How weird is this?

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jimintoronto

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A younger woman ( age 29 ) that my Wife knows , recently lost a baby that was still born. Unfortunate, but it does happen sometimes. A few days ago, we received an envelope in the mail, addressed to my Wife. She opened it and found a greeting card. On the card were two little hand prints and two little foot prints in black ink. The card had the name that the couple had decided to name the baby girl, with the date of the still birth. I was revolted. Apparently there is a woman who goes to the hospital morgue and makes prints of the dead babies hands and feet and then creates these death cards, for money.

What do you think of this ? I was disgusted. JimB.
 

Most people would probably find that weird or disgusting - much like some people find it weird to keep ashes.
It is rather nutty to send a greeting card like that.
 

If I understand your post correctly there is a woman that makes these cards to sell to people that want a remembrance of their child. The card your wife received was from a 29 yr. old friend of your wife that recently lost a child that was still born.

I don't think remembering what was lost that was to be a joy in that womans life is weird. Really sad but not weird. Not something most would do but then differences is what makes us all unique.
 
RadishRose said:
I don't know what to make of it!

How is the mother making money from this?
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The Mother paid a woman who creates the cards. I am not sure how that women gets access to the dead baby in order to make the ink impressions . They look like tiny hands and feet imprinted on the card. My Wife also thought it was gross. JImB.
 
jimintoronto said:
The Mother paid a woman who creates the cards. I am not sure how that women gets access to the dead baby in order to make the ink impressions . They look like tiny hands and feet imprinted on the card. My Wife also thought it was gross. JImB.
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That IS weird.
I wonder how the poor mother would be assured that these prints are genuinely those of her stillborn.
 
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jimintoronto said:
The Mother paid a woman who creates the cards. I am not sure how that women gets access to the dead baby in order to make the ink impressions . They look like tiny hands and feet imprinted on the card. My Wife also thought it was gross. JImB.
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Not necessarily from the 29 yr. old still born. Making a card from something like I posted in #9 would be very easy. People do all kinds of things to remember their children. Carrying a child & having it still born had to be very hard on the woman. The fact that she named the still born tells me she wants to remember & her way is to send a card. Weird for some but for me sad for that woman.
 
If it helps the woman whose baby was stillborn to accept her loss who am I to judge? Don't know if I'd hang it on the wall though, or put it on the mantle. I'm getting used to things like this. When my son asked me to come to a gender reveal party I thought it was for one of their friends who was coming out as trans. Boy was I embarrassed. Gotta get with the times.
 
I agree, if it helps the mother of the baby , that's great..if it's what she wishes, and she's paying for it , all good and well.. altho' I would imagine it's open to fraud..after all, all baby's hand prints and foot prints are the same , and no-one can check on a dead baby afterwards.. all that said.. what on earth was the woman doing sending it out on a card to friends and neighbours ?.. that's very weird IMO
 
To me the weirdness is only in sending a greeting card 'announcement' thing. Tho perhaps they didn't get needed sympathy cards because people who knew were unsure if acknowledging the loss would comfort or add to the parents' pain. The idea of having the keepsake sounds like a tool, tho maybe not for everyone, to help the parents grieve. And this could be a generational difference thing. The way younger generations are more open about relatives with mental health issues and about getting therapy themselves than the Greatest Generation or even most Boomers were/are.
 
I can understand if the parents wanted something to memorialize their lost child, hand prints cast in stone or bronze or even in ink that they could make a plaque out of. I don't believe I would send prints out to people, though greif affects us all differently.

Maybe mom and dad felt it best to announce the loss of their baby to family and friends.
That could certainly head off any future awkward encounters where people ask "how's the new baby"?
 
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