My brother died. We shared a house together. I am a youthful 75 yr old lady. His friends are trying to help me with the financial worries. The executor wants me to move to retirement home in a few months because he says the wiring is too dangerous. I own the
House now and I have no family left. Brother died on memorial day.
I am alone in the world. He is like rushing me. He wants me to look at different homes with him.i do not want to do this. I am interested in the Moravian manor in Lancaster. Pa.
I am in good health. What do you think? I do not think that there would be a fire here even with the old fuse box. Is there a waiting time for the. Moravian manor?
Tara --
Sounds like this guy is giving you the bum's rush for whatever reasons of his own. BEWARE of people (whoever they are) trying to "help" you -- they may have their own interests in doing so.
1. First off, did your brother leave a will? If there is no will to probate, there cannot be a legal executor. If there's a will, do you have a copy? IF there's a will, is it already in probate? Seems way too fast to me, since your brother only died in late May. Usually death certificates aren't even issued that fast and most places you have to have to have the death certificate to file a formal probate.
2. Who actually owns the house? Did you and your brother own the house together, and if so, how did you own it -- in joint tenancy with right of survivorship, or as tenants in common? If it was in joint tenancy, the house passes to you by operation of law, without probate. If you do not know how the house is owned, you can get a copy from your county clerk or recorder or whoever records deeds in your county. Call 'em up and ask them how to request a copy.
3. VERY IMPORTANT -- in most jurisdictions there is a Senior Citizens' Law Office (or under some other name) who will give you free or very reduced rate legal services to answer questions and otherwise help protect your rights in theses kinds of issues. Check with your local council on aging or whatever you have there. They can give you guidance in finding out who can help you.
4. As to financial issues, be careful you are not stampeded into paying any bills that you are not legally required to pay -- he was your brother, not your husband, so in most places there would be no community property bills unless you have legally obligated yourself to pay them (like if you and he had a mortgage or car loan together or if you had signed on to be legally responsible for medical bills)
5. You need good legal advice that is particular to your state. Either check out some senior citizens' local law advice or find a private attorney to answer questions and advise you. Even if you have to pay for an appointment for guidance it would be money very well spent to get reliable legal advice about exactly where you stand. Not to get legal advice now could cost you way more money down the road if you don't know where you stand right now.
I wouldn't do a single thing until I had consulted someone for legal advice. I also wouldn't tear down a house I could live in until I knew (from an expert) that there was no reasonable option (like fixing the wiring).