Another house that looks promising

Linda said:
You made me smile Knight. I understand about Deb, but I enjoy living vicariously through her because she is so different than I am. She has a good heart and is a nice person. One of these days she'll buy a house and shock us all. Or even go over and have a midnight chat social hour with her neighbors.

Yes, I have had a good marriage for 55 and a half years. Hope to get a few more years out of it before we both wear out.
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She’s so much different than you? You don’t have a good heart and aren’t a nice person? 😅

I hope and pray Deb turns around and shocks us. I think she would have put an offer in on the second house if there wasn’t an offer pending on it already.

Her offer on the first house wasn’t accepted but at least she’s still following through. I think she WILL purchase a house when the right one comes along at the right price. I just hope she doesn’t lose them all by low balling them. Her health and well being are worth more than the money she has.

Having said all that her attic was actually in pretty good shape for an old house so maybe the house can be cosmetically prettied up for a quick sale and hopefully the buyers won’t hire a house inspector.🤫

That house in front of the river was gorgeous.
They both were. That’s an nice area considering it’s the city.

I truly hope she does meet new friends and neighbours. She could have someone explain to her how easy and accessible getting and sending money really is and that’s it’s actually safe. She’s going to need to learn this before she gets too old or she won’t have access to her money. No sense in stashing lots of money if you can’t spend it or access it. I know it’s none of my business ....😬
I worry .... 🥺 Lol

55 years is a long marriage Linda. 💕
 

Keesha said:
She’s so much different than you? You don’t have a good heart and aren’t a nice person? 😅

I hope and pray Deb turns around and shocks us. I think she would have put an offer in on the second house if there wasn’t an offer pending on it already.

Her offer on the first house wasn’t accepted but at least she’s still following through. I think she WILL purchase a house when the right one comes along at the right price. I just hope she doesn’t lose them all by low balling them. Her health and well being are worth more than the money she has.

Having said all that her attic was actually in pretty good shape for an old house so maybe the house can be cosmetically prettied up for a quick sale and hopefully the buyers won’t hire a house inspector.🤫

That house in front of the river was gorgeous.
They both were. That’s an nice area considering it’s the city.

I truly hope she does meet new friends and neighbours. She could have someone explain to her how easy and accessible getting and sending money really is and that’s it’s actually safe. She’s going to need to learn this before she gets too old or she won’t have access to her money. No sense in stashing lots of money if you can’t spend it or access it. I know it’s none of my business ....😬
I worry .... 🥺 Lol

55 years is a long marriage Linda. 💕
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Oh my, I did word that wrong didn't I?? lol I meant I'm impulsive and Deb isn't. We both have good hearts. :) I do think she will buy a house within the next few months, she just wants to make sure it's the right one for her and her pocketbook.
 
Knight said:
Deb isn't serious & doesn't seem to like neighbors, but she is stuck with the ones she has. She realizes that her present home is a disaster but wants cheap cosmetic repairs done so I'm going to go out on a limb here and say she plans on living out her days in her present home.

I can't imagine Deb parting with 209k to buy another home when she hasn't spent money to maintain the home she inherited & lives in now.

I hope you have a good marriage. My wife took a chance 58 years ago marrying me when she was a little past her 17th. birthday.

Now back to the fantasy story of Deb moving.
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I agree I don’t think she will move. As for selling her current house, who would buy a house with a wet basement? Not me for sure. With all the problems her house has, and a wet basement, the land alone is the only thing worth money.
 
debodun said:
I always have a tough time making decisions. I have to weigh all the pros, cons and other options. By the time I get around to do anything about it, the opportunity is gone.
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Well, I can say from experience some men stick like glue 😂
 
debodun said:
I always have a tough time making decisions. I have to weigh all the pros, cons and other options. By the time I get around to do anything about it, the opportunity is gone.
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There's always the age-old method to help you decide: make a list, one column for pros, one column for cons. Go with the longest list.

Or toss a coin?

From personal experience I can tell you that unloading years and years of stuff the first time was freeing, the second time was doubly freeing, the third time was triply freeing! I didn't think I could do it because I was so attached to so much stuff and was afraid that I'd feel guilty for getting rid of things that I inherited that were so precious/important to the people who left them to me.

