Paxton has bad dreams every night, so maybe Landon does too...upsetting ones. He woke up crying the night before, too, so we let him sleep in our bed. I'm gonna ask his foster mom about it when I take them home.Heavy crying & emotions can make a person puke. Did he have a bad dream?
I tend to agree.I don't get why she even came up with the idea that the twins should have weekends with Paxton's "Uncle Frank." Makes no sense. It's pointless, really.
I tend to agree.
Exactly, Kaila. It struck me last night, what's in it for them? Just more disruption to their normal routine. Landon cried once when I picked up Paxton bc he wanted to come to, but he was just curious...Paxton would be all jazzed about going to Uncle Frank's and Landon felt like he was missing out on something fun, or whatever.I am not sure it even helps the twins, at their age, and in their situation. With the long car ride for them, and sleeping in different places.
Unless giving the foster parents these breaks, make them cope with better patience, when the children are with them.
Exactly, Kaila. It struck me last night, what's in it for them? Just more disruption to their normal routine. Landon cried once when I picked up Paxton bc he wanted to come to, but he was just curious...Paxton would be all jazzed about going to Uncle Frank's and Landon felt like he was missing out on something fun, or whatever.
@RadishRose - Thanks, hon. Seriously, I feel kind of alone wondering why we're doing this - I mean, if it's not bc the plan was to let us foster the 3 of them then why? I've got nothing against the twins, but every Thursday I have to hide a bunch of Paxton's toys and things because the twins break stuff. These things are nothing special to them, and that's understandable.
To them, my apartment is just a place full of toys that happens to have a nice old man and a pretty lady in it. To Paxton, it's his home. And I'm still his Dad. When he and I talk 1:1, and I do my best to explain what's going on in his life, he always says "But you're really my Daddy, right?" Freaking chokes me up every time. I wanna say "Damn straight, dude!" but I can't. And not bc it isn't technically true, but bc if it was true then I would be culpable for all his suffering and all this turmoil, and Dad's just don't let this kind of crap happen. That's not a good model.
I'm gonna email the worker today. I'll focus on the fact that it doesn't benefit them. And it doesn't. It's actually less beneficial than a trip to the local playground.In my opinion lose the twins, sorry to say.
The attorney asked if I'm available and then said she'd call me back. She didn't call back.Wish you could testify!!!
Yeah, I asked Jackie to stop texting me until it's over.Wow I know you're wound up Frank I don't blame you!
Please try to relax and take care of yourself; it's the most important thing. You can't be a nervous wreck.
I truly hope for the best and look forward to hearing about the result.
It sure doesn’t make any sense but I’m not a supposed expert.. You have to wonder if this is SOP or just something this case worker thought up.Paxton doesn't understand why CPS asked me to have "twins weekends" (I didn't even understand why) and it hurt him deeply...
Same here!How soon can the powers that be, put Paxton with you and Michelle? If he's self-harming, the sooner the better.
I can't see how it can be beneficial to the twins, Paxton, or you - to have the twins over.
I hope they can get the ball rolling, and not waste any more valuable time in getting Paxton on the road to healing.
No. The foster parents just adopted a 3 year old girt about 2 weeks go. They have 3 grown children and 2 still at home, plus the 3 yr old.Is the foster mom trying or hoping, to adopt the twins?
I think it's the latter, an idea she came up with based on nothing.It sure doesn’t make any sense but I’m not a supposed expert.. You have to wonder if this is SOP or just something this case worker thought up.
When the caseworker first suggested I take the twins every other weekend, I suggested it be Paxton plus one or the other every weekend, reasoning that I could help them learn to be closer and actually protective of each other, as opposed to Landon biting, hitting, and scratching Paxton.The twins don't belong with you. It's gonna cause more trouble down the road, imho. Visiting with Paxton is good for Paxton and you, but you don't have a history with these twins and they have none with you. Like you said, it doesn't make sense.
I shouldn't say anymore about this. I'm certainly no expert, I'm just saying what makes sense to me and wish you the best.