Ever have tipping remorse?

If restaurant service is bad so is my tip or lack of. The phrase "I work for tips" should mean exactly that. The last place I ate lunch at I left nothing and was tempted to leave a nickel. I tip generously when I am pleased with the person and their service. I figure the best way to get rid of lousy servers is to not pay them.
 

fmdog44 said:
If restaurant service is bad so is my tip or lack of. The phrase "I work for tips" should mean exactly that. The last place I ate lunch at I left nothing and was tempted to leave a nickel. I tip generously when I am pleased with the person and their service. I figure the best way to get rid of lousy servers is to not pay them.
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Thank you for this, FM, my sentiment to a T.
 
It's not the responsibility customers to subsidize the low wages of underpaid employees.

I'm a good tipper when merited, but I never leave a 2 cent tip. Btw this forum has several threads where tipping is discussed at length.
 
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applecruncher said:
It's not the responsibility customers to subsidize the low wages of underpaid employees.
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Exactly. That's been thrust upon us and it's as unfair a practice to wait staff as it is to us. They get taxed for their tips (at some restaurants it's easy to "cheat" at others it isn't bc the customer must tip using a card). Their employers should have to simply pay them a fair wage.
 
Murrmurr said:
Do you think it just caught on or that I'm probably incorrect?
I know tipping isn't done in the few places I've traveled to, England, South America, and Thailand, and they don't understand why we do it. Some of those places think tipping is rude.
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I honestly don't know and I have had similar experiences traveling to those same locations. Regarding rudeness, we do have to be careful because different cultures have different "rules" regarding what is, and isn't, rude. :unsure:

Tony
 
Murrmurr said:
Exactly. That's been thrust upon us and it's as unfair a practice to wait staff as it is to us. They get taxed for their tips (at some restaurants it's easy to "cheat" at others it isn't bc the customer must tip using a card). Their employers should have to simply pay them a fair wage.
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Agreed. !

Tony
 
Life has been financially kind to me and my wife and we tend to be generous tippers, especially at this time of year and more especially because of the pandemic.
I tip everyone: garbage collectors, fast food workers, you name it. The least I can do is try to help these people out.
Service has to be pretty bad for me to give a small tip.
 
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Pinky said:
There was one time, eons ago, that I left a 1cent tip .. before I had a conscience.
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I got a 2 cent tip once when I worked at Pizza Hut as a teenager. It was the only tip I got and I scrupulously listed it on the tip pay form I submitted at the end of the day. Looking back I wonder what the manager thought.
 
Aunt Bea said:
Over tipping can create awkward situations and change the balance in a relationship but I still do it when I feel that it's important to me.

The last time was at the local Supercuts for a basic haircut that came to around $18.00 with tax. I added a $20.00 dollar tip to the bill in an effort to show my appreciation and support for the young woman's efforts/struggle during the pandemic.
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I’m just like this and wouldn’t change a thing about it. I enjoy showing appreciation and gratitude ( yet not haircuts since I cut my own )
 
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Question asked by OP:

Ever have tipping remorse?​

Another completely different perspective on the meaning of this question could be that you have just enough to drink to get "tipsy" so that you feel as if you are constantly tipping over. In this case, "tipping remorse" happens when you get stopped as you are driving home and you get a DUI/DWI charge. Your insurance goes up, you need a lawyer, and your wallet takes a real hit, not to mention the hit on your driving record. Since such data seems so intertwined these days, you could find your credit score dropping too. What a mess!

Tipping remorse? You bet! You swear you will never do it again.

English, what a wacky language...

Tony
 
I've never understood the percentage-of-the-bill tipping. If I order a $4 bowl of chicken-noodle soup and my dining partner orders a $10 bowl of lobster bisque and the server brings them out on the same tray, why would my 20% tip be $.80 and hers be $2.00? Has the server worked harder to carry the $10 soup?

I tipped a server 5 cents once. I would have tipped him a penny, but I didn't have any. He actually wanted to argue with me about whether I had had a Coke when it was obvious that there was nothing on the table but a half-filled glass of water, which I had had to ask for twice.
 
