This will be my last move…..where will your last move take you.

Teacher Terry said:
I helped my friend move into such a facility in January. No waiting lists locally because you have to show you have sufficient monthly income and significant savings. He paid 3100 for a one bedroom apartment. Recently his needs increased due to Parkinson’s disease so he is paying 6k for a studio. The prices go up to 8k/month depending on your needs. The government never helps so it’s probably why there’s no waiting. It’s perfect for him and very nice.
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Wow. That’s $72K for a studio. At $8K, that’s basically $100K a year. That’s a lot of money to have saved up.
 

Teacher Terry said:
I helped my friend move into such a facility in January. No waiting lists locally because you have to show you have sufficient monthly income and significant savings. He paid 3100 for a one bedroom apartment. Recently his needs increased due to Parkinson’s disease so he is paying 6k for a studio. The prices go up to 8k/month depending on your needs. The government never helps so it’s probably why there’s no waiting. It’s perfect for him and very nice.
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In my search for this type of living, I was never asked for proof of equity.
If and when my needs increase there is no rate increase…..the only rate increase is viewed every October, possible, 1.75% to 2.25%,which is due to inflation.
Sorry about your friends health issues.
 

I was window shopping on line for a small dinning table for my future suite…..I found some nice small round pedestal ones with what looks like sturdy bases……no wobbles.
My dining table is too large.
This table is the only piece of furniture I need to buy.
Have a floor plan with measurements of the suite……so what I have left should fit nicely without crowding.
 
Teacher Terry said:
money coming in monthly also as do most retirees
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Unfortunately, there are a lot of retirees--I know some personally--for whom the only money coming in monthly is social security. And I know a few--some widows, who because they never worked outside the home, don't even have social security coming in. There are more people like that than people realize.
 
officerripley said:
Unfortunately, there are a lot of retirees--I know some personally--for whom the only money coming in monthly is social security. And I know a few--some widows, who because they never worked outside the home, don't even have social security coming in. There are more people like that than people realize.
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I agree with you, whole heartedly.
I’m so thankful I paid into CP, saved , invested, selling the farm definitely helped with retirement.
Please don’t take me the wrong way, I’m not boasting, just was in the position to make choices.
I live within my means.
We too have seniors on very limited living income. I do feel so deeply for them, with the cost of living increases so high, it’s a tough go for them. And after working so hard in their lives and the reward of retirement is not of their wishes and or what they were hoping for. Wish the world was kinder to those.
 
officerripley said:
Unfortunately, there are a lot of retirees--I know some personally--for whom the only money coming in monthly is social security. And I know a few--some widows, who because they never worked outside the home, don't even have social security coming in. There are more people like that than people realize.
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I am well aware as I spent my career in human services. Teaching was my retirement job. Women that are married can collect half of their husband’s SS as can women that are divorced and were married 10 years. Then there’s SSI for poor people.

My friend had to show proof of his savings to move in. I am guessing he will have yearly increases. Despite taking excellent care of himself he has a big list of health issues that are all serious. I feel bad for him as he is a wonderful person. We worked together for the state. It’s one of the reasons I want to take a few more trips as you never know when that’s no longer possible.
 
Teacher Terry said:
Women that are married can collect half of their husband’s SS as can women that are divorced and were married 10 years. Then there’s SSI for poor people.
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Half of my husband's monthly SS would be $97.50. When my poor late mother-in-law was turned down for SSI, she had to get an attorney who told her that in this state, all applications for SSI are automatically denied; they figure that anybody who really deserves it will get an attorney and sue for it. I heard that from another attorney (estate) as well. Luckily, the atty. helped her to get the SSI; her husband had never gotten SS--only worked jobs where he was paid under the table--so the SSI and $$ from 2 of her kids was the only thing she had coming in.
 
Sorry in advance……for this somewhat rude post.

There will be someone, my X, that will have a whole lot of time on his hands, once I move.
At least once a day, sometimes more……he slowly cruises up one of my side streets, then my front street, then my other side street.
There’s a clear view of my place from all these streets……and if he doesn’t see enough, he will cruise the back lane behind my place.

What will he do with al his extra time, not wearing out my streets.😉🤨😏.
 
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Just a note of other benefits, in my future home…….
There is a community kitchen for residents to use as you wish, bake, cook, to your Hearts content.
If you have family or friends visiting……and you want to spend time in the kitchen, to makes things, residents are always welcome to do so.
Wellness visits and checks are readily available, on site 24/7 whether it be physical support, spiritual support, or for mental support.

If a person doesn’t feel up to eating in the dining room. Room service is available to you…..no extra cost.
Yes I will be the new kid on the block…….yes, I’m sure some will have their own little groups.
Which is no different than here in town, or anywhere else for that matter.
 
MickaC said:
Just a note of other benefits, in my future home…….
There is a community kitchen for residents to use as you wish, bake, cook, to your Hearts content.
If you have family or friends visiting……and you want to spend time in the kitchen, to makes things, residents are always welcome to do so.
Wellness visits and checks are readily available, on site 24/7 whether it be physical support, spiritual support, or for mental support.

