times, worked at everything from taking in laundry for people to running a child care facility, from making jewelry at home to organizing peopleās belongings and lives, from being an office manager to running a private school, from cleaning to bookkeeping. But Iāve always known, ALWAYS, what was going to happen next month and next year because I MADE it happen by my own determination and sheer force of will.
Covid-19 doesnāt care about my iron will, the Stay At Home Order isnāt interested in my inner fortitude, and my client base have their own families to protect. Mine is not a āwork from homeā job. At the very least itās a hands-on job, and at times itās face to face and up close and personal. So I have nowhere to direct this strength and iron will to either make my future return to what it was, or create a new one.
Iām realizing that I donāt know how to live in THIS moment when all my future moments are uncertain. I am struggling to focus on now because the future is nothing but a haze of worry and stress and anxiety. Iām realizing that I NEED the ānow vs futureā thing as a BALANCE, that itās how *I* am able to function at my best and most efficient level.
And I donāt know how to solve that.
