Would you tell someone they are underdressed?

Trish said:
Today, the same lady turned up in a pair of very short shorts which also didn't cover much. A couple of the men thought it embarassing but, for the most part, they didn't seem offended. The ladies however were in two camps, some (like me) thought that as it's her bottom, she can do what she wants with it but, some of the ladies thought it was disrespectful.
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Purwell said:
I would have to see a photo of this lady wearing these shorts before I could offer an opinion!
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Here on the south coast of England you see shorts like this in abundance. You know that the Brits pronounce ass as arse, we also use the term bum, and this attire is known as showing too much bum cleavage.
 

chic said:
At a wedding on a very hot day, my aunt was going to wear a housedress to the reception. The rest of us were wearing gowns despite the heat because that's what ladies did back then and I was just a teenager but was wearing a gown too. We told my aunt it was WEDDING and she was mother of the groom, so wear a nice dress for heaven's sake. So she changed into a lace dress she had worn to the church and she thanked those of us who chimed in because she would have been so embarrassed if she hadn't changed.

I don't advise or judge people on what they choose to wear but there are exceptions to every rule and this as one of them. I'm not sorry I gave her my opinion.
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Was she dressed up better for the actual wedding ceremony? I know it is fairly common for people to change into more comfortable clothes for receptions. I've even seen brides change out of wedding gowns and show up to their reception in jeans. My only complaint with that was that it ruined the formal photo ops for the amature photographers.
 
People used to wear a lot more clothing, even at the beach. Submitted for your approval is 1910 swimwear attire. The amount of clothing that one wears is a function of their generation and time period. My father, who was in his prime in the 1940’s, never wore shorts, and when leaving for work always wore a proper hat. He never even owned a pair of “athletic shoes…”

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horseless carriage said:
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Here on the south coast of England you see shorts like this in abundance. You know that the Brits pronounce ass as arse, we also use the term bum, and this attire is known as showing too much bum cleavage.
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That's what I am talking about although, they weren't as short as that! OMG! I think we would have had to call the paramedics if they had been that short! :ROFLMAO:
 
Fyrefox said:
People used to wear a lot more clothing, even at the beach. Submitted for your approval is 1910 swimwear attire. The amount of clothing that one wears is a function of their generation and time period. My father, who was in his prime in the 1940’s, never wore shorts, and when leaving for work always wore a proper hat. He never even owned a pair of “athletic shoes…”

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You are right of course. My dad was retired before he decided to go casual and bought himself some short sleeved shirts. :)
 
More years ago than I am prepared to admit (;)) we use to measure the right length for our mini skirts by holding our arms straight down our sides and where our fingers ended, that was where the hem would be so, the shorter your arms were, the shorter the skirt was!!
 
Trish said:
More years ago than I am prepared to admit (;)) we use to measure the right length for our mini skirts by holding our arms straight down our sides and where our fingers ended, that was where the hem would be so, the shorter your arms were, the shorter the skirt was!!
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From memory, if a young lady ever, unwittingly, showed her underwear, it was always as my grandmother described, robust. Similar to that which the lady players wear at Wimbledon. Flimsy frillies were the bait in the honey trap.
 
horseless carriage said:
From memory, if a young lady ever, unwittingly, showed her underwear, it was always as my grandmother described, robust. Similar to that which the lady players wear at Wimbledon. Flimsy frillies were the bait in the honey trap.
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I was sitting downstairs on a double-decker bus one day and noticed a girl of similar age going up the stairs and the conductor casually leaning against the stair well and looking up. Until then, I hadn't realised the perils of walking upstairs!

Remember the (thankfully) short fashion for wearing what resembled a toddlers dress and matching knickers? A bit like this only cotton and worn during the day? Your grandmother might have thought these bloomers "robust" :)

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I'd say this young woman is dressing her age. She just happens to be spending time with women of a different generation.

She knows she's showing more skin than the others, but it's what she's comfortable with. We all get an opportunity to have our moment in the sun and this is hers. Why not let her enjoy it instead of raining on her parade?

People in their fifties and beyond are well aware that the prime of youth is all too fleeting. Can't help but wonder if some of the uproar is the green-eyed-monster in disguise.
 
StarSong said:
I'd say this young woman is dressing her age. She just happens to be spending time with women of a different generation.

She knows she's showing more skin than the others, but it's what she's comfortable with. We all get an opportunity to have our moment in the sun and this is hers. Why not let her enjoy it instead of raining on her parade?

People in their fifties and beyond are well aware that the prime of youth is all too fleeting. Can't help but wonder if some of the uproar is the green-eyed-monster in disguise.
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I agree with you. Interesting you should mention the green-eyed one, that's what my chap thinks too!
 
I’m sure this wouldn’t apply to any of the Fine Gentlemen on this board, but it seems like men of a Certain Age tend to view any women’s clothing that shows skin or shape as a sexual advertisement or invitation. I’m not saying that’s never true, but most of the time women want clothing that are comfortable, convenient, easy to care for and just look well put together on them, not as a sexual invitation.
I have a relative living on Miami Beach now who sends pictures of beach activities , showing huge numbers of men and women of all ages and sizes just enjoying beach activities of all kinds with practically nothing on enjoying air and water.
The younger generations of men seem to have outgrown the “Hubba Hubba” mentality.
 
