Just Old and Wearing Out Fast

Aneeda72 said:
Which is worst, being alone with no companion or having a companion who never listens, likes to argue about every little thing, is non supportive, who does his best to cause you problems, and who is only happy when you are upset?

Idk @Pepper. it seems the worst thing in MY life is being around my husband almost 24/7. Sad.
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Wow, that's a tough call.

I've been on both sides of that fence too many times to remember. It can be hell living with someone as you describe.

I've been "without a woman in my life" for years now, and I miss it. I guess ideally is to be with someone you click with.

I watched my parents as they aged and if one was sick, or had surgery and wasn't mobile, the other one picked up the slack. I kept thinking: "That's how it's supposed to be. I hope I don't end up being old and alone."

And so here I am. I have several "fantasy girlfriends," but that's all they are (I think).
 

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fmdog44 said:
Are the elderly smoking pot in states where it is legal? If so, is it helpful in relieving pain?
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I do edibles sometimes and it does help, although I think it just somehow removes your consciousness away from pain and towards more happy things -- unlike NSAID pain relievers which do not affect one's thought processes.

But whatever works, works. I get some comfort out of it and that's okay. :)
 

jerry old said:
No, no, i had a fantasy lady friend, but she became so bossy i had to cut her loose.
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Haha, mine are all true fantasies.

One is a 43 year-old really beautiful Ukrainian waitress who's been in this country since she was 11. A great personality and a great head on her shoulders. She has a slight accent which just adds to the (sexual) mystique. I told her last summer, "If I was younger _____ " You can fill in the blank. She got the message.

And another waitress at a different diner, about 16 years younger than me, but at least within range. We've been flirting (heavily!) for two years and I still don't know if she has a man in her life.

And the third is my doctor's fill-in, a 55-ish very pleasant looking and nice woman who is single. And she wants to date a worn-out old geezer who made a living by getting his hands dirty? LOL, I doubt it.

Which direction is the nursing home?
 
I was pretty lucky prior to breaking my leg and ankle pain wise , I’d rarely take the medication
recommended for joint pain called Panadol osteo it’s slightly stronger than standard Panadol and slow release as well so it gives you close on 8 hours relief .
Ive been looking at lists of foods that can cause inflammation in the body ( since my injury ) and if I ate then I’ve eliminated them ..I never eat cured meats like ham bacon or any goods made using those items as I know they can cause inflammation in our poor ole joints / bones
@Ruthanne
 
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Aunt Bea said:
I try to count my blessings that I'm not in worse shape than I am.

I've also accepted the fact that there are worse things than dying.

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I kinda resemble this cartoon...

You get old... you wear out... rather sad, but reality...
 
Ruthanne: Having Tourette Syndrome all my life was a daily battle. Now I have asthma/COPD to deal with daily on top of TS and various aches and ailments. The emotional part of being in a state of constant survival mode is difficult. Not to mention trying to work full time on top of all that. I have no support system here. I have to deal with this alone every day. I have no help. Just whatever coping mechanisms I can muster. I try to keep myself busy and entertained so that I'm just not focusing on it.

I find keeping entertained keeps my mind off my crap. I just get up each day and do what I gotta do to keep going. What else can you do? I do find my faith in God to be a huge comfort especially on the really bad days.

Hope things improve for you.
 
MarciKS said:
Ruthanne: Having Tourette Syndrome all my life was a daily battle. Now I have asthma/COPD to deal with daily on top of TS and various aches and ailments. The emotional part of being in a state of constant survival mode is difficult. Not to mention trying to work full time on top of all that. I have no support system here. I have to deal with this alone every day. I have no help. Just whatever coping mechanisms I can muster. I try to keep myself busy and entertained so that I'm just not focusing on it.

I find keeping entertained keeps my mind off my crap. I just get up each day and do what I gotta do to keep going. What else can you do? I do find my faith in God to be a huge comfort especially on the really bad days.

Hope things improve for you.
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Thank you for that post. I try to keep my mind off of my crap now too. If I don't I'm liable to go nuts. Entertaining ourselves and keeping that sense of humor is so important to me--I like funny stuff online and on tv and Netflix. I pray at times, too. For everyone. Keep on keeping on! That's the best we can do for ourselves. I, too, hope things for you improve--I've had some TS too and it is a very hard thing to deal with along with the anxiety disorders--I have PTSD and it's a struggle.
 
MarciKS said:
Was it diagnosed? Not all tics are TS. Some can be caused by other things. I still have trouble with mine. Had it since I was 9.
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I still have trouble with mine also but it has slowed down some. When I'm extremely nervous it gets real bad. That's why I take gabapentin and try to relax as best I can. I have told psychiatric people about it. It started when I was in college.
 
I’ve not read the entire thread so maybe this has been brought up already. Has anyone used a cream (diox-something) for severe arthritic pain? I have to get off of meloxicam temporarily and my doc recommended it. But it’s messy and smelly (using on wrists).

Also, I see that acupuncture was mentioned. My buddy said it’s working good for his 92 year old mother.

Opinions?
 
Everyone is different. In my opinion, you just need to try whatever you can to find some relief, and do what you can to keep your body working as well as possible for as long as possible.
I have had issues with both knees and find that walking as much as possible every day makes a difference.
I drink a lot of water and really watch my sodium because of vertigo attacks from my Meniere's.
Currently have to learn about iron in foods because I retain 4/5 times too much, so have cut back red meat to minimum.
Expect that there will continue to be another thing and another thing as I age because I am not bullet proof and bodies wear out LOL.
 
Old Dummy said:
I’ve not read the entire thread so maybe this has been brought up already. Has anyone used a cream (diox-something) for severe arthritic pain? I have to get off of meloxicam temporarily and my doc recommended it. But it’s messy and smelly (using on wrists).

Also, I see that acupuncture was mentioned. My buddy said it’s working good for his 92 year old mother.

Opinions?
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The cream I mentioned is "diclofenac sodium gel," generically. I've been using it for a week now and see no difference at all. What a smelly mess.

I have CBD caps coming in today's mail. I will switch to them and keep my fingers crossed even though that hurts. :)
 
Hi! Hope you're having a pain-free day. I've hurt myself 3x working out - my rotator cuff, my elbows and my knees due to stupidity, carelessness, and old age respectively :) I don't like taking pain killers so my go- to remedy for pain is turmeric. I know, crazy, right? But thankfully it works for me.

I also do yoga and mindful meditation and try a little qigong and taichi.
 

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