How to Impress a woman

Serenity4321 said:
Certainly treating women as equals is preferable to treating them 'less than' ...however women do appreciate and are impressed by efforts made on their behalf from a man...but I think you would agree with that
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Yes, I do. Some don't apparently think it is "manly" to help out with the chores such as dishes and laundry. However, my wife of 37 years can't do any of these things due to her increasing disabilities. She appreciates that I do these things for her. She also appreciates that I paid her way through college, so she became the first in her family to earn a 4 year degree which is something she always wanted. She also appreciates that we have a comfortable retirement and that she never had to work unless she chose to. She has never been denied anything that she wanted to have or do.

To her, these are the kinds of things that are important. I can't speak for other women and what they want. However, I can say that from what my wife says, she has always gotten what she wanted and needed from me. I have never stood in her way when she wanted to do something, have never taken the position that she should "obey" me or any of those kinds of silly control games. When you truly love another person, this kind of support and sharing is not some huge effort, but instead a natural part of being married.

I honestly don't understand the questioning about treating women as equals. It seems to me that there has long been a women's movement to achieve exactly that, and it has always seemed odd to me that such should be necessary. I don't mean that it wasn't, and isn't necessary, but instead that women should have always been equal without question. The idea that any race or gender of people should be on some sort of pecking order as greater or less than, or that countries are listed as such (i.e. "first world", "third world"), is just wrong all the way around.

All of the above that I have mentioned is, to me, something you would do without prompting or requiring marriage counseling if you truly love another. You do things for each other, rather than singling out that the husband should do for the wife. A marriage is a sharing partnership and it seems odd to me when people don't get that.

Tony
 

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horseless carriage said:
My former neighbour became a widow a good while back, she was married for close on 70 years. Since her husband died I have been corresponding with her, we are what was once called, pen-pals. She is nearly 93, is that senior enough? What impresses her is not the dozen or so A4 pages that I write to her every two or three weeks, it's the fact that I hand write her letters, the reason that she's most impressed is because I write in pen & ink, like this:
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That definitely would impress me as well and I see you make your "r"'s the same as I.
 
I said to Huzz the other day, "As I've been telling you for years and I'll remind you again now, never forget: I was attracted to you, decided to go out with you, fell in love with you, and married you IN SPITE OF your "macho man", "alpha male" quality. Let me re-emphasize that: IN SPITE OF. I liked you and fell in love with you for your other qualities, as you obviously fell in love with me in spite of my faults."
 

officerripley said:
I said to Huzz the other day, "As I've been telling you for years and I'll remind you again now, never forget: I was attracted to you, decided to go out with you, fell in love with you, and married you IN SPITE OF your "macho man", "alpha male" quality. Let me re-emphasize that: IN SPITE OF. I liked you and fell in love with you for your other qualities, as you obviously fell in love with me in spite of my faults."
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Some souls see other souls through all the junk. Lucky you
 
officerripley said:
I said to Huzz the other day, "As I've been telling you for years and I'll remind you again now, never forget: I was attracted to you, decided to go out with you, fell in love with you, and married you IN SPITE OF your "macho man", "alpha male" quality. Let me re-emphasize that: IN SPITE OF. I liked you and fell in love with you for your other qualities, as you obviously fell in love with me in spite of my faults."
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I think there is a unspoken expectation of a man to be macho, alpha male. Men who do not display these traits are often called less than a man. In the days of the cave man and centuries beyond, we were hunters, warriors and protectors. To roar loudly was often enough to frighten danger away. I myself have roared at a bear and crashed a limb against a tree that caused his retreat. In those days if a woman wanted to have a safe home and well fed children she chose the strongest hunter she could attract. The strutting I may do around here is for entertainment. I can be laughed at for dancing naked in a campfire but if I told you that tears rolled down my cheeks when I see young talent on AGT or when I saw those old At&t commercials or the sobs that ached in my chest when we buried my grandfather, there would be no laughter. I may swagger in the world and have naked news in my favorites but I also coach women on their self worth and in 2019 I taught beginning Tantra classes that in essence are learning to give and receive the deepest form of love long before they are ready for sexual intimacy. In this era of broken homes many children grow up without clear examples of gender. I love westerns and find films like Quigley down under, Lonesome dove, the Rifleman and John Wayne movies because they gave me strong male role models that were not part of my home. Playing the macho man is a game we play like a challenge to our male friends to see who can be more macho. We also play other unnamed games like what stupid thing I can do better than you. I do not want to start that topic -I might win!
 
