Trying again... I hate to think that I went down without a fight...

Warrigal said:
Welcome aboard.

Speaking from Sydney, Australia, I second that. Look around this forum and you will be able to find something of interest and people with whom you can interact. As someone said earlier, write, write, write. May I suggest that if you wish to share your troubles you should start a new thread rather than side track an existing one. In that way you will find the right people to talk to.

One thing you haven't told us is what interests you and something of your background. This thread is exactly the right place for these details.
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Thank you for taking the time to read my post and respond to it!

I will take your suggestion very seriously though I will try to avoid sharing any more troubles of mine. People don't like to hear someone whining on a... permanent basis.

I've studied Civil Engineering in the US, worked for a year and gave it up after I fell in love with computers. I've taught myself computer programming which I did for a living up until a few years ago.

Computers was always my work, my hobby, my relax time. Watching movies, listening to music, playing video games, reading books, "travelling", "socializing"... In general I spent many years behind a screen either by myself or debating with a friend, falling in love (I met my wife online...), playing a game.

I love nature, especially mountains and when I had the chance I enjoyed spending time there.

I enjoy humor in all its forms, I love sarcasm and self-deprecation and people usually consider me to be blunt. I hate reading between the lines (things can go so wrong when one does that) and that's one reason I may cross lines and be indiscreet. I very, very rarely get offended (one has to try really hard to do it) and I consider criticism to be a blessing (since I truly believe that there is no progress/improvement without criticism).

I hope I get the job!
 

SeaBreeze said:
Hi @CAKCy, stay positive, things will get better. You've received some good advice here, perhaps to get another dog to keep you company and getting out and meeting people. You may be pleasantly surprised to find someone who wants companionship just as much as you do. As you said in your thread title, you need to keep trying. :)

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I love the picture! Thank you for your encouragement! What I've found here is people caring! Each and everyone of them in their own way they made me feel ... good!

Trying is what I ... try to do. Earlier today I was going through the spiral "Do I keep on or do I put an end to it?". When one is in an unstable condition one can very easily fall into a bottomless abyss with nothing to hold onto.

It's not easy. I can tell you that.
 
The thought occurs to me that walking with a dog on a lead is the perfect way to start conversations with strangers. I was once involved with the charity Guide Dogs for the Blind and the dog owners told me that while people are often reluctant to talk to a stranger, they are often inclined to talk to the dog first, then the owner. Can't think of a better way to get out and about and to meet people. Much better than trying to engage people on the subject of computers. I was once a secondary school teacher who was in charge of computing studies so I know that dogs trump computers 95% of the time when it comes to making friends.
 

Packerjohn said:
Sorry to hear that being alone isn't "your cup of tea." I too have been alone now for 11 months and if you ask me it really "sucks." Eating alone is no fun, going alone for walks is boring and watching movies in the evening alone is not much fun. I have always traveled with my wife but in a few days I am going on a very long trip up to The Yukon and maybe Alask, if the border ever opens up. I'm going alone. Sometimes I wonder even why I'm going but it's a better alternative than sitting around here and listening to everyone argue about this pandemic. Sorry, dog/cat lovers but I was born on a farm with plenty of animals around. Having a good, warm, kind loving woman can never be replaced by a barking mutt or a meowing pussy.
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Why not invite a friend-male or female-to go along? Company is company
 
Most of the things you yearn for you can do with friends. My suggestion is to focus on developing friendships first, and if romance blooms with anyone, pursue it.

You speak of your physical condition stopping you from doing certain things, but your mind seems ready for adventure. You're good to go.
 
Jennina said:
Most of the things you yearn for you can do with friends. My suggestion is to focus on developing friendships first, and if romance blooms with anyone, pursue it.

You speak of your physical condition stopping you from doing certain things, but your mind seems ready for adventure. You're good to go.
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Do you wanna be my friend? :p
 
Welcome to the forum.

@CAKCy you have made everyone curious as to why you cannot go out and there are certain conditions both physical and mental that would prevent you from going out. I would think more mental health issues than physical. But I don’t know.

