Dying at Home

Jules

Jules

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Many people want to pass away at home. Would this bother you?

If you knew about it when buying a house, would you change your mind. If so, would you think to ask about it. We once considered a lake cabin and knew there was a suicide there. We didn’t like the location so didn’t follow up on it. I don’t know if the realtor told other people about it. Should it be declared.
 
I think an unsolved murder death would make me worry whether there was a secretly evil neighbor. But other than that a death in the house would not bother me (as long as it was cleaned up, not sure how I'd feel if the body had turned to dust and gotten all over the place).
 
What about ghosts? When the family home was being built 60 years ago, a worker died in an accident. A friend insisted that there had to be a ghost there. Never saw one in 45 years. Nor was there any sign of one when my SF passed away at home.
 
Jules said:
Many people want to pass away at home. Would this bother you?

If you knew about it when buying a house, would you change your mind. If so, would you think to ask about it. We once considered a lake cabin and knew there was a suicide there. We didn’t like the location so didn’t follow up on it. I don’t know if the realtor told other people about it. Should it be declared.
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I don't think it should be declared, but I'm pretty sure a property seller has to disclose certain types of recent deaths. That might vary from state-to-state, idk.

But anyway, disclosure is bound to put some buyers off, and it would cause certain others to experience paranormal activity that they wouldn't experience if they didn't know someone died there.

I bought our house for Michelle, knowing she'll almost certainly outlive me. She knows I might leave this world by my own hand. She said that IF she sells the house after I'm gone, it won't be because I died here, it would be because it's too depressing to live here without me. (we've already talked to her sister about moving in after I die)
 
In some states, such disclosure is required.
In California, for example, any death on a property (peaceful or otherwise) needs to be disclosed if it occurred within the last three years. The seller must also disclose any known death in the home if the buyer asks.
 
Rented a house south of Atlanta back '93-'95. The previous owner died in the home. There was indeed a presence there. Felt it on occasion. Unsettling. My grandson, ten, who was living with us for a bit refused to sleep in the guest room. He was terrified. Since then, have always inquired as to the previous occupant.
 
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Why?
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That's a good question and I will give you an answer but you may not understand. I don't believe in ghost or evil spirits, I'm not religious, not superstitious, not even afraid of death.

What I am is OCD, in my mind suicide and murder are dirty deaths. Not so much dirty as in messy but dirty as in un natural and un reasonable, and that would cause me runaway thought cycles that I would constantly obsess over.

Best to avoid triggers.
 
Yes, I get that but who is to say if their energy their ghosts remain behind. They may very well want to help others avoid pitfalls, dangers that they may have suffered. I guess for me, it would be okay, I prefer to look at it that way, also if people die at home in peace, they would stay to protect the home and the people in it.
 
In my neighborhood, a friend of mine was murdered by her husband. She was bludgeoned to death. An old school chum of mine bought her house and of course he knew about the murder, but he was a funeral director by this time so he didn't flinch. Realtors do have to tell you if there was a murder or suicide in a place that they are trying to sell. In my state they do.
 
My one and only ghost story involves moving into a house that, unknown to us, the previous occupant had died in only days before.

When we looked at it, there were a couple of pieces of furniture left there that the landlords said "Bob" would be picking up shortly. We signed a lease and started moving in a couple of days later.

All moved in, I hung several baskets and trays on the walls of the hall. Every morning, some of the baskets would be on the floor. One night, a flugelhorn that I had hanging on the wall was on the floor, leaning on the opposite wall. Our daughter denied having anything to do with it and I figured maybe there was a draft that was knocking the baskets and stuff off the walls. Gradually over the next few weeks, the strange incidents tapered off and then stopped.

After we had been there about a month, I finally spent some time speaking to the lady next door and she asked me if it bothered me living in a house where someone had died so recently. WHAT? Apparently the previous resident, "Bob", a 65-year-old alcoholic had died sleeping on his couch during the night. His girlfriend found him the next morning when she came by. The landlords had moved his stuff out immediately and listed the house for rent within a couple of days of his death. We moved in less than a week after his death.

Of course, they hadn't mentioned this little fact to us and, in fact, had flat-out lied about it when they told us that "Bob" was coming by to pick up the furniture. Bob, my rear end!

There is a theory that ghosts are just souls that don't realize they are dead or, for some reason, aren't able to transition. Some are sad, some are angry, some are destructive. I don't believe in ghosts......but I don't disbelieve in ghosts, either. I just try to keep an open mind. Maybe the stuff falling off the wall was "Bob", rampaging around the house, pissed as hell that people were living in HIS house. Maybe after a couple of weeks, "Bob" was able to move on. Who knows? All I know is that nothing ever fell off the walls again.
 
I've witnessed many deaths. Sorry, the heavens don't open up, angels don't sing, and bright lights don't leave the body. Granted this was in a hospital, with only "natural" deaths. Yet, I think victims, who died there because of gunshots, stabbings, strangulations, poisonings, attempted suicides, etc might be considered, "murdered". And yet, no one who walks into those rooms knows what happened in them an hour before. Of course, if one has death related beliefs, the mind is boundless.
 
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Yes, I get that but who is to say if their energy their ghosts remain behind. They may very well want to help others avoid pitfalls, dangers that they may have suffered. I guess for me, it would be okay, I prefer to look at it that way, also if people die at home in peace, they would stay to protect the home and the people in it.
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Well, Sometimes they hang around for a while. If their children are going through their things, or are in deep distraught over the death, they often stay a short while to make sure their loved ones will be all right without them.
They might not have adjusted to the movement of the soul and need to feel connected to something, or someone, feel remembrances before moving on. The Holy Angels beckon them when it's time to lift to a different vibration.
If one dies horrifically, the soul may stay for what we consider a long, long time in linear years because the soul may be in fear of the unknown.
and the atmosphere seems to hold a "tension" when this happens. It's important they "let go" of this lifetime.
When my family died, I felt them with me for about three months to six months before I no longer felt their presence. It was so much longer with the death of my husband.
 
Where I live, prospective buyers must be told if someone died in the house. (I don’t know the details, e.g., how far in the past.)

I'm a renter. As far as I know, I'm not entitled to the same information. As others have pointed out, neither are hospital patients, hotel guests, etc.

No, it wouldn't bother me that someone had died in a place I was about to inhabit. Bad things can happen anywhere.
 
fuzzybuddy said:
I've witnessed many deaths. Sorry, the heavens don't open up, angels don't sing, and bright lights don't leave the body. Granted this was in a hospital, with only "natural" deaths. Yet, I think victims, who died there because of gunshots, stabbings, strangulations, poisonings, attempted suicides, etc might be considered, "murdered". And yet, no one who walks into those rooms knows what happened in them an hour before. Of course, if one has death related beliefs, the mind is boundless.
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That's a very good point... Why are hospitals not over-run by ghosts of people who've died ?.. :unsure:
 
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