Em in Ohio said:
Was she dressed up better for the actual wedding ceremony? I know it is fairly common for people to change into more comfortable clothes for receptions. I've even seen brides change out of wedding gowns and show up to their reception in jeans. My only complaint with that was that it ruined the formal photo ops for the amature photographers.
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This was in the very early seventies and NO one changed into jeans that I ever knew back then. Yes she had a beautiful lace dress for the church wedding. She was grateful we spoke up. So I'm glad we did. She was my favorite aunt. :giggle:
 
IMO it depends..is it a situation where they could change to be more 'appropriate'? If not for sure say nothing..if they could make an adjustment it would depend on how well you knew them.
 
Tish said:
I think she looks lovely.
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No arguments from me, and really you can wear more or less whatever you want, "in the right context", (bikinis have been around for most if not all of my life, and why should anyone care on a beach, though maybe inappropriate at the supermarket in winter! :) ).

Can I bore the pants off everyone now by mentioning "evolution", (I'm asking but assuming you're all up for it of course!)?

If every female walked around as " intended in the garden of Eden",(juxtaposing mythology and science now!), then no one could argue with the young woman mentioned in the OP obviously, (she'd be considered very modest by comparison you'd have thought!).

However, "covering up bits", and revealing "things" considered enticing creates a whole different ball game doesn't it! :)

The fashion industry is built upon it, everything from "flashing a well turned ankle" in more stead times, (maybe in our parents youth?), to see through tops worn by those brave enough at expensive dinner parties or gala balls.

We don't want to stop this do we, even if we could, someone who can make the most of their looks, (and assets!), is doing no one any harm, and probably doing themselves and the rest of us interested in these things a lot of good. :)

Where does all this fit in with evolution you might ask? Well I'd suggest we all have a picture in our minds of what might be attractive, if not something close to perfection, (then reality comes into our minds, and aware of our own shortcomings we decide we can settle for something less than our ideal).
Try telling me this has nothing to do with the partners any of us might choose, (or have chosen to start a family with back when!).
 
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Trish said:
More years ago than I am prepared to admit (;)) we use to measure the right length for our mini skirts by holding our arms straight down our sides and where our fingers ended, that was where the hem would be so, the shorter your arms were, the shorter the skirt was!!
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I remember those days -- only it was a male teacher who supervised the measuring. Since for some strange reason, my mother liked mini skirts, in junior high, I had plenty of them. They rarely passed the test, and my best friend and I had to stay in the locked classroom during the 20 minute morning break.

The teacher was obsessed with something "bad" happening to us if we hung out with the general population.
 
grahamg said:
No arguments from me, and really you can wear more or less whatever you want, "in the right context", (bikinis have been around for most if not all of my life, and why should anyone care on a beach, though maybe inappropriate at the supermarket in winter! :) ).

Can I bore the pants off everyone now by mentioning "evolution", (I'm asking but assuming you're all up for it of course!)?

If every female walked around as " intended in the garden of Eden",(juxtaposing mythology and science now!), then no one could argue with the young woman mentioned in the OP obviously, (she'd be considered very modest by comparison you'd have thought!).

However, "covering up bits", and revealing "things" considered enticing creates a whole different ball game doesn't it! :)

The fashion industry is built upon it, everything from "flashing a well turned ankle" in more stead times, (maybe in our parents youth?), to see through tops worn by those brave enough at expensive dinner parties or gala balls.

We don't want to stop this do we, even if we could, someone who can make the most of their looks, (and assets!), is doing no one any harm, and probably doing themselves and the rest of us interested in these things a lot of good. :)

Where does all this fit in with evolution you might ask? Well I'd suggest we all have a picture in our minds of what might be attractive, if not something close to perfection, (then reality comes into our minds, and aware of our own shortcomings we decide we can settle for something less than our ideal). Try tellig me this has nothing to do with the partners any of us might choose, (or have chosen, to start a family with back when!).
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First impressions? I think most of us are (sometimes subconciously) influenced by those first few seconds of meeting someone, whether it is a dating situation or a job interview.

I never did have a picture in my mind of what might be attractive but I had an idea of what sort of person I would be attracted to. Your post made me wonder about this aspect a bit as so many younger people are on dating sites now and they swipe one direction or another if they find the person attractive or not, all based on looks.
 
WheatenLover said:
I remember those days -- only it was a male teacher who supervised the measuring. Since for some strange reason, my mother liked mini skirts, in junior high, I had plenty of them. They rarely passed the test, and my best friend and I had to stay in the locked classroom during the 20 minute morning break.

The teacher was obsessed with something "bad" happening to us if we hung out with the general population.
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Oh yes! Didn't your school skirt have to be below the knee?
 
Trish said:
Do you mean whether they are attractive or not?
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As a former stand-up comedian, I am morally opposed to explaining jokes.

But I will say, that nude people can be enormously funny.
 

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