Making New Friends When Single and Alone

Ruthanne

Ruthanne

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This thread is for anyone to comment on but is about those who are single and alone making new friends.

So, I am attempting now to make some new friends again. At least I keep trying and haven't given up although I did give it a break and gave up for awhile.

I now have a garage parking space so I can go out here at any hour I want and still get a space to park. I'm thinking of going out to a nice restaurant that has outdoor dining and see if there are any others there alone, too. I think I need to try some new strategies while I'm still alive and kickin'. I have been fully vaccinated so I'm not afraid much to be around others in public except for large groups or crowds and I think that's a healthy fear.

I have put another ad on a website to try and meet someone and I'm very smart about it and don't give out my personal information right away until I can trust that the person responding is who they say they are. I'm not naïve and would not fall for someone who is trying to scam and I know all the signs to look for.

And also if anyone likes they can start a conversation with me here if they'd like to chat about things instead of posting in this thread.

Everyone's feedback is valuable in my book!
 

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Well I personally think you are very smart and brave to put yourself out there , especially with how things have changed so much. It’s good that you’ve recognized that you’d prefer to be with someone and that if you put this off any longer, you might never do it.

I honestly wish you much success and will put positive thoughts your way concerning this. You can do this Ruthanne plus you are a very nice person and completely worthy of a loving, committed relationship.
 

Keesha said:
Well I personally think you are very smart and brave to put yourself out there , especially with how things have changed so much. It’s good that you’ve recognized that you’d prefer to be with someone and that if you put this off any longer, you might never do it.

I honestly wish you much success and will put positive thoughts your way concerning this. You can do this Ruthanne plus you are a very nice person and completely worthy of a loving, committed relationship.
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Well said, Keesha.
 
Keesha said:
Well I personally think you are very smart and brave to put yourself out there , especially with how things have changed so much. It’s good that you’ve recognized that you’d prefer to be with someone and that if you put this off any longer, you might never do it.

I honestly wish you much success and will put positive thoughts your way concerning this. You can do this Ruthanne plus you are a very nice person and completely worthy of a loving, committed relationship.
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Thanks on the compliments. Yes, at times I'd prefer to be with someone but also value my alone time. I was planning on trying to make a new friend/friends again and not only for a committed relationship but it would just be nice to have someone to do things with again--it's been a long time since I've done that. You seem to have a good insight about if I put this off I might never do it.

Thanks for your message Keesha.
 
I sure hope you find LOVE, Ruthanne!
I think you will!
I personally have become sort of a hermit this past year!
Men come up to me and"flirt", and the moment I smile or say anything to them, they freeze up and mention they have a wife. hahaha!
Why do they do that? Do they want something "on the side?" The left side or the right side?

I'll probably always be alone, and that's fine! I like me!
It sounds like you're in a populated area, so there must be a lot of activities going on. It'll happen! You sound like a really neat lady!
 
Gaer said:
I sure hope you find LOVE, Ruthanne!
I think you will!
I personally have become sort of a hermit this past year!
Men come up to me and"flirt", and the moment I smile or say anything to them, they freeze up and mention they have a wife. hahaha!
Why do they do that? Do they want something "on the side?" The left side or the right side?

I'll probably always be alone, and that's fine! I like me!
It sounds like you're in a populated area, so there must be a lot of activities going on. It'll happen! You sound like a really neat lady!
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Thank you for your message. I, too, have become a hermit and for longer much longer than a year.

I don't know if the married ones are looking for something on the side. Your guess is as good as mine. lol. you are so funny!

I have to say that I really do value my alone time, too, but also hope to get some company and do some fun things once again.
 
Yes, all the luck to you that cupid might supply. I'm glad you are going about things with your eyes open. Might I suggest taking things very slowly and rather than trying to meet someone to just be available and let things take their course. Just be very careful, please.
 
This is a well thought out thread, Ruthanne......Thank you.
I guess my story is in a different stage than yours.
After my divorce 5 years ago......i had "0" intentions for looking for a partner.
At that time i enrolled on to a friendship site, they had a dating section, but.....didn't use it.
Got to know a gentleman, we had great conversations, and seemed to have a lot in common.
We continued on for quite some time.
His family back in Holland were in need of him for help and support......was gone for just over a year, arrived back in Canada just before the pandemic hit......didn't have a lot of contact during that time.
As the time he returned.....we continued with our relationship.
And we are now here.....planning for our future together.
He came out of retirement, and went back to trucking.......with Covid restrictions.......truckers are essential.......able to enter borders.
He lives on Prince Edward Island.......will list his house for sale and move here.

