grahamg
Old codger
- Location
- South of Manchester, UK
"You are just a man who is yucky", (or "He is just a man who is yucky"!
My response:
"Yes I am a man who is yucky, but nonetheless all these things I am besides being undoubtedly yucky.
I am the man chosen by your own mother to be her boyfriend and then she became my fiancée, and her husband for seven years, so all told your mother and I were in what we might have been expected to believe, was a loving relationship, (your mother declaring this to be the case in church in front of your gran, my whole family, and assembled friends and if there is a God, then God too!).
I am the man too, had I not walked this planet, and none of my antecedents walked this planet, then you could not have been born, so I am as unique as that fact demands, and you as my only child are equally unique yourself and unique to me!
That may not seem so important to you, or in any way comparable with the contribution of the man you and your mother declare is the "real daddy", but as the influence of our inheritable characteristics is better understood, (and you will understand far better than I do I would guess), even what happened in our antecedents lives can be somehow passed on to the child, along with their DNA, (my DNA, and my parents DNA making up roughly half your own genetic material of course).
You may not know it but it is fortunate too that my being called Yucky by you does not stop my loving you, (perhaps you did know that was the case, and in which case I'm glad you had that feeling you could say just as you wished regardless of anything else related to me!).
Your indifference to me once you had revealed to your grandparents, (my parents obviously), the real reason why you didn't see me from the age of twelve, is a greater test of my love I admit, but so what, I would not have wished you to be any different than the person you are, and there may be the slightest of silver linings if all those on this forum who disagree totally with my views on the subject of fathers/parents rights, and the "best interests of he child principle" can be even in the smallest degree, lead to appreciating their own firm opinions might just not be 100% infallible on this subject.
"I can wish for no more", (as this admittedly ""very yucky", and no doubt very annoying man, "who refuses to move on as so many tell him he must do for a plethora of reasons"!
).
My response:
"Yes I am a man who is yucky, but nonetheless all these things I am besides being undoubtedly yucky.
I am the man chosen by your own mother to be her boyfriend and then she became my fiancée, and her husband for seven years, so all told your mother and I were in what we might have been expected to believe, was a loving relationship, (your mother declaring this to be the case in church in front of your gran, my whole family, and assembled friends and if there is a God, then God too!).
I am the man too, had I not walked this planet, and none of my antecedents walked this planet, then you could not have been born, so I am as unique as that fact demands, and you as my only child are equally unique yourself and unique to me!
That may not seem so important to you, or in any way comparable with the contribution of the man you and your mother declare is the "real daddy", but as the influence of our inheritable characteristics is better understood, (and you will understand far better than I do I would guess), even what happened in our antecedents lives can be somehow passed on to the child, along with their DNA, (my DNA, and my parents DNA making up roughly half your own genetic material of course).
You may not know it but it is fortunate too that my being called Yucky by you does not stop my loving you, (perhaps you did know that was the case, and in which case I'm glad you had that feeling you could say just as you wished regardless of anything else related to me!).
Your indifference to me once you had revealed to your grandparents, (my parents obviously), the real reason why you didn't see me from the age of twelve, is a greater test of my love I admit, but so what, I would not have wished you to be any different than the person you are, and there may be the slightest of silver linings if all those on this forum who disagree totally with my views on the subject of fathers/parents rights, and the "best interests of he child principle" can be even in the smallest degree, lead to appreciating their own firm opinions might just not be 100% infallible on this subject.
"I can wish for no more", (as this admittedly ""very yucky", and no doubt very annoying man, "who refuses to move on as so many tell him he must do for a plethora of reasons"!
).
