Ladies... your turn

ladies! Get a grip! You are embarrassing yourselves...
 

Looks are so unimportant to me, including my own. Personality is where it is at. Someone can look ok but be a horrible human being, as many of these celebs are!
 
Justme said:
Looks are so unimportant to me, including my own. Personality is where it is at. Someone can look ok but be a horrible human being, as many of these celebs are!
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I think character is the most important thing, more important than personality. Looks are far down the list for me, but it's nice to look!
 
My looks are extremely important to me. If I feel I look nice, then my entire attitude and disposition is adjusted upward. If I feel unattractive, it really bums me out.. Call me shallow.. but how I look is more important to me than how my partner looks.
 
QuickSilver said:
My looks are extremely important to me. If I feel I look nice, then my entire attitude and disposition is adjusted upward. If I feel unattractive, it really bums me out.. Call me shallow.. but how I look is more important to me than how my partner looks.
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Mine are important to me, but not extremely. Fitness is very important to me. I can't tolerate flab, makes me feel horrible.

I have found many men attractive even though on the outside they aren't great-looking but what's inside seems to shine through and makes them seem attractive.
 
Ameriscot said:
Mine are important to me, but not extremely. Fitness is very important to me. I can't tolerate flab, makes me feel horrible.

I have found many men attractive even though on the outside they aren't great-looking but what's inside seems to shine through and makes them seem attractive.
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I agree.. and I include fitness into the word "looks"... cuz let's face it, I'm never going to look like a 30 something again. I have a much more tolerant view of looks in a partner and have been known to fall head over heals for someone that was not considered by any to very good looking. For me it's chemistry.. I certainly can't explain it.
 
QuickSilver said:
I agree.. and I include fitness into the word "looks"... cuz let's face it, I'm never going to look like a 30 something again. I have a much more tolerant view of looks in a partner and have been known to fall head over heals for someone that was not considered by any to very good looking. For me it's chemistry.. I certainly can't explain it.
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Right, I was thinking more in terms of hair, makeup, etc. Fitness and a good weight is very important to me. I'm a very unhappy person when I'm overweight and flabby and feel dumpy. I quit wearing makeup except for lipstick.

I met my husband online and fell in love with him before I ever laid eyes on him. He did send me photos of himself eventually. So chemistry did not play a part at all, although when I met him it hit me hard.
 
Twixie said:
How strange Ameriscot!! I'm not knocking it, but how did you know he wasn't ''The Mad Axeman?''
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I knew. When we arranged to meet (me in US, him in UK) both of us had warnings from our friends that the other could be an ax murderer!

We had emailed each other a ton and knew a LOT about each other, plus we began talking on the phone. He was just looking for an email pal but we just kept on communicating and we just clicked. I trusted my instincts. We weren't kids - we were 48 and 51.
 
Ralphy1 said:
ladies! Get a grip! You are embarrassing yourselves...
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what's the matter? Are you shocked that women like men as much as men like women? Do you not think we take notice of men AND that we talk to each other about it? This is what has made the world go 'round Ralphy.
 
When I was about 13 I stated that I wasn't interested in boys, and didn't want to get married ever! I remember the amused looks on the faces of the people to whom I made that statement. Two years later I met my husband to be, after my father told me to be polite to the much younger brother of a friend of theirs. I wasn't in the mood to be polite, but for once did as I was told!

I have absolutely no idea why we became an item, although we only saw each other during my school and his university holidays. We married four years later and have stuck it out for 45 years even though we have absolutely nothing in common apart from our children. I never set out to attract him, I have never flirted in my life, I think that is a yucky thing to do! My clothes which mainly consist of T shirts and trousers are comfortable and clean, and certainly not intended to be a turn on to the male of the species, I would detest wearing 'sexy' clothes to give a bloke the come on. I rarely wear makeup as I hate the feel of it on my face. I can't remember whether I wore makeup on my wedding day, something else in which I had little interest. My mother insisted I wore a wedding dress which she chose, left to me I would have worn jeans a Tshirt! :D I am happy being just me and certainly wouldn't wish to be any different.
 
Justme said:
When I was about 13....... I am happy being just me and certainly wouldn't wish to be any different.
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I'm just curious as to why you got married in the first place if you don't mind my asking?

I know some young women have grown up with dreams of their perfect day, the white picket fence, etc. but it doesn't sound like that was you at all. Have you ever pinpointed a particular reason? Or maybe, if that's just what women did (back then) what was it about your husband that helped you decide he was the one?
 
Twixie said:
How strange Ameriscot!! I'm not knocking it, but how did you know he wasn't ''The Mad Axeman?''
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I met my present husband online too. We corresponded for a long while before I agreed to meet him. When I did, I chose the time and the place. It was a crowded restaurant in the middle of the morning. IHOP to be exact. I also arranged for a friend to call me during the meeting and a code word made up that would alert her I needed help. None of that was necessary. He was a perfect gentleman.. He even brought me flowers. Our short meeting for coffee turned into a 3 hour conversation. It was still a while before I let him know my home address so he could pick me up to go out for dinner. I'm not sure why online meeting has such a stigma. It's not any different than meeting somewhere anywhere else. You don't know anything about anyone you first meet.
 
Ameriscot said:
I knew. When we arranged to meet (me in US, him in UK) both of us had warnings from our friends that the other could be an ax murderer!

We had emailed each other a ton and knew a LOT about each other, plus we began talking on the phone. He was just looking for an email pal but we just kept on communicating and we just clicked. I trusted my instincts. We weren't kids - we were 48 and 51.
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That's so sweet..I'm glad you met your soulmate..:love_heart:

You certainly looked far enough!
 
QuickSilver said:
It was still a while before I let him know my home address so he could pick me up to go out for dinner. I'm not sure why online meeting has such a stigma. It's not any different than meeting somewhere anywhere else. You don't know anything about anyone you first meet.
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I was reading that 1 in 10 on-line meetings ended in ''Date rape'' whatever that is..people can tell you a lot of lies on-line..and can be a hunting ground for the lower end of society...

I once saw a docu about on-line dating...an English guy started to contact a woman in prison..she told him that she was in for tax evasion...she needed money so he sent her a monthly allowance...he'd obviously fallen deeply in love with her..at the end of the program..he was shown a picture of the lady who he was actually contacting...nothing like her photo's..and she wasn't in for tax evasion...she was in for perpetuity for torturing and murdering 3 young men...
 
Debby said:
I'm just curious as to why you got married in the first place if you don't mind my asking?

I know some young women have grown up with dreams of their perfect day, the white picket fence, etc. but it doesn't sound like that was you at all. Have you ever pinpointed a particular reason? Or maybe, if that's just what women did (back then) what was it about your husband that helped you decide he was the one?
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We got on ok and I was quite happy to marry him, I wasn't career mind and have never needed to work outside the home since we married. We had worked out a game plan or our life together, how many kids etc and have achieved what we set out to do. Of course we didn't anticipate his subarachnoid haemorrhage, which trashed half his brain when he was 59!

I have never had an interest in weddings, parties or other social gatherings if it means getting dressed up, which I detest. I have always been a tom boy and will be to the day I die!:D
 
Oh I like getting dresssed up now and again!I'm not a tom boy type, at all. That doesn't mean I'm a pushover though, I have a mind [and use it] but like to look attractive and feminine.
 
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