Senior Dating

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Years ago I watched a documentary by a 40-year-old film maker Steven Loring called, "Age of Love". The documentary followed 8 seniors (70 - 90 years old) in a speed dating event in Rochester, New York. Loring asked the question, "Do our hearts & desires change over a lifetime?" It was sooooo touching & tender. I cried for an hour. Watch it on youtube. Bring tissues!
 
RandomName said:
Dang! I knew it! And I guess they don't want to even date a guy since they might get 'trapped' into something long term?

I am kind of leery of having that happen to me, actually. I go out with someone, and like them just well enough to keep going out, then wham! a 'relationship' has formed! OMG ! NO !

I suppose I am really on the fence here. I do want a kind, supportive, loving woman to have and to hold. But it can go bad so easily, right? I need to think positive, lol.
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As long as the two of you go in with the intention neither of you are looking for anything serious...you should be ok. If I was single, I would date but not sure about a serious relationship. He would have his own place and I would have mine. Dinner at his place sometimes and dinner at mine....but no sleepovers šŸ¤£ šŸ¤£
 
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Years ago I watched a documentary by a 40-year-old film maker Steven Loring called, "Age of Love". The documentary followed 8 seniors (70 - 90 years old) in a speed dating event in Rochester, New York. Loring asked the question, "Do our hearts & desires change over a lifetime?" It was sooooo touching & tender. I cried for an hour. Watch it on youtube. Bring tissues!
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I have to check that out...thanks for sharing.
I wasn't able to find it. I saw a 2 minute trailer.:cry:
 
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Right Now said:
Well, I but the brakes on dating for 12 years after my divorce. Too much hassle, not on the same page with what a soft date was, too controlling after one date, expectations glaring at me, and more.....I'm not that great of a catch, but I can be entertaining at times.:) I'm now considering perhaps finding someone to date occasionally, nothing too heavy, just enjoying new company. Now, if only I can find what I did with that stick to beat them off 'cuz the line was too long.....I want to be prepared.:unsure: I'll worry about the s***** attraction at a later date. After I finish laughing at myself posting this nonsense.
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Ladybj said:
As long as the two of you go in with the intention neither of you are looking for anything serious...you should be ok. If I was single, I would date but not sure about a serious relationship. He would have his own place and I would have mine. Dinner at his place sometimes and dinner at mine....but no sleepovers šŸ¤£ šŸ¤£
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Right Now said:
@RandomName , good for you! You must be doing something right! The second date would be a perfect one for me, starting with the agreement to go as friends. That lets both off the hook for calling it a date.
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Hi guys! I thought they deleted this whole thread for getting too racy. Just found it again!

Update on my scene. I am in hot and heavy with the 'animal magnetism' girl I met and asked out for ice cream. See my previous post about the 'hottie'.

All I wanted was to have someone to kiss and hold and be close to. She agreed to go out as friends only, so I thought it would not necessarily even get to the kissing and holding stage, but it did, and we both liked it. Neither one of us wanted to be in another 'relationship' but here we are. She is gung ho on us as a couple. And I suppose I am, too.

I think about asking other women out, and she said she was OK with that, but I haven't actually done so. Feels like I would be 'cheating' on her, even though she is OK with it.

She sleeps over at my place about once every 2 weeks. We only go out once or twice a week.
I pay for the dates, and she likes it that way. Me too, I guess.

We can't keep off one another. It's like being teenagers.

I brought up the subject of V****a, (pharmaceutical enhancement for doing the deed) and she says I don't need it. I think I do, but I am too embarrassed to mention it to my doctor. We do alternatives to straight regular s*x for now.

I sort of don't want to even analyze it anymore, just let it develop.
 
RandomName said:
I brought up the subject of V****a, (pharmaceutical enhancement for doing the deed) and she says I don't need it. I think I do, but I am too embarrassed to mention it to my doctor.
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Get the prescription!

Its easy, and your doctor gets this request all the time, should not make you uneasy. You'd be surprised how common it is. And it might improve your enjoyment, if it does its well worth it. If not nothing ventured nothing gained.
 
Northern Light, I can well understand how it might have felt fake.

My ex had prostrate cancer, surgery, and came out of it with his prostate intact. He had a very young doctor who gave him the V without asking, just recommended it. My ex never had trouble before, and I told him not to take it. But, he did, and I felt like the pill stimulated him, not me. I never felt the same toward him after that.
Difference is if you think it may help, take it. But if things are going well, why mess with nature?
 
