grahamg
Old codger
- Location
- South of Manchester, UK
I'm feeling a bit let down by a sibling over her failure to inform me over a serious matter concerning our late father, and repeatedly misleading me over this, (though not lying I must add!).
Its probably best not to provide details on a forum such as this one, and you could fairly comment we're talking about "the past", (if not ancient history
).
My parents did express some reservations about this daughter, again fairly mild ones, maybe my father treating her slightly differently than our mother, (not quite ready to be so trusting with her perhaps). In fairness my father "pulled a few strokes" too, and my mother maybe chose to trust no one, (with the possible exception of yours truly! ).
I'm sure we all let one another down more often than we know perhaps, and overall let me acknowledge this sister is prepared to stand up for me more than any other sibling, so why complain(?). Just finding out after six years I've been kept in the dark is one reason, and the fact the consequences for my father were very significant, it could be argued.
I remember when my marriage failed, my wife going off with someone where she worked, and another work colleague of hers, who lived near our marital home gave me a lift home. He knew my wife was having an affair, and chose not to try to tell me, but as he was only an acquaintance, I don't feel let down by him, (maybe I'd have done the same in his shoes, in fact I think I have behaved similarly once!).
You can't know everything, obviously, you can't expect always to be kept informed obviously, but nonetheless I find myself thinking less of my sister right now, and I'm bothered by this as I'm sure you can tell, (we're not in contact right now, but it won't make matters any easier if we did meet I'm sure).
Its probably best not to provide details on a forum such as this one, and you could fairly comment we're talking about "the past", (if not ancient history
).My parents did express some reservations about this daughter, again fairly mild ones, maybe my father treating her slightly differently than our mother, (not quite ready to be so trusting with her perhaps). In fairness my father "pulled a few strokes" too, and my mother maybe chose to trust no one, (with the possible exception of yours truly!
).I'm sure we all let one another down more often than we know perhaps, and overall let me acknowledge this sister is prepared to stand up for me more than any other sibling, so why complain(?). Just finding out after six years I've been kept in the dark is one reason, and the fact the consequences for my father were very significant, it could be argued.
I remember when my marriage failed, my wife going off with someone where she worked, and another work colleague of hers, who lived near our marital home gave me a lift home. He knew my wife was having an affair, and chose not to try to tell me, but as he was only an acquaintance, I don't feel let down by him, (maybe I'd have done the same in his shoes, in fact I think I have behaved similarly once!).
You can't know everything, obviously, you can't expect always to be kept informed obviously, but nonetheless I find myself thinking less of my sister right now, and I'm bothered by this as I'm sure you can tell, (we're not in contact right now, but it won't make matters any easier if we did meet I'm sure).
