Gaer
"Angel whisperer"
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Why?
Do you think people are mostly nice or mostly mean?
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Lewkat
Senior Member
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- New Jersey, USA
I think it depends on the various eras we are involved in. For the most part, average folks try to be nice, but as the ages have progressed, we seem to have become so thin- skinned, that many take umbrage at the slightest remark they believe is offensive. Hence, the snarkiness that abounds these days.
Consequently, it varies. Naturally, there are people who are wired differently and are mean and nasty regardless, while others are delightful to be around. Fortunately, the latter is in the majority.
Consequently, it varies. Naturally, there are people who are wired differently and are mean and nasty regardless, while others are delightful to be around. Fortunately, the latter is in the majority.
David777
Well-known Member
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- Silicon Valley
If a person positively cares about how others they wish to associate positively with perceive them, they are not going to be negative around them whether strangers or acquaintances. Put a Boston Red Sox fan in a Boston bar it's all jolly happiness. But same person in a Manhattan NYC Yankees bar may bring out negatives. So yeah it depends.
Emotional responses to most life situations are unnecessary. So generally, being neutral, unemotional shows wisdom. Personally am a fan of Spock and gravitate to those like others. That is especially true in professional work places. That noted, it is true there are significant numbers of people that cannot discuss much of anything without being emotional.
Emotional responses to most life situations are unnecessary. So generally, being neutral, unemotional shows wisdom. Personally am a fan of Spock and gravitate to those like others. That is especially true in professional work places. That noted, it is true there are significant numbers of people that cannot discuss much of anything without being emotional.
squatting dog
We don't have as far to go, as we've already been
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- Arkansas, and also Florida
Seems like stupidity has over taken and replaced any nice or mean designation. Now, I'm not the sharpest knife in the draw, but, when I start looking smart, that's proof enough there's been a definite downturn in folks brain power.
Packerjohn
Packerjohn
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- Canada
I would say that 95% of the people are just nice and normal. It's the other 5% that you will find on the 6 o'clock news on the telly! The media loves the perverts, crazies, rapists, child molsters and just plain crazy killers.
I'm with the 95% so you will never see me on your news. Not sorry at all!
I'm with the 95% so you will never see me on your news. Not sorry at all!
palides2021
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- MidAtlantic, USA
I agree with what @Packerjohn said - most of the people are nice. 
Hey @Lewkat !
I'm Irish
....and my skin is thin
onion paper thin
I 'take umbrage'!
Jus' kiddin'
This ol' dawg don't bite
aaaaand....I really don't know what umbrage is
Plus I'm havin' a cookie right now
Nobody can be mean while eating cookies
There should be coolies baking every minute, in every corner of the earth
Nathan
SF VIP
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- High Desert- Calif.
I think the majority of people have the inherent strength of character to be nice. There's always a percentage of folks that suffer from their personal frailties that cause them to be mean.
SeniorBen
Senior Member
I think a lot of people do evil just to fit in with other evil doers or to profit financially. Or both. Just look at what the people of Germany did in the '30s and '40s. That was a lot more than just "5%" who participated. 5% was probably the percentage who resisted or rebelled, if that.
(For a tangent, see Godwin's law.)
(For a tangent, see Godwin's law.)
Judycat
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- Pennsylvania
Most people are so paranoid, that if terrified, they will join together with a mob and kill whatever is scaring them.
I agree it takes all kinds to make up this world. But I have found that, at least initially, people try to be pleasant when you meet them. Generally speaking I am comfortable saying there are more nice folks in the world than the mean ones. But it is the meanies who get all the attention.
Warrigal
SF VIP
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- Sydney, Australia
In my experience mostly nice, even generous and kind.
However nice goes out the window when it becomes necessary for a school principal to ask parents to visit the office for a chat about their child's behaviour.
However nice goes out the window when it becomes necessary for a school principal to ask parents to visit the office for a chat about their child's behaviour.
Do you think people are mostly nice or mostly mean?
There's a nice person in every mean person
likewise
There's a mean person in every nice person
I'd much rather be around a mean person, than a nice person
When the nice person is found in the mean person, it's lasting
Lifetime lasting
When meanness is finally resurrected from a nice person,
things can go bat shit crazy
Never know what they're gonna do
They don't even know what they're gonna do
We are all a mixture of good and bad, and we respond to the people and situations we find ourselves in.
Everyone has the potential to be a bully, as the internet has proven. It's amazing how quickly people will band together and start victimising someone on sites like these.
Everyone has the potential to be a bully, as the internet has proven. It's amazing how quickly people will band together and start victimising someone on sites like these.
"People are basically good at heart." Anne Frank
Speaking from personal experience, when I was growing up in the sixties, people were much nicer, overall, than they have become. Older people, and I mean folks even older than me, are usually the nicest and most helpful of all. I don't know the reason for this, just judging from experience.
Speaking from personal experience, when I was growing up in the sixties, people were much nicer, overall, than they have become. Older people, and I mean folks even older than me, are usually the nicest and most helpful of all. I don't know the reason for this, just judging from experience.
When I meet one of those nasty people who want to put folk down, I usually tell them....
"I'm the ugliest, smelliest, grumpiest and meanest fella on this planet, so what is it you want to say to me, oh, you can't think of anything 'orrible, then try saying something nice, that would be a first for you?"
"I'm the ugliest, smelliest, grumpiest and meanest fella on this planet, so what is it you want to say to me, oh, you can't think of anything 'orrible, then try saying something nice, that would be a first for you?"
They usually reply, "You're honest too!"
Lara
Friend of the Arts
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- Mid-Atlantic Coast
Have you ever noticed how some people visit another country and complain about how mean the locals were there, but then someone else visits the same country and says the locals there were all nice?
Mostly, it depends on how we treat others. If we are disrespectful, snobby, act entitled, and mean then we can expect the same in return. If we are nice, they will be nice...though there are exceptions of course.
Mostly, it depends on how we treat others. If we are disrespectful, snobby, act entitled, and mean then we can expect the same in return. If we are nice, they will be nice...though there are exceptions of course.
I think two things have made us all meaner in the last few years, the internet which allows people to say awful things to each other with no consequences, and politics which seems to be more divisive now than any time in my memory. Growing up, I never heard my parents discuss politics at all, I doubt if they knew or even cared very much how their friends voted. Now it's breaking up families and long time friendships.
My son came home sad the other day because his favorite customer, an older woman who shared his interest in philosophy and would talk Camus and Kierkegaard with him, happened to be in line when another woman came through in a political T-shirt and his friend told her how much she liked it. Now he's disillusioned.
Why do people have to, literally wear their politics on their sleeves, shirts and cars? They know it's going to make 50% of the population upset? I can't play online hearts without one of the players giving themselves a username that tells you which politician they hate.
My son came home sad the other day because his favorite customer, an older woman who shared his interest in philosophy and would talk Camus and Kierkegaard with him, happened to be in line when another woman came through in a political T-shirt and his friend told her how much she liked it. Now he's disillusioned.
Why do people have to, literally wear their politics on their sleeves, shirts and cars? They know it's going to make 50% of the population upset? I can't play online hearts without one of the players giving themselves a username that tells you which politician they hate.
Pappy
Living the Dream
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- Florida (transplanted New Yorker.)
I believe mostly nice. Letās face it. Most of us moved to our 55 or over community to live out our lives here. When some here passes, most folks here are so kind and thoughtful to the grieving family. We all know the end is coming soon, so why be hateful?
You just described me. I'm normally easy going, polite, patient, etc. but if I hit a breaking point...let's just say you don't want to be on the receiving end.
