Are you happy for people to just drop in to visit at your home without any notice ?

[hollydolly]

I've never been a fan of people dropping in without advance warning... if people are coming I like to know I'm properly presented, and the house is tidy before I get visitors.. plus I have a health issue which means I'm not always well ..

When I lived in Navy Married Quarters, all of us women neighbours lived alone while husbands were at sea for weeks or months on end so there was a lot of family atmosphere and people would just be in and out of each others' houses when the men were away, but once the husbands were at home, it all became very private again ..and people would make plans to meet up..

However in Civvy street.. I much prefer people to let me know at a day or at least a few hours in advance .. ( unless it's my daughter )...

I have a Video ring doorbell so I can see whose at the door and not answer if I'd rather not, so far I never have , but I might if it was someone I didn't want to see for any reason...

What about you..is yours an open house to friends and acquaintances or do you prefer notification of visitors ?

 

[Purwell]

Much prefer some notice, with a couple of exceptions.

 

[Lee]

Whoever knocks gets in, no formality here. The coffee pot is always on.

Although there is the one person that I did not answer the door to the other day and I did not care a whit that she saw me through the open window. I don't think this twit even realizes I am mad at her. She was carrying a bunch of books she obviously wished to give me. Totally clueless.

 

[katlupe]

I always liked to know in advance too. For the same reason as you. What if you are in the middle of something and someone unexpectedly drops in?

Living here in an apartment building, people do drop in without notice. One friend will message me on FB to ask if I feel like company. Another one usually comes up for a specific reason and ends up staying awhile talking. So I don't know that she is coming up. It is more casual living here so most times I am dressed and can stop what I am doing to talk a few minutes to someone.

My friend down the hall stops in several times during the week and brings Rabbit berries or little carrots. She stays awhile and I always look forward to her visits. But I never know when she will stop by. She is married and goes places during the day with her husband and mother (who lives upstairs).

 

[Raven]

I like to have a little notice before someone drops by, especially if they are planning
to stay for lunch.
I had a friend come to visit once without phoning when I was unwell and on antibiotics.
She stayed for two hours and I just wanted to rest but I was polite and glad when she left.
I think it is a courtesy to give a person advance notice before visiting.

 

[Lee]

I had a friend come to visit once without phoning when I was unwell and on antibiotics.
She stayed for two hours and I just wanted to rest but I was polite and glad when she left.

Sometimes you can't be polite, Staying two hours when they realize you are not well and not feeling up to company is ignorant, they should leave and come back at another time. Trouble is some you have to tell them point blank.

 

[old medic]

Not uncommon for a car to bow up in the road and stop in for a visit. Even had the old ambulance crews stop by on several occasions.
Got one neighbor that will stop, go in our garage, grabs the empty egg cartons, leave full ones, and never say a word.

 

[timoc]

I make anyone welcome when they come visiting, as long as they give me twelve months notice, first.

 

[Liberty]

Neighbor drives over to hunt her cats sometimes without notice...her two cats love it here better than her land. She has a couple of dogs and kids - guess the cats prefer privacy. They are good at catching "moles" so don't mind them...feed them and forget it.

 

[Pinky]

I prefer to know ahead of time (at least a day ahead) if someone is dropping by .. and never do I just "drop in" on anyone.

My ex was notorious for dropping in on people, which was embarrassing for me. I was always apologizing.

 

[Lawrence]

I do not like unexpected visitors. When I was young, we would hide in the house and pretend we were not at home. Now that I am older, I still do that at times.

 

[Paco Dennis]

Sometimes you can't be polite, Staying two hours when they realize you are not well and not feeling up to company is ignorant, they should leave and come back at another time. Trouble is some you have to tell them point blank.

OR shot them point blank! Those invasive creatures! 'Tis our home(land). How dare they assume that we WANT them in our territory. We have to make agreements first....right? Negotiate what kind of visit this is to be. Business, friendly, complaint, compliant, fight, compulsory, etc.....Oh, what to wear.... We live so far away from others that once in a blue moon someone will knock. UPS, postman, census person, campaigner, Jehovah witness, but everyone we know stays away unless negotiations are signed in blood!

