Are you happy for people to just drop in to visit at your home without any notice ?

Pepper said:
I never liked people showing up unexpectedly. Although I must admit that I have dropped in on people I hate it to hear the doorbell ring. I have never liked being surprised, even a good surprise.
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I first read this as you sometimes drop in on people you hate just to hear their doorbell ring. LOL, Pepper, you make me laugh even when you don't mean to! I pictured you doing the ring and run kids do.
Lavinia said:
I never call on people without asking first, and I expect them to show me the same courtesy. That is what it is...courtesy. Just as I think it's wrong to phone people after 10pm (except in an emergency).
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If we're talking strictest courtesy, I would never ask someone if I could visit, I would wait for an invitation.

I agree with you about phones, though. While I don't mind people dropping in during the day, I don't like phone calls after about eight. We're settled down for the night by then.
 

No one bothers me except the Daughters of Discord and they only call a couple of times a week. They've figured out my schedule and call around dinnertime. They do most of the talking so I can eat while they blab away about their crazy theories and which neighbors I should be afraid of. Good God people are nuts.
 

It generally doesn’t bother me if someone drops by for a quick visit or to drop something off, but it rarely happens. We have no relatives here. For years I lived without a phone and the location was the perfect spot for a Sunday drive. It didn’t bother me, I was social then. Maybe this is why the neighbourhood has disappeared, we didn’t make an effort to keep it.

My one daughter’s door is always open and that doorbell rings constantly. She’s there for people and vice versa.

Children now make play dates. What happened to playtime spontaneity.
 
Well that can work fine in many folks circumstances. Most people either don't have much within their residences to worry about strangers stealing or anyone likely to visit is not of concern. Like where I grew up in outer Sacramento suburbia, the whole neighborhood were good people.

But not in the urban world I a counterculture era person has lived decades in. I don't have a home but rather a hide-out. Too much stuff rip-offs would be tempted over. Only allow known others I trust who contact me to enter.
 
Jules said:
It generally doesn’t bother me if someone drops by for a quick visit or to drop something off, but it rarely happens. We have no relatives here. For years I lived without a phone and the location was the perfect spot for a Sunday drive. It didn’t bother me, I was social then. Maybe this is why the neighbourhood has disappeared, we didn’t make an effort to keep it.

My one daughter’s door is always open and that doorbell rings constantly. She’s there for people and vice versa.

Children now make play dates. What happened to playtime spontaneity.
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I've heard of Play dates, more often they occur in the cities here where the kids don't play out... but here where I live the kids have never stopped playing out..except by choice if they're stuck with their nose in an electronic device I suppose, but generally speaking, the children here are in the playgrounds, in the parks, on their bikes and scooters... all happily playing as we did when we were their age. ..only exception is unlike us who were allowed out alone when we were very young, one or other of the parents tend to accompany the kids of the young ones to the playgrounds now.. only sensible these days.. but the majority of the older children.. say around 9 or 10 and older, are out playing without parental accompaniment
 
I think it's especially rude to invite yourself to a dinner, event, etc. I had that happen twice, on my husband's side, had to clean the house (which was it's time), bake a ham, prepare sides for next days' dinner, etc. I worked myself to death! I told my husband I wouldn't do it for MY family so never again for his! His niece and nephew wanted to "see where we lived". If I wanted them to see where we lived, I would have invited them!
 
If they can give me 15 minutes notice, that’s fine. That way I can tell them if they would be interrupting something. If they just knock on the door, I’ll still open it but explain if I’m busy.

I have a neighbour that wants to plan 2 days ahead to sit outside on her patio. If you drop in at my place at dinner time, you’re out of luck.
 
Michelle and I disagree on this one. She wants advanced notice. My kids always text a message like "On our way over" or ask they'll if we'll be home on Saturday or whatever, but I don't care if people just show up.

My grandson's friend, Jesse, who's my neighbor's kid, he shows up at dinner time sometimes and I'll say "If you're hungry, grab a plate" and about half the time, he does. That drives Michelle nuts. But she doesn't say anything to him, though, she just kind of gets on my ass about it. But honestly, I don't think the kid actually knows what time it is, I think he's just hoping to find Kirk here for the evening or the weekend. And sometimes he comes here to get away from his older brother, which is cool any time, day or night.

Anyway, Michelle prefers advanced notice, I don't care, and my kids always give advanced notice anyway. Sometimes just 15-minutes notice, but Michelle seems ok enough with that.
 
shedevil7953 said:
I think it's especially rude to invite yourself to a dinner, event, etc. I had that happen twice, on my husband's side, had to clean the house (which was it's time), bake a ham, prepare sides for next days' dinner, etc. I worked myself to death! I told my husband I wouldn't do it for MY family so never again for his! His niece and nephew wanted to "see where we lived". If I wanted them to see where we lived, I would have invited them!
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Send them photos. ;)
 
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