Living Alone

One day last year a friend stopped by and we were talking about life, he's known me for many years but still doesn't get me. I have mostly lived alone for over ten years and he made the comment how he feels "sorry" for me living alone all those years. I could only laugh and shake my head and reply that I feel "sorry" for those afraid to be alone. He's a guy that if his wife goes away for the night she arranges for their daughters to go over and have dinner with him so he isn't alone.

And yet he feels sorry for me.lol
 

Well I have been widowed for almost 9 years. I moved out of my 5 bedroom house last year into a retirement community, in a 2 bedroom cottage. Lots of friendly neighbors and plenty of activities. I see one or more of my daughters and their families on a regular basis. (One of them stayed with me and my dog for a couple of years after my wife passed away.) My golden doodle is my constant companion. All in all, this is a pretty good life. Would I wish it otherwise?
 
I'm okay with it.
It's going on 10 years since my husband died, and I had to figure out this "alone" thing.
I did have other options at the time, but chose not to burden my kids families with 'old grandma' around their homes. That just didn't seem right to me.
I'm very happy with my decision to go it alone.
 

spectratg said:
Well I have been widowed for almost 9 years. I moved out of my 5 bedroom house last year into a retirement community, in a 2 bedroom cottage. Lots of friendly neighbors and plenty of activities. I see one or more of my daughters and their families on a regular basis. (One of them stayed with me and my dog for a couple of years after my wife passed away.) My golden doodle is my constant companion. All in all, this is a pretty good life. Would I wish it otherwise?
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I too, had to sell a large home, furniture/belongings, and a couple cars .... that project took about a year to complete.
When the dust settled, I moved into a one bedroom apartment in a Senior Community, which is near my old neighborhood, and family/friends.

What I really don't miss, is the stress of home ownership with its maintenance, repairs, taxes, etc.
Keeping up a swimming pool was a monthly problem too ... I wanted no part of it anymore.



PS ..... how large is your golden doodle?? My daughter has one that will turn 1 year old on Christmas Eve ... he is well over 100 pounds right now, and over 3 ft. across the center of his back .... shetland pony size!
 
JustBonee said:
I too, had to sell a large home, furniture/belongings, and a couple cars .... that project took about a year to complete.
When the dust settled, I moved into a one bedroom apartment in a Senior Community, which is near my old neighborhood, and family/friends.

What I really don't miss, is the stress of home ownership with its maintenance, repairs, taxes, etc.
Keeping up a swimming pool was a monthly problem too ... I wanted no part of it anymore.



PS ..... how large is your golden doodle?? My daughter has one that will turn 1 year old on Christmas Eve ... he is well over 100 pounds right now, and over 3 ft. across the center of his back .... shetland pony size!
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My dog Maggie is about 92 pounds. My problem was getting my daughters to finish cleaning out their childhood home (stuff gathering dust in the basement)--so whatever they did not want went to "got junk" after I gave them an ultimatum!
 
ive never lived alone , from leaving home to get married aged 18 to my ex
apart from when my hubby was in hospital 3 months x twice....
but i was at the hosptital from 10am until 7pm eveyday so it was only the evening
i did get used to it....but not sure if i could live with out my hubby....
but ALONE ? Yes thats the next option i guess !!
 
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