If You Want to Live Longer, Get Married

Married people definitely live longer than single people. They (in theory at least) provide each other with love and companionship, watch out for each others' health, etc. I've been unhappily married, single, and happily married, and I would vote for happily married as the best way to live.
 

There was a song:
"If you want to be happy for the rest of your life,
Make an ugly woman your wife.
From my personal point of view,
Get an ugly girl to marry you!"
(Kingston Trio, I think)

Let's see,
I've been unhappily married
and happily married.
I've been unhappily single
and happily single.
Wait, What is the question?
 
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Nathan said:
Well, a lot would depend on the bride and groom in question. Or, it could be a living hell. In general, if the relationship is healthy and good, having a life companion boosts all the feel good hormones and endorphins and actually favorably impacts health.


A pet will love you unconditionally, can't say for certain about a human, who generally look out for their own self interest...
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I read somewhere that pets help keep their owners live longer. However I think this kitten may be the death of us yet!
 

Remy said:
Well my stepfather put up with all my mother's abuse, screaming and raging and so far he's lived 4 years beyond her. I can only attribute it to his good physical genes as there is a lot of longevity in his family, both sides.

I'm on my own because of that house I grew up in. Yet there are times that really drive it home that I'm alone, such as having to scramble to get someone to take me to and from my cataract surgery. They refuse to let you go by cab or car when I would have been fine. That's why I was so happy to have only local numbing (which my surgeon stated some people can't handle, they have to go to the surgery center) with my carpal tunnel surgery. Drove myself there and back after surgery. No sedation.

Being forced to get someone to take me to those cataract surgeries when I had no one really made me realize how on the fringe of society I'm on. And they could care less about you, it's only to protect the MD and business.
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I agree that longevity is primarly in our genes. So [regarding that] there is no advantage to being married IMO . I was told the same thing about 'complicated' oral surgery [ I need a driver] so I just skipped it , as I had no one. I have since discovered that there are nurses that can be hired for such things. If I decide on the surgery ? I'll hire one of those. I'd rather pay big $$ to a professional, than to put up with a live-in PIA.
 
Remy said:
Well my stepfather put up with all my mother's abuse, screaming and raging and so far he's lived 4 years beyond her. I can only attribute it to his good physical genes as there is a lot of longevity in his family, both sides.

I'm on my own because of that house I grew up in. Yet there are times that really drive it home that I'm alone, such as having to scramble to get someone to take me to and from my cataract surgery. They refuse to let you go by cab or car when I would have been fine. That's why I was so happy to have only local numbing (which my surgeon stated some people can't handle, they have to go to the surgery center) with my carpal tunnel surgery. Drove myself there and back after surgery. No sedation.

Being forced to get someone to take me to those cataract surgeries when I had no one really made me realize how on the fringe of society I'm on. And they could care less about you, it's only to protect the MD and business.
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I sure understand. When I signed my daughter up for school, I had to provide an emergency contact, and I didn't have anyone. I had to ask a woman I barely knew if I could put her name on the form. So humiliating!

As for getting home after surgery ... At least they let you take a taxi here, or they used to.

Once, after I'd driven to another town for an eye exam (where they dilate your pupils), the eye doctor told me not to drive home. What??? Of course I drove home. What was I supposed to do? Leave my car where it was (overnight parking not allowed), and take a taxi to a motel?
 
rgp said:
I agree that longevity is primarly in our genes. So [regarding that] there is no advantage to being married IMO . I was told the same thing about 'complicated' oral surgery [ I need a driver] so I just skipped it , as I had no one. I have since discovered that there are nurses that can be hired for such things. If I decide on the surgery ? I'll hire one of those. I'd rather pay big $$ to a professional, than to put up with a live-in PIA.
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I'm really sorry you had to skip that surgery. It's wrong what these MD offices do. I was actually told if I didn't have someone to drive me home, they would cancel my surgery. I didn't know there were people you can hire. Perhaps from a home health agency? It's good to know if it's needed in the future.
 
NorthernLight said:
I sure understand. When I signed my daughter up for school, I had to provide an emergency contact, and I didn't have anyone. I had to ask a woman I barely knew if I could put her name on the form. So humiliating!

As for getting home after surgery ... At least they let you take a taxi here, or they used to.

Once, after I'd driven to another town for an eye exam (where they dilate your pupils), the eye doctor told me not to drive home. What??? Of course I drove home. What was I supposed to do? Leave my car where it was (overnight parking not allowed), and take a taxi to a motel?
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I don't have an emergency contact either. My stepfather doesn't work with his hearing loss and caption phone. I don't want to utilize him anyway.

You can drive after eye dilation as long as you have shades. I wear expensive prescription glasses so I got some fit over sun glasses. They work.

I wonder if it's because you are in Canada that they will allow a taxi home. Here in the U.S., it seems it's just worry about their liability. It's not real concern for the patient.
 
rgp said:
IMO, those that proclaim this are those men that cannot take care of themselves . They need a mommy/wife just to get through the day.

I also believe this is promoted by women that think they are indispensable , and have convinced their husbands of such.
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I don't need anyone to convince me. I can't use most of the electronic gadgets in the house (smartphone, CD player, etc) and can't cook worth a damn. I need a "mommy" in the worst way. Always have - -always will.

Spent a lifetime working on highway construction projects and handled all of the problems there but at home, my wife rules - - -thank the Lord.:D
 
Remy said:
I wonder if it's because you are in Canada that they will allow a taxi home.
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What they don’t know …….. Same goes for an emergency contact ……. Once you walk out of the doors, they don’t have a clue what you’re doing.

I’ve gone for a procedure where umpteen forms needed to be filled out, bottles of medications brought alone. Nothing was every looked at. They asked a different set of questions again before doing anything.
 
Jules said:
What they don’t know …….. Same goes for an emergency contact ……. Once you walk out of the doors, they don’t have a clue what you’re doing.
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Oh absolutely! They even asked one of my rides, a former co-worker, if she was going to stay with me for the day. I knew that question was coming so she was prepared to tell them yes, which was a lie. I wasn't even groggy after the cataract procedure and medication. I can certainly understand not driving with those medications in your system. But people are fine to go home in a cab or car and as adults, we have the right to make that decision. But they take the right away.

Yes, questions and forms they never pay attention to.
 

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