One important life lesson you have learned.

Underock1 said:
Yes! ..and its all small stuff. I lost my partner of 58 years last week. We had a great life together. We always agreed on the big things, but there always seemed to be some little thing to disagree over. When you are first going together, aside from the raging hormones, your entire focus is on how much you love each other. Then the petty details of life begin to intrude. The two months my wife spent in the hospital before her death were some of the most loving ones of our life. We had a long, loving goodbye time. Laughed, talked and looked back on a happy life. Being separated from each other had removed all of the trivia. It was like lifting a veil. The look in her eyes was the same one I saw so many years ago. It was like "Oh. I remember you!" Life is relentless. The details of every day living have to be dealt with, but nothing is more important then loving each other.
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So sorry for your loss, it must be especially hard when you have been happy together.
 

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maddyathome said:

So sorry for your loss, it must be especially hard when you have been happy together.
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Thank you Maddyathome. It is. Remembering hurts, but you desperately want to hang on to every shred of memory.
I'm doing better. Finding you guys has helped. So far I haven't found anyone on here that I haven't liked.
 
So sorry for your loss, Underock. Sounds like you had a wonderful life together and many good memories.
 

Thank you Americot. We did. We were that rarest of couples who truly were each others one and only. Met her when she was sixteen and married her at 18. We had the whole set. Two great boys, twin grandsons, who we half raised. Never a problem with any of them. It was good.
 
Underock1 said:
Thank you Americot. We did. We were that rarest of couples who truly were each others one and only. Met her when she was sixteen and married her at 18. We had the whole set. Two great boys, twin grandsons, who we half raised. Never a problem with any of them. It was good.
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How wonderful! My parents had a marriage like that. I didn't find my one and only until I was 48 after having two bad marriages (although I got two wonderful sons and two granddaughters from one of them). But better late than never. :)
 
Underock1 said:
Yes! ..and its all small stuff. I lost my partner of 58 years last week. We had a great life together. We always agreed on the big things, but there always seemed to be some little thing to disagree over. When you are first going together, aside from the raging hormones, your entire focus is on how much you love each other. Then the petty details of life begin to intrude. The two months my wife spent in the hospital before her death were some of the most loving ones of our life. We had a long, loving goodbye time. Laughed, talked and looked back on a happy life. Being separated from each other had removed all of the trivia. It was like lifting a veil. The look in her eyes was the same one I saw so many years ago. It was like "Oh. I remember you!" Life is relentless. The details of every day living have to be dealt with, but nothing is more important then loving each other.
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What a beautiful story. I am very sorry for your loss. You are an inspiration.
 
Underock1 said:
Yes! ..and its all small stuff. I lost my partner of 58 years last week. We had a great life together. We always agreed on the big things, but there always seemed to be some little thing to disagree over. When you are first going together, aside from the raging hormones, your entire focus is on how much you love each other. Then the petty details of life begin to intrude. The two months my wife spent in the hospital before her death were some of the most loving ones of our life. We had a long, loving goodbye time. Laughed, talked and looked back on a happy life. Being separated from each other had removed all of the trivia. It was like lifting a veil. The look in her eyes was the same one I saw so many years ago. It was like "Oh. I remember you!" Life is relentless. The details of every day living have to be dealt with, but nothing is more important then loving each other.
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Thanks for sharing your loving and sweet story, my heart goes out to you, my deepest symapthy...hugs. :rose:
 
Underock1 said:
Yes! ..and its all small stuff. I lost my partner of 58 years last week. We had a great life together. We always agreed on the big things, but there always seemed to be some little thing to disagree over. When you are first going together, aside from the raging hormones, your entire focus is on how much you love each other. Then the petty details of life begin to intrude. The two months my wife spent in the hospital before her death were some of the most loving ones of our life. We had a long, loving goodbye time. Laughed, talked and looked back on a happy life. Being separated from each other had removed all of the trivia. It was like lifting a veil. The look in her eyes was the same one I saw so many years ago. It was like "Oh. I remember you!" Life is relentless. The details of every day living have to be dealt with, but nothing is more important then loving each other.
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Thank you for this lesson, Underock. You had a good long life together and many would envy you that. I'm so sorry for your loss.
 
Forgiveness is to put your own heart at rest, and not particularly for the benefit of those who have wronged you.
 

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