Ethical non-monogamy in seniors - non-sexual

I hate to be crude but maybe this is meant to be a situation somewhat like a rooster or bull servicing their flock or herd. I imagine some of their servicing must also be of a sympathetic gesture.
 
Islandgypsy said:
I see it as a help for lonely men as well and perhaps dogs and cats. I described no arrogant solution, only offered the topic up for discussion. But clearly to me, lonely unhappy men and women seniors are people that pique my extreme sympathy. Again, only raised the topic for discussion hoping to shed some light on the magnitude of this situation as our retiree society grows. I prefer to be happy, not sad. Am I imposing my values on others by wanting them to be happy. Yes I am.
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Happiness comes from within... not looking for others to bring us happiness. That type of happiness does not last long. It's like buying a new car, the thrill wears off pretty quick. And then we find something else to fill that happiness gap. So glad I learned that my happiness depends on my inner self. If you like it and your wife love it and the other ladies are all for it... then that's what matters.. regardless how it turns out.
 
Islandgypsy said:
Wife and I are 73 and just recently retired. Moved to Florida and love it. We have met two lovely, lonely ladies who are still reeling from the loss of their husbands. To them, the single widow life does not look like the fun we foresaw in our golden years. What is the forum consensus on the idea of a couple adding a lady to their household if it brings improved enjoyment to all. And ignoring religious moral taboos.
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Sounds like a threesum to me...:unsure: Don't think I could handle two women anymore..go for it.
 
OP here. Don’t know the person. Was an observation of two lonely widows. My poor wording suggested to many, a scenario not intended. Please let my poorly worded post expire it’s due death.
 
Nautilus said:
I read a lot of stories where someone (usually a woman) is brought into the househole for any number of reasons (nanny, cook, etc.) and where thing go south, you can't get her out...for years! It's some kind of squatter's rights or whatever. Good fences make good neighbors.
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And often enough it becomes a slave scenario.
 
Islandgypsy said:
I’m thinking if I post again it should be in Klingon. Easier for some ladies to comprehend .
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And the results are in - it’s a bad idea, it leads to slavery, it must be sexual, it’s abusive to women, and a southern lady used and spelled a 5 syllable word correctly.I thank all my contributors for their compassion and willingness to help others in need.
 
I was wondering if there was a topic about monogamy and it appears that there is, even though the OP is long gone and the last comments made were some time ago. Be that as it may, however, how do you all feel about monogamy? Is it necessary, especially once one has passed the age where new children would be a possible consequence? It would, of course, be a consensual agreement and not something unknown to one of the partners. And it wouldn't need to be a live in arrangement either. I'm just curious as to what other thoughts might be on such things. As each day goes by, I just seem to get curiouser and curiouser! Thanks, in advance, for sharing your thoughts and withholding your judgements.
 
In all honesty, on the outside looking in, I think it's kind of unfair for a person to not receive all the love and attention from their lover(s). Of course, I'd assume there are people that are completely content with however much love they receive. It's inevitable that there are times when one person is more preferable than the other.

Now, I don't know how polygamy works. Is there one main person and the others are secondary? Do they switch roles? Thinking about it makes my head hurt. o_O
 
Chris P Bacon said:
I was wondering if there was a topic about monogamy and it appears that there is, even though the OP is long gone and the last comments made were some time ago. Be that as it may, however, how do you all feel about monogamy? Is it necessary, especially once one has passed the age where new children would be a possible consequence? It would, of course, be a consensual agreement and not something unknown to one of the partners. And it wouldn't need to be a live in arrangement either. I'm just curious as to what other thoughts might be on such things. As each day goes by, I just seem to get curiouser and curiouser! Thanks, in advance, for sharing your thoughts and withholding your judgements.
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I just noticed this thread, as it appeared in the General Discussions section. Hadn't seen it before.

First thing I noticed was in the first post essentially claiming any moral objections or 'taboos' must be connected to religion. Bunk. Second thing I noticed was last sentence in CPB's post- if considering objections to be 'judgment,' you don't really want everybody's 'thoughts.'

Also, re: the OP- certainly was a negative lil individual, wasn't he.
 
@fuzzybuddy, I am polyamorous, practice ethical non-monogamy and have to wholeheartdly endorse what you've written here: "Everyone is going to have expectations, and wants. Things have to be hammered out quite clearly."
It can and often is a difficult and tricksy arrangement to maintain and initial, agreed-upon parameters are crucial. It's worth it when and for as long as it works for everyone involved, however. So worth it.
 
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