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Not everyone gets the same version of me. One person might tell you I have an amazing, beautiful soul, another might tell you I am cold-hearted. Believe them both. I don't treat people badly, I treat them accordingly.
 
Aunt Marg said:
Everyone you meet always asks if you have a career, are married, have kids, or own a house, as if life was some kind of grocery list, but no one ever asks you if you are happy.
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That's because if the answer is 'no' then they might have to deal with it.
 
Aunt Marg said:
Yes, they might, but typically those doing the asking are somewhat close to the person they're asking, and my take on the matter is this, if people are so brash as to pry into the lives of others, you had better be prepared for any/all answers. :giggle:
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if people are so brash as to pry

That right there...that's why people don't ask.
 
MarciKS said:
if people are so brash as to pry

That right there...that's why people don't ask.
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Oh, but they do ask, my own children have been recipients of the asking on many occasion, and not just strangers, family.

The new fresh one these day for us is... "are you retired yet"? "Is hubby retired yet"? "What are you guys planning on doing once hubby retires"? And then there's this one that really chaps my behind... "you guys aren't planning on sticking around home are you"?

Why yes, we are planning on sticking around home, and you know that, because you've known us for X-number of years now, and you know we're homebodies.

Here is another meaningful statement to all those who like to pry...

"If people spent half the time concerning themselves with their own lives and affairs as they do concerning themselves with others, they'd have less time to worry about mine".
 
Aunt Marg said:
Oh, but they do ask, my own children have been recipients of the asking on many occasion, and not just strangers, family.

The new fresh one these day for us is... "are you retired yet"? "Is hubby retired yet"? "What are you guys planning on doing once hubby retires"? And then there's this one that really chaps my behind... "you guys aren't planning on sticking around home are you"?

Why yes, we are planning on sticking around home, and you know that, because you've known us for X-number of years now, and you know we're homebodies.

Here is another meaningful statement to all those who like to pry...

"If people spent half the time concerning themselves with their own lives and affairs as they do concerning themselves with others, they'd have less time to worry about mine".
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Well I have learned here and in real life that apparently it's inappropriate to care about someone and their life and ask about it. It's considered nosy to try to get to know someone so I finally gave up. Now everyone thinks I don't care. Nice trade off if you ask me in this no win situation.
 
Perhaps everyone sallying forth on to a forum such as this one should be asked whether they are feeling happy everyday, "so we're all equal"!).
My answer would be a cute one used by an old work colleague of mine, who when asked whether he was okay, would answer " Fair to middling",(which threw everyone!). :)
 
MarciKS said:
Well I have learned here and in real life that apparently it's inappropriate to care about someone and their life and ask about it. It's considered nosy to try to get to know someone so I finally gave up. Now everyone thinks I don't care. Nice trade off if you ask me in this no win situation.
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Marci, take heart. I have had many clients who would have been both delighted and grateful to have you care about them, ask about their lives, etc. Not everyone has that in their life, few of us thrive without it. Perhaps the naysayers you have encountered have been sheltered from such isolation. You did good, world needs more compassionate people. 🌹🌹🌹🌹
 
MarciKS said:
Well I have learned here and in real life that apparently it's inappropriate to care about someone and their life and ask about it. It's considered nosy to try to get to know someone so I finally gave up. Now everyone thinks I don't care. Nice trade off if you ask me in this no win situation.
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You've missed the mark IMO.

I believe most people are open to being approached in a respectful and considerate manner, relative to how their lives are going, what they are up to, etc, etc, but there seems to be a common denominator that exists surrounding the line of questioning that many choose to roll with, and that's the prying side of things, where they have a one-track mind that struggles to move past the materialistic and mold-fitting side of things.

Seems a lot of people struggle with the simple concept of, NOT everyone get's married or wants to get married... NOT everyone wants to have children... and NOT everyone cares to tie themselves down to a home, but because status-quo traditionally equates to graduating from high-school, enrolling in post secondary education, landing a six-figure job, getting married, buying a home, and having children, that seems to be the catalyst behind peoples line of questioning, and for some it reflects the small-minded shallowness of today's society where materialism, greed, and status curtails who and what you are, rather than how you are.
 
Aunt Marg said:
You've missed the mark IMO.
I believe most people are open to being approached in a respectful and considerate manner, relative to how their lives are going, what they are up to, etc, etc, but there seems to be a common denominator that exists surrounding the line of questioning that many choose to roll with, and that's the prying side of things, where they have a one-track mind that struggles to move past the materialistic and mold-fitting side of things.
Seems a lot of people struggle with the simple concept of, NOT everyone get's married or wants to get married... NOT everyone wants to have children... and NOT everyone cares to tie themselves down to a home, but because status-quo traditionally equates to graduating from high-school, enrolling in post secondary education, landing a six-figure job, getting married, buying a home, and having children, that seems to be the catalyst behind peoples line of questioning, and for some it reflects the small-minded shallowness of today's society where materialism, greed, and status curtails who and what you are, rather than how you are.
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Very good post Aunt Marg, (shame we can't discuss it further!)! :)
 
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