And now? I really, truly don't miss any of the stuff. Nope. None of it. To tell the truth, it's nice to no longer be a slave to all the stuff that I thought I couldn't live without. I kept a very few "things" that had been in the family. Small things...a plate, a basket...a figurine...a music box... And now I guard against adding stuff. My Hovel is so tiny that there's nowhere to put any more stuff than I already have.

Be kind to yourself, Deb. Commit to making your life better, easier, more pleasant. Then do it, not because we all tell you that you should but because you deserve it.

When you find a house that pleases you, pull the trigger and buy it. Go shopping for furniture that you really love and have it delivered. Take your clothes and personal items, your favorite kitchen things, and your Self, and move in.

Then take your time cleaning out the family home, sell the house for whatever you can get and be done with it. Enjoy the rest of your life.
 
GeorgiaXplant said:
There's always the age-old method to help you decide: make a list, one column for pros, one column for cons. Go with the longest list.

Or toss a coin?

From personal experience I can tell you that unloading years and years of stuff the first time was freeing, the second time was doubly freeing, the third time was triply freeing! I didn't think I could do it because I was so attached to so much stuff and was afraid that I'd feel guilty for getting rid of things that I inherited that were so precious/important to the people who left them to me.

And now? I really, truly don't miss any of the stuff. Nope. None of it. To tell the truth, it's nice to no longer be a slave to all the stuff that I thought I couldn't live without. I kept a very few "things" that had been in the family. Small things...a plate, a basket...a figurine...a music box... And now I guard against adding stuff. My Hovel is so tiny that there's nowhere to put any more stuff than I already have.

Be kind to yourself, Deb. Commit to making your life better, easier, more pleasant. Then do it, not because we all tell you that you should but because you deserve it.

When you find a house that pleases you, pull the trigger and buy it. Go shopping for furniture that you really love and have it delivered. Take your clothes and personal items, your favorite kitchen things, and your Self, and move in.

Then take your time cleaning out the family home, sell the house for whatever you can get and be done with it. Enjoy the rest of your life.
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Yup gave most of my precious stuff to my kids already, like my wedding photo album, son didn’t want it daughter did, worthless except to the family. Parting with my large DVD collection was really hard. Kept my very favorite movies the rest spread between children and grandchildren.

Son got my mother”s cookbook and silverware set which will go to granddaughter. Said he tried to clean it up once and gave up. 😂. I had to shine the 12 piece setting up once a week. A lot of my stuff was broken during the recent move so that solved that issue. Not rebuying anything.

Whatever is left, they can take a bulldozer to, except my new couch, son has already called dibs on it, lol.
 
I always wondered what to do with my family photo albums. The only relatives I have now are 3 aunts by marriage and 8 cousins (3 on father's side and 5 on mom's). They wouldn't be any more interested in them that I would be in theirs. Sad to think how precious these pictures were to some people at one time. My mother's younger brother was in the process of collecting family photos, sorting and categorizing them. Then he got sick and passed away last year. I know his wife doesn't have the interest or ambition to keep up with it. She's in her 80s now.
 
Deb, are any of the pictures 5x7 or larger, or portraits? How's this for an idea? Google the Cracker Barrel website, go to their "contact us" tab. Tell them you have old photos, old tools, odds and ends, and ask if they would be interested in buying any of them. They'll probably ask for photos. What the heck, what have you got to lose. They might say no, but they can't say yes unless you ask.
 
debodun said:
I always have a tough time making decisions. I have to weigh all the pros, cons and other options. By the time I get around to do anything about it, the opportunity is gone.
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Quit overanalyzing Deb. You're suffering from Analysis Paralysis. You've thought about it a lot, it's time to decide.

No one can force you to move but keep in mind ~ you're punishing yourself unnecessarily. For once, be kind to yourself, enjoy the next 30 yrs being happy in a nice house😊. It will be a huge bonus if the neighbor is a widower and wants to mingle 🙃😝🤭
 
Deb what advice would you give to someone that is identical to you in keeping items that no one wants & living in a home that is as you describe it a disaster?
 
Combine the seltzer, iced tea and lemonade. You'll get a dandy combo of lemony, carbonated tea. Sounds kinda refreshing to me. Jussayin...

And think about what Knight just asked you.
 
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