Obituary sticker shock

I'm so sorry for your loss. It can leave such a hole. There are places where one can put tributes. One of them is Find A Grave...if your father chooses to put her in a cemetery. I found an old boyfriend and posted a long tribute to him - for free. You might be able to put something about her on ancestry.com or https://www.weremember.com/ I don't know if that would cost you anything.
 

You are getting ripped off following society's norms. When my wife died I did not put one solitary word in any newspaper. I mean "who was she?" Golda Meir, Madonna? Marie Curie? Margaret Thatcher? I don't mean to give offense here but why does the world need to know about her passing? It's family & friends that really matter not cold unfeeling society. I figured I would not waste my money putting some obituary in some paper that few people would read. So, what we did was write the obituary when my wife was still around. She had input & she wrote most of it. When she passed on, I made copies of this obituary & it will be send along with the Christmas newsletter & the Christmas cards to all family & friends. Therefore, we know that it will be read & that the Christmas cards will really be appreciated. Making cards of all kinds was one of my wife's hobbies. She had lived 20 years in Cornwall & this was one way she kept in contact with friends near & far. The obituary is a full page with a colour photo. It is something that people can keep if they want to. Guess I have been a rebel pretty well all my life & I like original thinking. Those newspaper obituary don't make any sense to me unless that person was a famous celebrity, person in the government, the long serving mayor of a town or city or a famous criminal. Sorry about your mother's passing; especially during these darn Covid-19 days.
 
Packerjohn said:
You are getting ripped off following society's norms. When my wife died I did not put one solitary word in any newspaper. I mean "who was she?" Golda Meir, Madonna? Marie Curie? Margaret Thatcher? I don't mean to give offense here but why does the world need to know about her passing? It's family & friends that really matter not cold unfeeling society. I figured I would not waste my money putting some obituary in some paper that few people would read. So, what we did was write the obituary when my wife was still around. She had input & she wrote most of it. When she passed on, I made copies of this obituary & it will be send along with the Christmas newsletter & the Christmas cards to all family & friends. Therefore, we know that it will be read & that the Christmas cards will really be appreciated. Making cards of all kinds was one of my wife's hobbies. She had lived 20 years in Cornwall & this was one way she kept in contact with friends near & far. The obituary is a full page with a colour photo. It is something that people can keep if they want to. Guess I have been a rebel pretty well all my life & I like original thinking. Those newspaper obituary don't make any sense to me unless that person was a famous celebrity, person in the government, the long serving mayor of a town or city or a famous criminal. Sorry about your mother's passing; especially during these darn Covid-19 days.
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^^^^ Bingo! I also refuse to allow anyone to rip me off by using my emotions.
 
@Gaer - Thank you

@Packerjohn - I'm not at all offended. The obituary was what my father wanted, not me. I'm just helping by taking care of it. We have the longer obituary we wrote up and I've included a photo and created a pdf file that my sister and my father are sending out to people.
 
Reminds me of when my dad passed. He had a pre-paid funeral - everything was detailed right down to the choice of casket, which was a plain one. When my sister & I made arrangements, the funeral director tried to steer us to a more-expensive casket & my sister started to go for it. But I was able to calmly convince her that changing what our dad chose would not be respecting his wishes.
 
I sometimes lose track of people. We all do. So at this age I look for an obituary for them. I like to know when someone that I care about has died. I plan to put an obituary in the paper if my husband dies first. He plans to put one in the paper if I die first. At first we weren't planning to do that. We will do it for those who still care, even if we lost track of them. The funeral home usually handles it around here. If it's expensive to do that at the time, it will be a short one.
 
asp3, sorry for your loss. What highway robbery, I had no idea, I guess that's why they promote life insurance policies so that the bereaved can pay all the vultures picking their pockets during times of grief.
 
Gary O' said:
I think printed newspaper folks are trying to recover their current losses
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That’s what I think too. I do know it was expensive not so many years ago too.

If you’re famous, they do a big article about you - for free.
 
For those who have loved ones who graduated from a university, I was able to post her obituary in her alma mater alumni notes for free. You might try that way of notifying old classmates.
 
I think the obituaries do serve a purpose, in notifying people who may have not been particularly close to the departed or their family, but who might want to know. Neighbors, for instance. But why should it cost a king's ransom?
 

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