@Ruthanne I so hope i'm not hijacking your thread......is it for all to share their experience.
 
Gaer said:
I sure hope you find LOVE, Ruthanne!
I think you will!
I personally have become sort of a hermit this past year!
Men come up to me and"flirt", and the moment I smile or say anything to them, they freeze up and mention they have a wife. hahaha!
Why do they do that? Do they want something "on the side?" The left side or the right side?

I'll probably always be alone, and that's fine! I like me!
It sounds like you're in a populated area, so there must be a lot of activities going on. It'll happen! You sound like a really neat lady!
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I wish I could tell you what's up with that, but I have no idea. Seriously, that's odd.
 
I have a bit of a different problem, Ruthanne. I’m 70, live in a rural area, and am looking for new lunch buddies. One is 80, another is 86, they’re both still getting around but who knows for how long?

I know a lot of people in the area, but none that would fall into the daily lunch buddy category very well. I’ve known these guys for 20-30 years.

Life doesn’t get any easier.
 
Old Dummy said:
I have a bit of a different problem, Ruthanne. I’m 70, live in a rural area, and am looking for new lunch buddies. One is 80, another is 86, they’re both still getting around but who knows for how long?

I know a lot of people in the area, but none that would fall into the daily lunch buddy category very well. I’ve known these guys for 20-30 years.

Life doesn’t get any easier.
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I wish you well in your quest OD. No, you are right that life doesn't get any easier. Where will you be looking for new lunch buddies?
 
Ruthanne said:
This thread is for anyone to comment on but is about those who are single and alone making new friends.

So, I am attempting now to make some new friends again. At least I keep trying and haven't given up although I did give it a break and gave up for awhile.

I now have a garage parking space so I can go out here at any hour I want and still get a space to park. I'm thinking of going out to a nice restaurant that has outdoor dining and see if there are any others there alone, too. I think I need to try some new strategies while I'm still alive and kickin'. I have been fully vaccinated so I'm not afraid much to be around others in public except for large groups or crowds and I think that's a healthy fear.

I have put another ad on a website to try and meet someone and I'm very smart about it and don't give out my personal information right away until I can trust that the person responding is who they say they are. I'm not naïve and would not fall for someone who is trying to scam and I know all the signs to look for.

And also if anyone likes they can start a conversation with me here if they'd like to chat about things instead of posting in this thread.

Everyone's feedback is valuable in my book!
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for the most part all scammers I insist on webcam skype or similar immedialty never never never any follow through--what does that tell YOU? i know what it tells me......best place for us -tho does not work well for me...american legion eagles club retiree unions social clubs language groups gyms libraries none of these work for me but would maybe for you...what works for me grocery store, walmart ...other seniors need to get out and about take crap jobs at walmart etc....walking, but I am very reluctant to get tied up with anyone-

once in while find a guy but most are married -happily or not ..I don't want to hear it........women my age no interest in my wants and needs and visa versa..

yet I persist.....thanks kids ...therapy for me...hahha
 
PamfromTx said:
Don’t be afraid of moving forward but always be cautious. The future is bright. Good luck and tons of best wishes. God bless you in whatever you do. This is my heartiest wish just for you. 🐦🐶
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I always am cautious, and very smart. I don't let anyone take advantage of me. Thank you for your message.
 
When I read the first message I was under the impression that you were looking to make new female friends, what does that say about me? After reading through the thread I went back and read it again and read the part about putting an ad online. If you are looking for a partner and it is meant to be then it will happen. I hope that you find what you are looking for. It is a challenge for us all who are single to navigate the landscape these days, not to say that it can be a challenge for couples also. Good luck.
 
I'm in a similar place as many of the folks on this site. In the last decade I've lost virtually all my immediate family (including parents, spouse, children) and currently live alone apart from 2 dogs. Am also retired. 4 years ago, after hubby's death, I moved to another state to be near the only family I have left. That consists of a few cousins. We were never close growing up and aren't close now, although we see each other occasionally. They all have their own lives, with spouses, grown children, daughters and sons-in-law, and new babies coming along. I am never included in their activities. They just don't think of me when making plans, and I can understand that.

Consequently I am utterly alone. I'm introverted, and do "hermit" very well, but it gets old and covid has exacerbated the problem.

So, I've got to find friends, people to chat with, to go to lunch with, to do some fun activities with, etc. This forum looked like a good place to reach out to people. So here I am. Saying hello.
 


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