Over 70 And Living Alone.......

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PinkRose

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As of this moment I feel desperate. I have no family left at all!.....I was a model and had a fantastic social life, but the way my life worked out that disappeared due to circumstances I won't get into. I got into credit card debt and am desperate to move out of my tiny apartment in Brooklyn, New York! There is nothing to do here and no places to go to especially since the pandemic!...I want to live in a community where I can meet other people in my age bracket, however, I don't look like your typical older adult!....I exercise 7 days a week and am still very attractive and don't look my age at all! So where can I go "alone" without money and not knowing "anyone"?.. Would have loved to meet someone as a "partner" for marriage, but I am very picky and most of these older men are pretty awful on the Internet!....I am not giving up and don't ever want to, but I am running out of resources!...With this pandemic it has made everything ten times worse especially for "older adults". I was a "social butterfly" and I did a 380 degree turn the past 10 years or so! Any suggestions on a community for me?...Originally, from Florida, but what can I afford now? And, you need a "car" which I don't have!!!......A real problem!!! Any help out there in the "Cosmo"???..........Thanks!!!
 

I really feel what your saying. The pandemic is still a problem too. Loneliness at old age is rough, especially when you are a people person. Which I am, and it sounds like you are too. I do have a partner and when she leaves for her day at work, sometimes I miss her A LOT. :) I hope you find somewhere/someone that you are comfortable with soon...GOOD LUCK
 
so many places cheaper and better to live...with transportation to and from....needed trips....
there's a lady who writes a diary in here called...Reflections of my life...in diary section...
you should give that a good read...
she's not far from you..
she had good advice...
also ...welcome...everyone is mostly...nice here
 
Have you heard of meetup? It’s a way of meeting friends with similar interests. Go to the website and check it out. I think living in the city with public transportation may suit you for now. Volunteer work is free and a good way to meet people also. I wish you luck. I’m starting a new chapter in my life. I know how you feel.
 
I am not trying to rain on your parade but picky men and picky women tend to forever live by themselves. There are no perfect people for them. Too bad! We should look for good men and good women. Forget the perfect! That is junk that is given to us by TV and advertisers.

My former mother-in-law, who is dead now, always had 4 criteria for the perfect man:
1. Tall
2. Handsome
3. Good Dancer
4. Rich

Of course, she never met that perfect man. They were never good enough and of course, she died a widow. There is a moral to this story for all of us.
 
Many ladies like us are on this forum. We are alone.
You have to realize others don't bring you happiness.
You make your own happiness.
We may not be as incredibly gorgeous as you but
we are damn good women and ready for a relationship,
should one present itself.
Be self actualized and develop more than just your looks.
What you give out will attract a like soul to you.
Realize a relationship is not a necessary thing in this life.
You are alive! Enjoy every moment of life!
 
Gaer said:
Many ladies like us are on this forum. We are alone.
You have to realize others don't bring you happiness.
You make your own happiness.
We may not be as incredibly gorgeous as you but
we are damn good women and ready for a relationship,
should one present itself.
Be self actualized and develop more than just your looks.
What you give out will attract a like soul to you.
Realize a relationship is not a necessary thing in this life.
You are alive! Enjoy every moment of life!
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Well said.
 
Best of luck. It tain't easy. At 73 am another fit attractive one sadly living alone but am looking forward to living the remaining years of my life with a compatible woman with similar interests. A self sufficient person like myself I won't need to support. I will never use dating apps or services so it depends on meeting people through mutual activities.
 
I agree with what @Gaer wrote. Even if you found someone, that doesn't guarantee happiness. You are responsible for your own happiness. Men can spot lonely, desperate women a mile away and some are eager to take advantage of them. A woman who is confident, independent and smart is desirable to most of the men I've heard talking about what attracts them to a woman. Obviously, you are an attractive woman so that should be a plus.

Have you searched for programs that could help you financially? I know it's tough when money is tight. Have you searched for free activities you can participate in, which would likely lead to the opportunity to meet new people? I find it hard to believe there isn't access to such things in N.Y.C. Best of blessings in finding what you need. In the meantime, I think it does help those who are lonely when they participate here on our forum.
 
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You don't need to meet a man. You need to make friends. If you find some kind of activity to get involved in you will make friends. Make friends with women and I am sure you will meet men too. It doesn't sound like you need to look for a man, they will find you. But you need to be out where they will see and meet you. Maybe the library, a senior center, a church, some kind of club or activity that interests you. Even walking a certain route daily will get you out and meeting people.
 
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