NorthernLight said:
After 3 years I found out he'd been taking it. I felt betrayed -- like it had all been fake somehow.
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Honestly I don't know much about it, I don't take it. However as I understand it all that V does is increase blood flow to the area, making more things possible. It does not stimulate feelings. Nothing fake about that.
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if things are going well, why mess with nature?
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Yep, I'd never suggest someone take any drug, no matter how benign, if they don't need it.
 
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Life goes on without using deodorant, or face creams, or lipstick and a host of other products that relate to how a person feels about themselves. So taking a certain pill might not be any different than not wearing lipstick or using a face cream that may enhance, or at least make that person feel better about themselves in a particular situation. So whether a person "needs" a certain pill depends on that person's own perception. What is the possibility that SHE would not wear lipstick if He said SHE didn't need it?
 
Alligatorob said:
I understand, no one wants to feel that way, no matter the reason.
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Hi guys.

I'm glad people are responding to my V dilemma. I got the feeling no one wanted to discuss it, lol.

My main concern is pleasing my 'hottie'. She says she doesn't want me to get the V, that I don't need it, but that it is my decision. So she won't leave me over the issue. (By the way, I am kind of surprised some women would prefer their man NOT get V. That definitely surprised me, in a good way.)

I almost wish V didn't exist, so I wouldn't have to worry about it, lol. We would just have the s*x life we now have, and apparently, she would be happy with that. And so would I, I suppose.

Thinking back on my earlier posts, about what I want out of a relationship, I said I was extremely lonely, I wanted emotional closeness and someone to be with, and hug, and I must have mentioned love somewhere too, lol. And I was shy about asking women out, and I assumed they would reject me if we couldn't have basic straight s*x.

I am not lonely any more, and I have tons of emotional closeness with my new girl. I'm going to chill out about the V for now.

You guys are great for listening! Thanks.
 
Pepper said:
@Aneeda72
why can't a senior man be horney? or woman for that matter?
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OMGosh, I didnā€™t say a senior, man or woman, could not be horney. Where do you see that I wrote that? I said seniors can not be like teenagers. And I called šŸ’©on what is being written. And I supported and agreed with what @Blessed said.

But @Pepper I certainly support everyoneā€™s right to be horney, no matter what their age.

After all, birds do it, bees do it, even little tiny fleas do it, so why shouldnā€™t seniors do it? šŸ˜Š. As for the use of V-words, idk.

As far as senior dating, well, I doubt my husband would object as long as I brought back take out to him. šŸ˜‚
 
Way to go Pepper! Nothing wrong with being horny and acting on that feeling with like minded partners! And why is ****** targeted?? (Come on, we can't say the V word??) People take meds for depression, heart conditions, blood pressure control, weight loss, insomnia, menopause therapy etc., etc., etc.
 
RandomName said:
Hi guys! I thought they deleted this whole thread for getting too racy. Just found it again!

Update on my scene. I am in hot and heavy with the 'animal magnetism' girl I met and asked out for ice cream. See my previous post about the 'hottie'.

All I wanted was to have someone to kiss and hold and be close to. She agreed to go out as friends only, so I thought it would not necessarily even get to the kissing and holding stage, but it did, and we both liked it. Neither one of us wanted to be in another 'relationship' but here we are. She is gung ho on us as a couple. And I suppose I am, too.

I think about asking other women out, and she said she was OK with that, but I haven't actually done so. Feels like I would be 'cheating' on her, even though she is OK with it.

She sleeps over at my place about once every 2 weeks. We only go out once or twice a week.
I pay for the dates, and she likes it that way. Me too, I guess.

We can't keep off one another. It's like being teenagers.

I brought up the subject of V****a, (pharmaceutical enhancement for doing the deed) and she says I don't need it. I think I do, but I am too embarrassed to mention it to my doctor. We do alternatives to straight regular s*x for now.

I sort of don't want to even analyze it anymore, just let it develop.
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I agee.. don't over analyze it - go with the flow. Enjoy the relationship where ever it made lead. Don't expect too much and you won't be disappointed. If she says you don't need V-enhancement - you don't. She will let you know.
 
RandomName said:
And I guess you haven't had the good fortune, in a good while, to be 'all over each other' in the front or back seat of a car, on the first few dates, yes, like we used to do as teenagers. I'm sure there are lots of seniors doing exactly that, every night of the week. Why not?
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Happy to hear your story. Enjoy that "magnetism" its a magical feeling!
 
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