Treat em mean, keep em keen,....(spoken by those savvy in the game of love perhaps?)!
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I never understood it either, Charry, but over the years the only logical thing I can think of related to an otherwise illogical union of two people, is that the one partner never had high expectations.My friend had been married to a pig for 43 yrs , I just donāt understand it ...
Get married, settle down, and life is life, may not be perfect, but I'm happy (sort of thing).
tbeltrans
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I always wondered why some (not all!!!) women find the nice guys boring and seem to go for the "bad boys" and then cry about it when the bad boy does his thing. To me, that would be like having a tiger instead of a cat for a pet and then the tiger does its thing and the pet owner wonders why s/he ends up in the hospital getting patched up.
Tony
People truly are the product of their own making.
They bring on so much upon themselves that otherwise shouldn't have been brought on.
grahamg
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Here is a theory for you,....., there may be more rhyme and reason in these seemingly poor choices, if the union creates children, where both sides input in terms of genetics benefits or simply fits with the other in some special way!People truly are the product of their own making.
They bring on so much upon themselves that otherwise shouldn't have been brought on.
I know its outlandish to suggest this, but my future wife was able to tell me she wanted my child very early in our courtship, and I met a woman who I confess was "out of my league" intellectually, but I got a feeling very quickly there was something very special about her, (we met only the once, or over a couple of days at a conference in Edinburgh, and no romance even attempted, not even a kiss!
).The only "theory" I see related to many failed marriages... couples who rushed in, couples who never got to truly know one another, one partner out for themselves (financial gain, materialism, etc), one partner looking for a "trophy", one partner in it strictly for convenience.Here is a theory for you,....., there may be more rhyme and reason in these seemingly poor choices, if the union creates children, where both sides input in terms of genetics benefits or simply fits with the other in some special way!
I know its outlandish to suggest this, but my future wife was able to tell me she wanted my child very early in our courtship, and I met a woman who I confess was "out of my league" intellectually, but I got a feeling very quickly there was something very special about her, (we met only the once, or over a couple of days at a conference in Edinburgh, and no romance even attempted, not even a kiss!
grahamg
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When that cupid's arrow first hit you, didn't you feel a twinge like no other?
.Of course one does, but that isn't grounds for introducing manipulation.When that cupid's arrow first hit you, didn't you feel a twinge like no other?
grahamg
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Ah, "of course one does",.............., stick with that thought a little while longer, then try to imagine a global force directing whoever it might be towards their mate, and vast odds you'd have to admit, manipulation or no manipulation!
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grahamg
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You won't believe this, (so I don't know why I'm trying to tell you?), but I listened to a radio show last night where the subject of "kissing" was being discussed, and they said scientists have found partners with "histo-compatibilities" tend to seek one another out, so it looks as though my wacky ideas above are backed by a bit of science!
Like it or not therefore your parents may well have had biology, or ultimately science, (and even something higher?), guiding their choices of partner, and who to have a child with, creating your good self, (I find that thought comforting, and I hope it isn't too disconcerting for you?).
BTW what are the chances of someone starting a thread on an odd topic such as this, then that very night hear radio programme connected with the thread topic? (I neglected to tell you it was a comedy show so you may wish to check the voracity of the assertions made?)!