This is the person you married???

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You have a lot of friends and coworkers. Have you ever felt this when you met their spouses- OMG!! that's the person you married??? You would have never picked those two to be married. I have a friend., who is a labeler. Everything in the house is labeled and neatly stored. All the drawers are labeled,, and everything in its place. His wife can only ever find one shoe, has no idea where the other shoe is. This is the person you married??? :)
 

I experienced something similar when meeting the spouses of business executives that came up through the ranks to lofty positions within the company.

The childhood sweetheart, loving wife/husband, and mom/dad didn't always seem like a match to the hard-charging titan of business that had evolved over the years.

All that matters is that it works for the two people in the relationship.
 
Nathan said:
Opposites attract, in most cases. If two people were too much alike they'd drive each other crazy!
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Not true in my case. My late wife and I were soul mates and alike in at least 15 ways. We were always together, thought alike on all sorts of issues and had a wonderful life together. To me opposites to not attract. I'm a morning guy. Don't want some wife sleeping until 11 am.; for example. I love to read and enjoy the company of people who like to read also; not someone who sits in front of the TV all day long.

I have heard of this "opposites attract" theory over the years but I never believed in it. Look at these opposites:
1. You like traveling but your spouse likes to sit home and watch sports all day.
2. You hate smoke but your spouse loves cigars
3. You enjoy wine or rum but your spouse doesn't drink and thinks your an alcoholic for having a glass of wine.
4. You love to budget and save but your spouse buys a new car every year and has maxed out on all their credit cards.
5. You love children; he can't stand the "little buggers."
6. She is a religious nut and wants you to join her church. You can't stand church people.

One day, you are going to wake up, look at your spouse and wonder why in the world did you ever marry them?
 
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I don't listen to "they say" types of advice. I listen to what's right for me.

My husband and I are very much alike in many respects, including what we like to do and where we want to go in life. We decided to marry very early on (you're supposed to wait some ridiculous amount of time to find out ... something or other).

And our 40th anniversary is coming up soon.
 
I actually got this reaction every time i went to business functions for husband .......they often said they pictured someone else ... not me....

My spouse changed a lot and if i knew how he would be like this i might have thought more about saying NO when we were deciding to marry.

I think it is very hard to nail down what works and what does not.....
i know long married couples that i am asking .. why? how? .. they seem like a not a good match.
then i know others who are so easy to get along with so fun and yet the are divorced 2+ times etc.....
i always wondered what about you am i not seeing and why they had a hard time staying in long term marriage etc.
 
I fell in love with my husband the day we met. He had a girlfriend and I had a boyfriend. We broke up with them the day we met. I'm sure there is something like love at first sight. We are married for over 50 yrs now. We have 2 precious children and 3 wonderful grandchildren. I would not want to live one day without him.
 
Sassycakes said:
I fell in love with my husband the day we met. He had a girlfriend and I had a boyfriend. We broke up with them the day we met. I'm sure there is something like love at first sight. We are married for over 50 yrs now. We have 2 precious children and 3 wonderful grandchildren. I would not want to live one day without him.
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What are the secrets the all precious ingredients that is the glue that forms the bond many people miss?
WOULD THE 1ST BE looks? I do notice the prettier the longer the men will stay.
Do correct me if I'm wrong.
As Paul with Gloria she in her early 50s, are still married.
My cousin, she is very religious.
Her older daughter is a nun in New York.
Not as pretty as your picture for sure
 
squatting dog said:
When I got married, not one person I knew figured it could last more than 6 months. Well, 50 years and still counting.
Like Packer John, my wife and I are so much alike and shared all the same dreams. Add to that the fact that she has stood by me and my never ending war with demons just makes her about perfect. (y) :)
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Not to derail the thread, SD, but you must be a fine man to have fought such a horrendous battle for so long, and still be among us. ♥️I think your wife is a fortunate woman. I salute your courage, and thank you for your service. A friend of mine fought in that war, and we lost him. Apologies to other posters for going off topic.
 
Doctor: "I have horrible news, you only have six months to live."

Patient: "That is terrible! What should I do?"

Doctor: "You should get married."

Patient: "Get married? What are you talking about? With only six months to live? Why should I get married?"

Doctor: "You see, if you get married....that six months? It will FEEL like a lifetime..."
 
My partner and I are so different on the surface but so alike. He is brown and I am white. I am 8 years older. I'm sure no one would have picked us to be together.

He was born in the Philippines but grew up in Central Florida (little hick town). I was born in North Carolina (little hick town). We both appreciate the whole "country" thing. We are both somewhat introverted so we love staying home rather than going out. He was into journalism when we met, and my father was an English major so I am a stickler for proper English. Our first night together, I had booked a movie but we just stayed home and talked for hours. Corny as it may sound, we connected at "soul" level.

Fast forward... we often think the same thing at the same time and say it. He often knows me better than I know myself. I still appreciate how handsome he is.

We moved in together a month after we met and have spent over 30 years together. I couldn't ask for a better partner.
 
Shalimar said:
Not to derail the thread, SD, but you must be a fine man to have fought such a horrendous battle for so long, and still be among us. ♥️I think your wife is a fortunate woman. I salute your courage, and thank you for your service. A friend of mine fought in that war, and we lost him. Apologies to other posters for going off topic.
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I get it a lot, most especially since my husband is nearly 40 years younger. I also do not look like a cougar, i am a very classy woman. However what is difficult for people to understand is how our relationship developed. It's something I never would have dreamed of nor something I would have pursued, but more so he pursued me. It can also be embarrassing, but my love for him supersedes that. I would have thought the same thing prior to us getting married, I would have thought it of it a bizarre for such a big age gap.
 
spectratg said:
My wife completed me. I am greatly diminished as a person without her love and support. She did give me 4 wonderful daughters (and now 5 grandchildren). I don't know if people would have said we "go together" but for me she was the right person that I married.
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And how did that happen?
Tell us the beauty of it all.
I love to read how people came together
It's very interesting.i may just copy cat the best of them.
 
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