What would you have done in this hypothetical situation?

I wouldn't make an issue out of it....I'd probably say "....sorry I've gotten things wrong...", or something like that.
Then I'd decline to accept any further invitations to their home.
They're a little dysfunctional and I'm not their therapist but I'm not going to make things worse either.
 

Gemma said:
So this is just a hypothetical situation?
I would be inquiring why she is having a social gathering at all during a pandemic and question why you would attend it.
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I read it as being a real situation we're being asked hypothetical questions as to what we might do about, (but I could be completely wrong, and Covid rules might not have come into it, or were followed?). :)

If its all made up, what I'd say is more fool me for thinking I was imparting valuable nuggets of wisdom to someone who might appreciate it! :) :) :)
 
grahamg said:
I read it as being a real situation we're being asked hypothetical questions as to what we might do about, (but I could be completely wrong, and Covid rules might not have come into it, or were followed?). :)

If its all made up, what I'd say is more fool me for thinking I was imparting valuable nuggets of wisdom to someone who might appreciate it! :) :) :)
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Poster did say "in this hypothetical situation". Doesn't mean your valuable nuggets went to waste, though.
 
At a large function there a is usually too much food leftover and the hostess doesn’t want it to go to waste, so people are usually invited to help themselves and take it home. Too avoid the rush free food rush 😂, people are usually invited, one by one, to help themselves.

The daughter might be food insecure and wants to take the food to her house.
 
The daughter made you feel bad and the mother did nothing in your defense. As the hostess, part of her role is to protect her guests. They both were wrong. I would never go back there again without a proper apology from both of them.

"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel."
Maya Angelou (The fact that this still bothers you proves this is true.)

I just don't give people a chance to hurt me a second time. If I run into them somewhere, I will be polite, but that is all. I never initiate any conversations or meetings.

"When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time."
Maya Angelou


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Ceege said:
The daughter made you feel bad and the mother did nothing in your defense. As the hostess, part of her role is to protect her guests. They both were wrong. I would never go back there again without a proper apology from both of them.
"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel."
Maya Angelou (The fact that this still bothers you proves this is true.)
I just don't give people a chance to hurt me a second time. If I run into them somewhere, I will be polite, but that is all. I never initiate any conversations or meetings.
"When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time. "Maya Angelou
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Tough nut that Maya Angelou you have to say dont you, (oh and its all hypothetical I'm told too :rolleyes::whistle:!?).
 
Overall I would think it's miscommunication. On who's part I'm not sure, but I wouldn't jump to think there was any malice in the situation.

Beyond that I wouldn't think that I'm privy to any of the backstory that lead up to the incident.

What I would do in the future would depend on the level of friendship or acquaintance I had with the co-worker, our relative levels in the company and whether I had an enjoyable time at the gathering outside of the incident. I might also factor in how I got along with the daughter before the food incident.
 
Depending on what kind of food it was and how much I liked it, I'd have opened up the damned refrigerator, pulled the stuff back out and loaded up those containers with as much as I could pack in there. If someone didn't like it, I'd say "Tough sh*t" and take my food home. Screw them. 😁
 
Jim W. said:
Depending on what kind of food it was and how much I liked it, I'd have opened up the damned refrigerator, pulled the stuff back out and loaded up those containers with as much as I could pack in there. If someone didn't like it, I'd say "Tough sh*t" and take my food home. Screw them. 😁
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I can see there are some areas of your life where you shouldn't be messed around, one being someone attempting to get between you and your grub! :) .
 
debodun said:
Say you were invited to a co-workers home for a social function where food is being served. Afterwards the host insists that you take some of the leftover food home and even gives you containers for it, then leaves the kitchen. You start to transfer food when a voice behind you says, "What do you think you're doing?" You turn around to see the host's daugher standing there with a big scowl on her face. You explain that her mother said you could help yourself to the leftovers. She exclaims that her mother had no right to do that and quickly grabs the food away and puts in back in the refrigerator and leaves the kitchen. A minute later the host returns and asks where the food is. You explain what happened. The host only says "I'll speak to her later about that.", but doesn't offer the food again. Is this a gross case of mis-communication or a set-up to humiliate you?
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This is a little too bizarre to be believable. Still, you never know.

I would have confronted both the mother and daughter together, and demanded to know what's going on. Certainly, the innocent "victim" of this nonsense shouldn't be made to feel guilty or apologetic; they did absolutely nothing wrong!
 
Not a set up. I'd say some kind of miscommunication with family dynamics thrown in that are unknown. The host sounds kind and the daughter may have issues. And who knows what's going on with those two anyway. There may be some deeper behavior/personality issues at play here that really would have nothing to do with the person who was offered food to take home. That person just got stuck in the middle of it.
 
Remy said:
Not a set up. I'd say some kind of miscommunication with family dynamics thrown in that are unknown. The host sounds kind and the daughter may have issues. And who knows what's going on with those two anyway. There may be some deeper behavior/personality issues at play here that really would have nothing to do with the person who was offered food to take home. That person just got stuck in the middle of it.
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I think you may be right, and I'd guess professionals get training into how to spot and deal with such family dynamics when they come across it in whatever capacity that might be, and as a rule they'd decline whatever similar offers were made to them by the family. :unsure:.
 
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