I never like confrontation

Bretrick

Bretrick

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Perth Western Australia
As I have mentioned previously, I live in a block of units and my common wall neighbour is from India.
For the previous 6 months he has been playing the drums. The kind that are played with the hands. Tabla?
This is very annoying as he plays them for at least 2 hours at night, sometimes 3 hours.
Tonight I am asleep at 9.30, I rise for work at 5am. He starts playing the drums and wakes me up.
I finally said to myself, "This is not on" so I went and knocked on his door, he did not hear me so I bang on his window.
He comes to the door and I say that I have put up with his nightly drumming for 6 months but I have had enough.
(Condensed version) - "You live in a block of units surrounded by neighbours. You never hear anything from them. Show some respect for your neighbours"
He said, "I understand, sorry, sorry, sorry."
I go back to bed and relate my story here.
 

Bretrick said:
As I have mentioned previously, I live in a block of units and my common wall neighbour is from India.
For the previous 6 months he has been playing the drums. The kind that are played with the hands. Tabla?
This is very annoying as he plays them for at least 2 hours at night, sometimes 3 hours.
Tonight I am asleep at 9.30, I rise for work at 5am. He starts playing the drums and wakes me up.
I finally said to myself, "This is not on" so I went and knocked on his door, he did not hear me so I bang on his window.
He comes to the door and I say that I have put up with his nightly drumming for 6 months but I have had enough.
(Condensed version) - "You live in a block of units surrounded by neighbours. You never hear anything from them. Show some respect for your neighbours"
He said, "I understand, sorry, sorry, sorry."
I go back to bed and relate my story here.
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There you go, problem solved. He clearly didn't know he was being a nuisance to you, .. and stopped immediately with apologies. if only all neighbours were so considerate and accommodating
 
Paco Dennis said:
Different people have different limits to stuff they can't tolerate. I have had to do what you did....OFTEN! :) I am a very light sleeper, especially when falling asleep the smallest noises bug me. Very strange because of some hearing loss from playing in rock bands.


Glad you confronted mr. drummer. :)
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I got angry because I have a very hard time going back to sleep once woken.
 
A few months ago I called a realtor about possibly putting the house up for sale. Told her I was sick and tired of the constant noise from Mike Holmes wannabe next door. Sleeps all day and starts banging around suppertime and tv time.

This realtor is well known in the community and I know darn well she repeated it to them next door as the noise stopped after that.

Yesterday their car horn kept going off.....wife called to apologize for it. So I went over, we had a chat, all friendly now.
 
Alligatorob said:
Neither do I, but sometimes it is necessary. I always think it though and make it as non-confrontational as I can while still getting the message across.

Sounds like you did the right thing, and probably have a good neighbor. Could turn into a friendship maybe?
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I doubt that we could be friends. He his disrespectful in so many ways. Standing outside my unit when smoking cigarettes. The smoke was coming into my place, I had to talk to him about that, throwing his cigarette butts on the ground, outside my unit, I had to talk to him about that, disrespecting our recycling system. ie; throwing all his rubbish, including food scraps in the recycling bin, I personally gave him the information pamphlet regarding correct disposal. I saw it in the in the day after.
No respect for doing things the Australian way.
 
Bretrick said:
No respect for doing things the Australian way
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No, and I agree he should try. I always try to comply with local customs.

However he is not Australian, except perhaps more recently. People from India are different, I don't want to say much as I don't know any Indians, except those who have emigrated to the US. I have found them to be culturally different from me, some very different. However I have made a number of Indian friends, and often find the differences interesting.

If you could get him to like you he might work harder at the Australian thing.
 
Geezerette said:
Is there a property manager who should be informed of your neighbor’s need to learn more about appropriate Australian conduct?
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I do not think that is up to the property manager.
It is up to the individual to educate themselves as to the way things need to be done.
As mentioned, I personally gave him relevant information of which he chose to ignore.
There are 10 units in my block, 7 of them are immigrants. None of them show any respect regards how things should be done. Courtesy is non existent. Loud music, louder talking on the mobile after midnight outside, rubbish everywhere.
Simply no respect.
 

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