Jondalar7 said:
Like when a woman comes over and says "Hi cowboy, Me and my twin sister Betty Lou want to have a Rodeo tonight." that's when you know she is hitting on you. Or when you are at Home Depot and she asks you for help finding something and then holds your hand in both of hers and says "My, you have such big strong hands." That's a hit on you moment.
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OMGosh
 
Hahahaha! Good one Tony!
If you REALLY want to know what impresses a woman or will make her fall in love with you, Be your regular manly self but let her glimpse the beauty and tenderness of your soul. Let her know you have deep feelings in your heart for her. Let her see your eyes tear from the thought of losing her.
She's yours! No woman can resist that!
 
Gaer said:
Hahahaha! Good one Tony!
If you REALLY want to know what impresses a woman or will make her fall in love with you, Be your regular manly self but let her glimpse the beauty and tenderness of your soul. Let her know you have deep feelings in your heart for her. Let her see your eyes tear from the thought of losing her.
She's yours! No woman can resist that!
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How would I know if she only felt sorry or pitied me? I don't want to cry and have her say, "Grow up, for God's sake. Stop whining like a baby." And then she would still leave me. All that effort to produce tears and for what? To be embarrassed?

(I'm just teasing you.) Happy Monday.
 
There is wisdom on this forum that much is known
I'm taking a hint from a line above
A poem is cheaper than a ring or a stone
My little poem to my unknown love

A little front porch poetry made today
Tap a toe to catch the beat
All ya'all can bounce and sway
Heck, go all in and stomp your feet

Let me do my part
No tears to show
Just an open heart
longing to flow

I long to love, hold someone in my arms
Within me is a heart of depth
I seek a love with honest charms
Off her feet she would be swept

I feel the thought of her,
dancing in my mind's eye
I hear a whisper of angel wings
visions lifting my soul to fly


My heart is full and awaits one to flow into
Love is patient, strong, warm and kind,
Be it near or far, she longs for my love too
A smile, a touch, what may be the sign?

Will she touch my hand or admire my hat
Two smiley faces could be my clue
When this is done, we will see about that
If she show up what would I do?

My poem is done
but this smile lingers on
If you are the one
My dance'n shoes I'll surly dawn

feelin it now, I'm on a roll
I know I should quit
I'll share my heart and soul
if you can touch it.
 
squatting dog said:
Ha, I once (once was enough) pee'd on an electric fence. My hair has remained curly. :D
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We had an electric fence tester. A bulb on one end and wire between it and the nail that we would stick in the ground. If we did not get a good contact we would spit on the bulb and than touch it back to the fence. Well Grandpa could not get a good connection so he spit.......on the fence....... the shock knocked both his uppers and lowers into the dirt. I fell down laughing and He figured the fence was good enough as is.
 
fuzzybuddy said:
How to impress a woman? It's simple as a,b,c. Only, it's spelt CASH. Yeah, like I'm way off. What's more impressive- a love poem, or arriving in a limo, with a gift from Tiffany's.
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You may recall 34-year-old Anna Nicole Smith marrying that wealthy 97 year old man. After he died & she tried to get his money, his sons took her to court. Some of Ms. Smith's testimony:

Judge: “Mrs. Smith, how old are you?”
Anna: “I’m 34.”
Judge: “How old was your husband when he died?”
Anna: “97.”
Judge: “Well, Mrs. Smith, when did you realize you were in love with this man who was 63 years older than you?”
Anna: “At that very moment when he said those three wonderful words that every woman wants to hear from her wealthy husband.”
Judge: “You mean I love you?”
Anna: “No; I can’t breathe.”
 
When I was fifty two I worked with a 19 year old girl at the Ponderosa Ranch in Lake Tahoe. The first day I saw her she was in the yard showing off by cracking a ten foot whip. At that moment I said to her "You look like my next ex wife" though I was joking, we grew very close and had a wonderful time. I knew our age difference was not going make a love relationship but I told her that I would gladly become her sponsor. Someone to help her accomplish whatever she wanted. What a marriage means to two people can be very different than what we think is the norm. At 97 if she makes me laugh, I would not mind if she was 34.
 
Jondalar7 said:
When I was fifty two I worked with a 19 year old girl at the Ponderosa Ranch in Lake Tahoe. The first day I saw her she was in the yard showing off by cracking a ten foot whip. At that moment I said to her "You look like my next ex wife" though I was joking, we grew very close and had a wonderful time. I knew our age difference was not going make a love relationship but I told her that I would gladly become her sponsor. Someone to help her accomplish whatever she wanted. What a marriage means to two people can be very different than what we think is the norm. At 97 if she makes me laugh, I would not mind if she was 34.
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You wouldn't mind, but she sure would.
Every night.
 
Packerjohn said:
I used to buy my wife fresh flowers nearly every week. She loved flowers. I also helped her in preparing meals, cleaning up afterwards & vacuuming the floor every time she mentioned that the floors needs some cleaning. When we did our daily walk outside I always held her hand. When she spoke, I always put down what I was doing or reading & listened very attentively to what she said. I tried to show that she was the most important thing in my life because she was.
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Very lucky lady.
 
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