If a person doesn’t feel up to eating in the dining room. Room service is available to you…..no extra cost.
Yes I will be the new kid on the block…….yes, I’m sure some will have their own little groups.
Which is no different than here in town, or anywhere else for that matter.
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Sounds really wonderful, wish I could afford something like that, oh well my huzz wouldn’t move somewhere like that even if we could, a place like that would be h*ll to him.
 

where will your last move take you​


If my lady passes before me, I'm selling this place and moving back to the cabin

No communities or homes for me

If I get too decrepit, I'll find an old shack on the Oregon coast and make my way to the local watering hole...'til I can't...

Then just lie there in my shack, in my filth, smelling the sea air....'til I can't
(I won't be breathing)
 
Gary O' said:

where will your last move take you​


If my lady passes before me, I'm selling this place and moving back to the cabin

No communities or homes for me

If I get too decrepit, I'll find an old shack on the Oregon coast and make my way to the local watering hole...'til I can't...

Then just lie there in my shack, in my filth, smelling the sea air....'til I can't
(I won't be breathing)
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What if you pass before your lady, are things set up to take care off her. My husband was diagnosed with terminal cancer. He never once would talk to me about it. I knew we had everything covered, taken care off but was not prepared in any way to be without him. It was never about money, it was about being without him. Do you have children that will look after her and help cope in a life without you. That is what she will need. A soft place to fall, to know she is not alone in the world.
 
Blessed said:
What if you pass before your lady, are things set up to take care off her. My husband was diagnosed with terminal cancer. He never once would talk to me about it. I knew we had everything covered, taken care off but was not prepared in any way to be without him. It was never about money, it was about being without him. Do you have children that will look after her and help cope in a life without you. That is what she will need. A soft place to fall, to know she is not alone in the world.
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Yes
As 'set up' as they can be
Financially, and physically, she'll be comfy
Main reason we moved to town

Yes, we have children
and grandchildren (17 of 'em)
She's pretty well covered there too

I advised her to take another mate
She's such a wonderful woman
Hate to see that go to waste
(she says she can't....but she will)

If we both get decrepit and linger, well, it'll be interesting...for somebody
 
Gary O' said:
Yes
As 'set up' as they can be
Financially, and physically, she'll be comfy
Main reason we moved to town

Yes, we have children
and grandchildren (17 of 'em)
She's pretty well covered there too

I advised her to take another mate
She's such a wonderful woman
Hate to see that go to waste
(she says she can't....but she will)

If we both get decrepit and linger, well, it'll be interesting...for somebody
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If anything happens to you I would doubt she would take another, much like me and my husband. I know to well when we say we can't it really means we can't, we won't. That was why I asked if something happened to you, would she be okay. Just wanted to make sure for her in case since I have lived it, my husband made sure I would not have to worry about things if he was gone. Of course we did not think that would happen at such a young age (51) but it did. She is very lucky, like I was to have a man that thought of our well being just in case.
 
You are going to have to trust me on this one, if something happens to you, there will not be another that will touch her heart and soul. She will thank God everyday for you and your life together. She will not even think that she could have that with anyone else. You know what, that is okay, to have such love and dedication that no one else could come close, she knows what a blesssing she was given.
 
Blessed said:
You are going to have to trust me on this one, if something happens to you, there will not be another that will touch her heart and soul. She will thank God everyday for you and your life together. She will not even think that she could have that with anyone else. You know what, that is okay, to have such love and dedication that no one else could come close, she knows what a blesssing she was given.
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Yes
We've had that
for 53 years

True, it's irreplaceable

I surely could never find or seek another

I've thanked God every day for giving her to me
(saving myself from myself)
...and, of late, for me being able to get her a place in town
where her garden can flourish
She loves it so
 
Gary O' said:
Yes
We've had that
for 53 years

True, it's irreplaceable

I surely could never find or seek another

I've thanked God every day for giving her to me
(saving myself from myself)
...and, of late, for me being able to get her a place in town
where her garden can flourish
She loves it so
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@Blessed and @Gary O':
I feel that way about DH (44 years together) and know he feels the same toward me.

People's disrespect toward their spouses (even on this very forum) never ceases to amaze me. They don't realize that those snide remarks and scornful nicknames speak far greater volumes about who they are than about who their spouses are.

I've been asked to write six wedding ceremonies over the years. (I write them, DH performs them.)
Always included is a very close version of the prayer I composed for the very first wedding:

Heavenly Father, we thank you for this glorious day, for the love surrounding us, and for the opportunity to witness the joy of this very special binding of two hearts.

We ask that you shower your blessings on this marriage.

Father, may these two always treat each other respectfully, speaking kindly to one another and about one another.

Help them to honor each other's likes and dislikes, thoughts and opinions, dreams, joys and fears.

May they find the courage to grow, evolve and move forward.

When storm clouds brew, please remind them of the glorious radiance of their love on this day.

Should they lose sight of the sun, help them remember that it remains ever-constant above the storm, awaiting the moment it can break through and again warm their hearts.

Finally Lord, please strengthen their marriage with resilience and laughter, bless them with long, healthy lives, and bring them great joy.

Amen
 
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