My 3rd son is total care. He is diapered, cannot feed himself or really do anything, his speech can barely be understood by those that know him, and he is wheelchair bound. He also has a seizure disorder. He is a person of color. He can be very loud when he laughs at a movie theater or anywhere in public. Covid has kept him in lately, but he has always gone out when he could. And he always has a girlfriend.

My other son has Down Syndrome and is easily recognized as having DS. He LOVES to go out and does, except of course, for the disruption Covid has caused. He is a huge flirt and draws women of all ages like flies on sugar. He too always has a girlfriend.

I have a 10 year old great granddaughter who is non-binary and often mistaken for a boy. It does not bother her. She goes out. She has friends a plenty. People want you to go outside cause other people are outside. It’s outside where you meet people. But I would say stay were you feel comfortable.

Your wife, if I have it right, bailed 5 months ago because of your depression. Your depression probably made you want to stay inside at home. I suspect your depression is part, if not all, of the reason you stay home. But since you had a wife, it is clear than you can interact with others. Are you receiving therapy for your depression? As depressed as you sound, I would hope you are. But you don’t have to answer.

This forum will let you share with others and end what seems to be a major issue for you-no one to share stuff with. We are a sharing group. Some of us, like me, over share 😂. Loneliness is a problem we all have to a certain degree especially with Covid and especially with the new Delta surge of Covid. We are all rowing in the same boat of world loneliness.

So, join in and the loneliness will fade.
 
CAKCy said:
I exercise my right of free speech to admit that I have no clue how to send you a PM. Am I too new to start a conversation or just plain idiot?
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CAKCy said:
I exercise my right of free speech to admit that I have no clue how to send you a PM. Am I too new to start a conversation or just plain idiot?
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There is an envelope icon at the top of the screen. Click that and you can start a conversation with a member. If you do that I will answer but you may not like what I say. I will be like your caring but stern auntie, dishing out tough love.
 
Aneeda72 said:
Welcome to the forum.

@CAKCy you have made everyone curious as to why you cannot go out and there are certain conditions both physical and mental that would prevent you from going out. I would think more mental health issues than physical. But I don’t know.

My 3rd son is total care. He is diapered, cannot feed himself or really do anything, his speech can barely be understood by those that know him, and he is wheelchair bound. He also has a seizure disorder. He is a person of color. He can be very loud when he laughs at a movie theater or anywhere in public. Covid has kept him in lately, but he has always gone out when he could. And he always has a girlfriend.

My other son has Down Syndrome and is easily recognized as having DS. He LOVES to go out and does, except of course, for the disruption Covid has caused. He is a huge flirt and draws women of all ages like flies on sugar. He too always has a girlfriend.

I have a 10 year old great granddaughter who is non-binary and often mistaken for a boy. It does not bother her. She goes out. She has friends a plenty. People want you to go outside cause other people are outside. It’s outside where you meet people. But I would say stay were you feel comfortable.

Your wife, if I have it right, bailed 5 months ago because of your depression. Your depression probably made you want to stay inside at home. I suspect your depression is part, if not all, of the reason you stay home. But since you had a wife, it is clear than you can interact with others. Are you receiving therapy for your depression? As depressed as you sound, I would hope you are. But you don’t have to answer.

This forum will let you share with others and end what seems to be a major issue for you-no one to share stuff with. We are a sharing group. Some of us, like me, over share 😂. Loneliness is a problem we all have to a certain degree especially with Covid and especially with the new Delta surge of Covid. We are all rowing in the same boat of world loneliness.

So, join in and the loneliness will fade.
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It wasn't my intention to make everyone curious about my current physical state. I'm not trying to be a "mystery man". :)

Thank you for (over)sharing your family's medical history. My depression is not new. It started about 14 years ago and and slowly deteriorated. The events of the last 3 years made it deteriorate much faster. No, I'm not receiving any therapy for my depression. I tried SSRI's that caused other (major) problems. I will share what I can share. Yes, I can interact with others and yes on a very good day I can go out. These days are extremely rare and they become rarer and rarer. My wife tolerated my depression for a long time. At some point it became unbearable, especially after Lucy went away. Her leaving me was totally justified.
 

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