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StarSong said:
Most people are emotionally attached to houses they've lived in for a long time. I have no resistance to moving despite having some attachment to the house. Humans are typically hard wired to prefer the familiar to the unfamiliar.

That said, I've lived in three different states and in 15 different houses or apartments (11 of them when I was ages 18-30), so any possible trepidation about moving was wiped out long ago.

Deb, I think you DO have an attachment to that house or at least a fear of moving.
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I agree with a fear of moving, a fear of leaving that house. The attachment issues, she is either unaware or it’s a negative attachment. Due to the state of the house I think it’s a negative attachment.
 

You can speculate all you like on the relationship I have with the house. I am near the house I lived in growing up and hardly ever drive by. I did have to at a few years ago when I was delivering meals-on-wheels to someone in that neighborhood.
 
debodun said:
You can speculate all you like on the relationship I have with the house. I am near the house I lived in growing up and hardly ever drive by. I did have to at a few years ago when I was delivering meals-on-wheels to someone in that neighborhood.
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We are talking about your current house that you live in, not the house where you grew up and was sold. The house we grow up in is a childhood memory house.
 

Deb is coming here for help. She's a single woman, like myself, with no one to bounce around ideas and speculations.

The psychoanalytical stuff going on is too much, IMO. We may be smart due to experiences we've had, but except for Shalimar, we're not licensed professionals. Telling someone how they feel when they are objecting to the description is presumptuous and possibly insulting. IMO, of course.
 
I think Deb has me on ignore because I've been pointing out the negatives of living in what she herself has described as a disaster of a home. Like others I think I've offered some constructive advice that has been ignored.

Posting that she is almost 70 & living as she describes, Deb's recent reveal about how her parents controlled her plus other revelations in her posts has me feeling really sorry for her. The hoarding, distrust of neighbors & repair people [handymen] all indicative living at home under her parents control.


Reading her various posts was like a light bulb moment into what a great life my wife & I have experienced. I won't be posting anymore about her home since it could be causing her to feel bad.
 
Pepper said:
Deb is coming here for help. She's a single woman, like myself, with no one to bounce around ideas and speculations.

The psychoanalytical stuff going on is too much, IMO. We may be smart due to experiences we've had, but except for Shalimar, we're not licensed professionals. Telling someone how they feel when they are objecting to the description is presumptuous and possibly insulting. IMO, of course.
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Nothing I have said is meant to be presumptuous or insulting, but merely to help Deb. Maybe I should point out that I am the only one who cared enough to ask her certain questions. I am not a therapist. But I have a lot of life experiences.

I notice that my son wanted to go on vacation, badly, but when on vacation he worried constantly about what was happening at the group home. At the last vacation we had to return early due to the stress he experienced, we can no longer take him with us.

This led to a connection between his actions and Debs actions. Wanting to go, but unable to. People, unless they have had therapy, may not be aware of their true feelings about issues. Suggesting Deb have therapy, to sort out her feelings, is appropriate , IMO. After all, I have had therapy. Nothing wrong with therapy except the cost.
 
Pepper said:
Deb is coming here for help. She's a single woman, like myself, with no one to bounce around ideas and speculations.

The psychoanalytical stuff going on is too much, IMO. We may be smart due to experiences we've had, but except for Shalimar, we're not licensed professionals. Telling someone how they feel when they are objecting to the description is presumptuous and possibly insulting. IMO, of course.
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I think everyone understands that. But when help is offered and rejected/deflected bouncing ideas & speculations brings out ideas & speculations from posters like me.

If Shalimar has been following the various threads posted by Deb may she would offer an opinion n whether or not Deb should seek professional help. I think it's pretty standard for opinions to vary on an international forum not all opinions being sympathetic due to life experiences.
 
Jules said:
Good grief. Deb is analyzing a life changing decision. She asked for opinions for her house, not for her personality. Some of us like to do things more slowly than others. All she asked for was advice on places.
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What do you mean “life changing decision” on her house? We have all looked at the pictures of her house. There is no decision on her house because her house is dangerous and she needs to move or fix it up. The house is toxic. She will have to move out while it is fixed.

We all love/like Deb and are concerned for her health and safety. Anyone’s impatient comes from concern for her safety and welfare. We have all been, decision wise, where she is. Unable to decide a major decision, and therefore, we seek help and opinions from others.

Once she posted pictures of her kitchen that picture IMO, became an outcry for help of any kind. I recognize her bravery and desperation in starting this thread and posting pictures of her house. Since she has no family to speak of that I know of, and possibly no close friends, we are her family.

She has asked her forum family for help. We are trying to help. She cannot afford “to be slow”, due to the condition of the house and approaching winter. IMO.
 
Jules said:
Good grief. Deb is analyzing a life changing decision. She asked for opinions for her house, not for her personality. Some of us like to do things more slowly than others. All she asked for was advice on places.
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One advice given was to contact either Lowes or Home Depot to see if either could offer a general contractor to look at all the repairs needed to get an estimate of what it would cost to renovate her home. Deb was looking at homes for 200k which she claims she could pay cash for. A free estimate to get a total cost to compare renovation to moving was ignored.

Offering advice is what she was/is looking for & many including myself have done so out of compassion for her.
 
I heard back from the owner. He said he took it off the market for a while, but the price is still non-negotiable. Could it be that people know about the big tract housing project going in across the street?

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What a coincidence! Was thinking of you and different houses just this morning and was wondering if you are still interested!
 
debodun said:
This just came on the market. I thought it looked familiar, I've actually been in it. I used to deliver meals to the woman that lived there. I know she went into assisted care a while back, but hadn't heard she passed. It's in my price range and it's one-level.

https://www.realtor.com/realestateandhomes-detail/587-Hudson-Ave_Stillwater_NY_12170_M32153-49858
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No handrails on the basement stairs so out of code. They would have to bring that up to code. I like it.
 
It's a nice house but I would pass on it.

A house on a corner lot is nice because you have one less neighbor to deal with but you also have twice as much sidewalk to shovel and maintain.

I also like the river view but I wouldn't want to pay taxes and have to maintain the river frontage because it would be of no use to me. I would also be concerned about flooding.

Finally, if you do choose to buy it ask what the taxes will be under a new assessment based on the sales price. It looks like the existing taxes may double when the property is reassessed.

Good luck!
 

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