White Lesbian Couple Sue

[AprilT]

First off, harassment and bullying isn't limited to children based on the lifestyle of their parents. The kids that took a girl into the woods and tried to knife her to death, their parents weren't gay, we can find all kinds of reasons to justify our uncomfortable feelings about others ways of existing along side us. But teaching others to be more responsible for their own misguided actions is more challenging and seems less important to those that just want things to go with how their limited way of thinking can see things.

We have young people taking their lives due to the fact they know they will be hated because they were born feeling different from what society tells them they should feel and no matter how hard they try to bury their true selves, it just can't be done, so they grow up hating themselves all so they can fit into a mold to accommodate the feelings of the ignorant and prejudiced that decide what normal should be for others. People to this day go on and on about how awful life would be for children of mixed race parents, well, it is if they and the people around them aren't taught to be respectful of self and those around them. Over the years I've had several very close friends whom parents were of varying parental mixtures, none have any issues to this date. My best friend of over 25 years, her parents are from different ethnic groups, one of the families did disown, but, she and her sisters have grown up in a community that fully accepted them and in the quarter century that I've known them and their offspring, I've seen nothing but continued successful generations of children come about. But people for years people always said and still say, such unions are detrimental to the future of the children's well being. Really that is mostly true and case studies will be found by those that want to keep things comfortable for their way of seeing the world.

Things are changing whether people like it or not, I for one am happy that the younger generations are able to see through some of the nonsense they've been fed to believe; it's no wonder they have so little respect for what some of, not all, not most, the older people have to say in general.

 

[Denise1952]

Wai..wait... You aren't SERIOUSLY comparing a gay couple wanting a child to someone wanting a PET? Are you? No we don't agree at all nwlady.. I think it's great for a loving couple gay or straight to raise a child. I don't think it damages a child.. I think being raised by an abusive heterosexual family is worse.

The difference between ME and You saying gay sex is gross.. is that I don't JUDGE the gay couple, and wish them all the best..

Oh please, I was just saying it as an analogy, gads the way thing are misconstrued online it's a wonder we bother trying to communicate at all. It's about responsibility, and with a child, it's a hundred times over than with a pet. And don't tell me I am judging anyone, you are trying to do my thinking for me. I don't judge people for what they do, it is their life, I am strictly thinking of the children involved and what they may have to go through.

But you are right, there are VAST differences between you and me.

 

[Denise1952]

First off, harassment and bullying isn't limited to children based on the lifestyle of their parents. The kids that took a girl into the woods and tried to knife her to death, their parents weren't gay, we can find all kinds of reasons to justify our uncomfortable feelings about others ways of existing along side us. But teaching others to be more responsible for their own misguided actions is more challenging and seems less important to those that just want things to go with how their limited way of thinking can see things.

We have young people taking their lives due to the fact they know they will be hated because they were born feeling different from what society tells them they should feel and no matter how hard they try to bury their true selves, it just can't be done, so they grow up hating themselves all so they can fit into a mold to accommodate the feelings of the ignorant and prejudiced that decide what normal should be for others. People to this day go on and on about how awful life would be for children of mixed race parents, well, it is if they and the people around them aren't taught to be respectful of self and those around them. Over the years I've had several very close friends whom parents were of varying parental mixtures, none have any issues to this date. My best friend of over 25 years, her parents are from different ethnic groups, one of the families did disown, but, she and her sisters have grown up in a community that fully accepted them and in the quarter century that I've known them and their offspring, I've seen nothing but continued successful generations of children come about. But people for years people always said and still say, such unions are detrimental to the future of the children's well being. Really that is mostly true and case studies will be found by those that want to keep things comfortable for their way of seeing the world.

Things are changing whether people like it or not, I for one am happy that the younger generations are able to see through some of the nonsense they've been fed to believe; it's no wonder they have so little respect for what some of, not all, not most, the older people have to say in general.

I for one covered this in my post by saying "I know all children suffer, in some way or another, sooner or later, that's our world. I'm just saying."

 

[SeaBreeze]

But is it loving? I can use puppies for an example of what I mean. How many folks have experienced or seen someone take in a dog for a pet, most of us have. Is it for the dog? Or is it for selfish reasons like being lonely. I mean it can be both I know. For myself, even being heterosexual, I chose not to have children because I was such a gypsy, I wanted kids and a home, but I couldn't bring myself to have a child because I truly was thinking of what kind of home I might be able to give the child. I couldn't take the chance of having a child that would suffer. I know all children suffer, in some way or another, sooner or later, that's our world. I'm just saying.

I just want to add here, about the sue thing. Everyone is agreeing these people should sue, or some are at least. I mentioned a couple of weeks back about sueing because of botched healthcare and hardly got any attention to the thread/question. Funny how different things seem more important to people isn't it. My heart may never work right again, but hey, because a couple got the wrong sperm out of gillions, they want to sue. If I was them, I'd feel dang lucky to have a baby, black or not, they've already bit off a job I doubt is going to be any picnic, again, especially for the child.

I respectfully disagree on some points raised here. As far as the dog goes, I don't think of it as selfish at all to get any pet. In my case, I was never allowed to have pets as a child, so once I lived on my own, since I was an animal lover, I definitely wanted some pets. My husband also likes them, and shares my feelings about bringing a dog or cat into our home and giving them a good life, medical care, TLC, quality food, and the comforts of living in all rooms of our house just as if it's their own. If anything it's selfless, as loneliness was never an issue with me.

About the suing, I would have done the same thing. And believe me, I don't condone frivolous suing, and I detest people who are 'sue happy' nowadays. When I was in my thirties, I found out that I had a medical problem where I could not become pregnant the normal way, although my husband was completely normal. I had an in-vitro fertilization procedure done a couple of times using his sperm. Although they were very expensive for us to consider, they were unsuccessful.

Being inseminated with sperm and getting pregnant, is a very personal thing, to say the least. I don't know what I would have done if they said, 'whoops, gave you Joe Blow's sperm instead of your husband'. I would have had to deal with being pregnant from someone who was not intended, and likely would have confided in a lawyer to see what could be done about the medical facility who was responsible. I wouldn't have looked at a careless employee there who just 'spinned the wheel' and put anyone's sperm in my body for me to carry a baby to term and have my husband and I accept the whole situation like, 'oh, well'.

They don't have 'gillions' of sperm in these facilities. Everything is supposed to be thoroughly identified and monitored by the doctors and assistants there. They are supposed to be responsible with their treatments and respectful of the patients who go there for assistance.

IMO, it's very natural for a couple who is married and in love to want to raise a family together. With all the violence and hate going on in this world today, why would I be so judgmental of people like that? There's heterosexual mothers who cut their baby's arms off, and heterosexual fathers who rape their own daughters. Also, things are not the same as they were fifty years ago. When I was a kid, people would say that the folks from different races or religions should not marry, if anything, "because of the kids". Well, time has proven that it is very natural for people to love each other with no boundaries, and the children are just fine with it.

Whether the lifestyle is for me or not, I have a live and let live attitude. The kids these days are more mature and open-minded about these things too, the adults that who judge have much bigger issues. As far as this lady having the baby by a donor she did not approve, I can only wish the best for her.

 

[Denise1952]

On the dog thing, that wasn't a good example first of all because I don't compare animals with children. But what I was "trying" to point out is, some people are not thinking of the pets they get, some people. And the same goes with children, imo. I think a person has to be honest with themselves in why they want children, what are their motives. That is all I was saying and wow did that get misunderstood.

Of course not ALL people are that way, I did think it was a valid point to consider.