Where does our preference for a significant other come from ?

Blessed said:
You best be careful or you are going to find out that an exciting adventure could cost you everything you hold dear.

Get a hold of yourself, I have never heard a more selfish statement. You say you have a wonderful wife but can't help but thinking about excitment. I wonder what you will think when you are alone, no one to love or take care of you. I think the thrill of thinking about it would be long gone then, just like your wife.
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Why is this a sensitive topic for you?
 

It is not a sensitive topic for me, it just makes me sick that men, even in later years, that have a women they are married to say is wonderful and yet they still think of other things.

Do you ever wonder that she might thing she could do better. That she could move on and live a different life? No, I bet you had not thought of that option.
Get over your self. Be thankful that you have a good wife that cares for you. Ig you want to get out there and sow your old oats, by all means, go for it and see how that works for you. Just let your wife know and I am sure that she will let you persue your dream, to end up broken, alone and pathetic because you perfer to leave in a dream world instead of reality.
 
Can’t defend when you are right. I wonder how many of us fancied the thought of connecting with another person, romantically or otherwise?
 

I know I didn't, I married the right man and now that he has died, I have no interest in finding another. I am happy to wait and see if there is a place on the other side that we will be together again.
 
I think it's pretty well agreed that our actual actions are what define us. God forbid it should be our thoughts. If that were true, I would require institutionalization.
 
I sort of understand what guys think is attractive, but women amaze me. Woody Allen-a sexy, virile, hunk??????? Some women claim that a guy's intelligence is attractive. But most women also check out a guy's feet, hands, and his height.
 
fuzzybuddy said:
I sort of understand what guys think is attractive, but women amaze me. Woody Allen-a sexy, virile, hunk??????? Some women claim that a guy's intelligence is attractive. But most women also check out a guy's feet, hands, and his height.
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feet, hands, and his height? I would venture they also occasionally admire a guy's ass. Although most may deny that.
 
fuzzybuddy said:
I sort of understand what guys think is attractive, but women amaze me. Woody Allen-a sexy, virile, hunk??????? Some women claim that a guy's intelligence is attractive. But most women also check out a guy's feet, hands, and his height.
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Woody Allen is just proof that when women say their prime attraction to men is their intelligence and sense of humor -- they actually mean it. Men, not so much.;)
 
senior chef said:
I have always wondered how it is that I came to fancy a "certain look" in girlfriends? And why I'm not the least interested in a different look that other men find very attractive ?
Take my friend for example. He found Salma Hayek extremely attractive, but she leaves me cold. On the other hand, the girls that I found attractive, left him cold.
Curious.
I sure would like to know how people come to fancy a certain type ?
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Salma Hayek, mmmm
 
Perhaps its from our parents. I loved the talents of my father and think therefore, preferred a "man's man" although many male "friends" didn't fit that profile. Its not looks only but attributes that seem to have attracted many of my female friends...like "he makes me laugh", etc.

Also think women often look for a "project" if you know what I mean.
 
Murrmurr said:
I think we are attracted to people we believe will fulfill our needs....psychological, spiritual, educational, security; various needs. And as we gain more life experience and our needs change, the people we're attracted to reflect those changes.

When we're very young, like 15 to 18, we're attracted to people who bear some resemblance to our mom or dad, either in mannerisms or physical appearance. I think that's because moms and/or dads are still fulfilling our needs at that point (generally speaking). You're even likely to be attracted to people who are similar to your abusive parents.
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I don't believe any of that. When I wS young I was attracted to lots of different looking girls. I think people way over think this stuff looking for some deep meaning.
 
Nationality/skin colour has never entered into my mind when I was dating. Personality & character is what's important.

Living in a multicultural society, I had a lot of friends of different nationalities where I went to school .. the same, once I moved East.
 
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Blessed said:
You best be careful or you are going to find out that an exciting adventure could cost you everything you hold dear.

Get a hold of yourself, I have never heard a more selfish statement. You say you have a wonderful wife but can't help but thinking about excitment. I wonder what you will think when you are alone, no one to love or take care of you. I think the thrill of thinking about it would be long gone then, just like your wife.
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He felt comfortable enough here to be honest. I see nothing that indicates a willingness to throw his life away on a whim.
 
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garyt1957 said:
I don't believe any of that. When I wS young I was attracted to lots of different looking girls. I think people way over think this stuff looking for some deep meaning.
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Well, like I said, "I think", meaning my opinion, what I believe could be happening. And my brain didn't implode or anything, a good sign I didn't over-use it to come up with that thought.
 
senior chef said:
I have always wondered how it is that I came to fancy a "certain look" in girlfriends? And why I'm not the least interested in a different look that other men find very attractive ?
Take my friend for example. He found Salma Hayek extremely attractive, but she leaves me cold. On the other hand, the girls that I found attractive, left him cold.
Curious.
I sure would like to know how people come to fancy a certain type ?
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