I know of workers who are underpaid, and I think at some point in our in lives most of us were underpaid. Did we expect tips? Were we allowed to keep a tip jar on our desk? 🙄😡
 
applecruncher said:
I know of workers who are underpaid, and I think at some point in our in lives most of us were underpaid. Did we expect tips? Were we allowed to keep a tip jar on our desk? 🙄😡
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Interesting question. If I didn't like my life's circumstance, I worked all the harder to change them. I went to college at night later in life, two classes per quarter while working full time during the day to get my degree and a better job. Of course, you have to do your due diligence to determine what degree to go for so you end up where you want to be. With a degree in Computer Science, I am sure I fared better than I would with a degree in philosophy in terms of being able to support my wife with all her medical expenses and save for retirement. I feel very fortunate to have had the drive and interest to accomplish that because it was a life-changing decision for the better.

However, I can't say that everybody is in a position to do something like that. We all have different life circumstances and can't judge another's circumstances by our own. What I do know is that, at least during my lifetime, wait staff, those who carry our bags, etc., have always been tipped. I don't know who started that practice, nor who sets the expected tip amount as I have been asking at various points in this thread.

Tony
 
Tipping is not a moral obligation. I mean it is not an ethical issue by which you are a good or bad person I wrote a article on it

I agree that the public should not be responsible for a workers wage. Even if they are it does not follow that YOU personally are. If you are then in a sense you are working for the employer by paying her wage! Workers feel entitled to tips like they are doing you a favor
Back to my question why do I over tip massage girls??
 
debodun said:
Tipping is not allowed in Japan. I guess they charge enough to make up for it.
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There was no tipping in Australia as well. It felt very odd to me. I did tip one time at my hairdresser's, because I was so thrilled to have found someone who did exactly what I'd asked for. They were surprised, and perhaps a bit uncomfortable, so I didn't do it again.
 
from tbeltrans

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"Most of us can probably remember when a 10% tip was "the norm". Who set that, and then who set "the norm" to 15%?"


To the IRS, tips are taxable income just like wages. If you earn tips, you're responsible for paying income, Social Security and Medicare tax on the tip money you receive.

What percentage are tips taxed at?
8%
Your employer will report your tip income on your W-2, Box 7 (Social Security tips). The law assumes an average tip rate of 8%, and it expects employees to report tips at least 8% of the gross food and drink sales. (The tip rate might be a lower agreed-upon rate.) The reported tip income might be less than 8%.

Reporting Taxes on Tip Income | H&R Block

Just as everything else the cost of living affects service jobs as time passes.

8% might not seem like a lot to a high wage earner but to those that apply for & get what they can get for a wage 8% is significant. Note that the deduction is for Social Security and Medicare. Then think about the millions that rely on Social Security and Medicare in their senior years.

The fact that not everyone can get a high paying job is what I'm posting about. Right now the demand for $15.00 an hour wage is costing businesses to go out of business.
 
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Victor said:
Tipping is not a moral obligation. I mean it is not an ethical issue by which you are a good or bad person I wrote a article on it

I agree that the public should not be responsible for a workers wage. Even if they are it does not follow that YOU personally are. If you are then in a sense you are working for the employer by paying her wage! Workers feel entitled to tips like they are doing you a favor
Back to my question why do I over tip massage girls??
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I would say that's a question that only you can answer.
 
Victor said:
Tipping is not a moral obligation. I mean it is not an ethical issue by which you are a good or bad person I wrote a article on it

I agree that the public should not be responsible for a workers wage. Even if they are it does not follow that YOU personally are. If you are then in a sense you are working for the employer by paying her wage! Workers feel entitled to tips like they are doing you a favor
Back to my question why do I over tip massage girls??
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Sounds like the making of a good riddle!
 
Victor said:
Tipping is not a moral obligation. I mean it is not an ethical issue by which you are a good or bad person I wrote a article on it

I agree that the public should not be responsible for a workers wage. Even if they are it does not follow that YOU personally are. If you are then in a sense you are working for the employer by paying her wage! Workers feel entitled to tips like they are doing you a favor
Back to my question why do I over tip massage girls??
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Seems everyone is afraid to ask. Do tell.
 
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