 

[Capt Lightning]

Friends are always welcome, relatives are strictly by appointment.

 

[fuzzybuddy]

It depends. If it's Cousin Charlotte, her hubby, 3 kids, 1 boyfriend, 3 cats and a German Shepard dog. NO!!! You need a call. But if it's a buddy dropping in for a cup of coffee, Yeah. Also, you have to take the time into consideration. There's a lot of difference between 10AM, and 6 AM. And today there's no real excuse to drop in without calling first.

 

[Sliverfox]

We have people stopping in often to order firewood or pay for it.

Some are customers from when we had a garage.
Old friends do drop in for a chat.

If its someone coming for an over night stay,, yea,, give me a heads up.

 

[RFW]

Not at all. Don't like when somebody shows up and ruins my schedule.

 

[Della]

We live on the outer edge of the shopping district so I've told all my friends they are always welcome to drop in for coffee or tea on the way in or out. If I'm in the middle of something I can always take a break and if they catch me without make-up, well, I tell them, once the initial shock is over, we can carry on talking.

But, they never do stop. In fact some have countered my offer of open house with a warning that they don't feel the same way.

I remember 40 years ago, when we lived in a town house neighborhood, a group of us met for coffee, cards or conversation almost every afternoon. It's sad to me that these days people hear the doorbell ring and quote Dorothy Parker,
"What fresh hell is this?"

Knowing how many people hate drop-ins, I never, ever do anymore, and calling first always seems like I'm inviting myself and expecting them to clean the house and bake a cake. So I don't do that either.

When we had a kitchen flood last month, we had the first "visitors," in years, 12 different workmen! I had so much fun with them. I miss those guys.

 

[Geezer Garage]

I live so far out of the way, that I rarely get visitors. Maybe half a dozen times a year a friend will stop in if they happen to be out this way, so no notice required. The house is almost always clean, as I like it that way, and I'm generally out in the shop during the day anyway.

 

[Lavinia]

I never call on people without asking first, and I expect them to show me the same courtesy. That is what it is...courtesy. Just as I think it's wrong to phone people after 10pm (except in an emergency).

 

[Oldntired]

I prefer to know someone is coming several hours in advance. Often won’t even get up to see whose at the door if I’m not expecting anyone or can’t identify a vehicle outside.

 

[Pepper]

I never liked people showing up unexpectedly. Although I must admit that I have dropped in on people I hate it to hear the doorbell ring. I have never liked being surprised, even a good surprise.

 

[SeaBreeze]

I've never been a fan of people dropping in without advance warning... if people are coming I like to know I'm properly presented, and the house is tidy before I get visitors.. plus I have a health issue which means I'm not always well ..

When I lived in Navy Married Quarters, all of us women neighbours lived alone while husbands were at sea for weeks or months on end so there was a lot of family atmosphere and people would just be in and out of each others' houses when the men were away, but once the husbands were at home, it all became very private again ..and people would make plans to meet up..

However in Civvy street.. I much prefer people to let me know at a day or at least a few hours in advance .. ( unless it's my daughter )...

I have a Video ring doorbell so I can see whose at the door and not answer if I'd rather not, so far I never have , but I might if it was someone I didn't want to see for any reason...

What about you..is yours an open house to friends and acquaintances or do you prefer notification of visitors ?

I always prefer notification, and the friends who do come over and visit at times always check with us first. It's the only considerate way, no revolving door in this house.

 

[SeaBreeze]

We have people stopping in often to order firewood or pay for it.

Some are customers from when we had a garage.
Old friends do drop in for a chat.

If its someone coming for an over night stay,, yea,, give me a heads up.

I think it's a bit different if you're running a business, of course you'd be in a different mindset.

 

[RadishRose]

In these recent years, my friends are far. So visiting is on a call ahead basis both out of courtesy and necessity.

I miss the days neighbors were friends and I never minded when they dropped in without warning. I'm always dressed and didn't care if I hadn't primped.

My neighbors here all work, and are much younger.

 

[Nathan]

Are you happy for people to just drop in to visit at your home without any notice ?

No. If someone knocks on my door that means they jumped my fence....so they would be either some meth-head burglar or the SWAT team.